what are the top 5 things you look for in a guy? eg. looks, money, personality...
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what are the top 5 things you look for in a guy? eg. looks, money, personality...
looks, personality, height, how they dress, ect. i'm not too concerned about his money. i got my own bling.
I look for : a sense of humor, intellengence, compassion, independence and physical attraction. (physical attraction doesn't mean they have to be super hot, but that sparks fly.)
Just my opinion, but I hope that helps.
We seem to be so preoccupied with lists. lol
Okay, here's mine (be aware it's the combination of these things that make someone a great person, not any one thing on it's own)
Personality.......sense of humour is a MUST!!
Ambition.......to the point that he must WANT to work for a living, (of course unless he's filthy rich lol)
Easy to get along with......but NOT a push over
Good looking, (not an Adonis, but there must be chemistry)
Intelligent..........hate one sided dicussions, or someone who constantly asks me what the words I'm using mean.
:)
LMAO - i use alot of words ppl dont understand - and then at the same time they know words that I dont understand - so you really cant look at things that way - unless he is just an idiot that only uses 4 letter words :D
lol Billy :lol: I meant when it IS one sided and he's always asking me what the heck I mean. It's cute at first, but it can become irritating very quickly.
oh - you said OR the first time - so i figured it was two seperate things - lol
I the kind of guy that loves to talk - I can talk about just about anything - I have a broad range of knowledge. Its funny how much I know and I never took classes on any of it - lol
Seriously - test me if ya want - talk to me in PM tonight at about 6 or 7pm CST (4 or 5 hours from now). Thats when I get on the computer at home - I have no messengers here and its really not a fun place to talk - too much damn delay and page reloading and crap. Not fun :P
But yeah - PM me tonight - choose any messenger - i use them all - lol
I don't know about that Billy. I saw what you wrote in the Cybersex thread. :sinister: lol lol
What did I say ? I already forgot...
*goes to check now*
LMFAO !!! I remember that now !
that aint a bad idea - I could have cyber with you like that - I will bust out with my magic cape and wizard hat :lol: :goofy:
LMAO :lol:
wait a minute..........you weren't SERIOUS were you?? :horror: :horror:
:goofy: lol
uh Breezy? :surprised
hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
Okay, sorry mom. But HE started it!! :stuckup:
you need a time out girl! go to your room...think about what youve done. :goofy:
Oh man! This tough love sucks big time!
Sorry for getting off topic qwerty! :(
hey look at this way-hes getting the idea of what women are looking for! OR NOT!!!!
1)Money important for men.It influences them very much.When a man has enough money to be independent and can allow to him give us some adventages-it is one man,when a man has no enough money-he will be unsure of himself and i really do not like it.I am attracted by men who are sure of themselves.I do like it.But there is enough of boys,men who have no anything because they are young or for other reason and they feel quite ok and do not against girls to pay for them,they even want it :tough:.
I would not like it at all :shocked:. I like a man was a man.I do not against if a man,better to say a boy what still depends on his parents has no money,that's all right,it is suppose to be that way,but it would be bad for me if he expected me to pay for him all of the time and since he has no much money his own,he should think up something interesting how he and his girl can spend their time great without spending much money and he has to be sure of himself :P .I think that every girl wants to feel herself safely with her boy,man,etc.Just i have another story.My man is much older me and of course he has money,i can not say that it means something to me that he has MONEY,but he is sure of himself,he got the things in his life which he wanted and it feels clear,he is the real man for me,he will never blame me for stupid reason just because everything irritates him cos he has no what he needs.It is very-very important for men to be able to get what they need,so,maybe then i should write that i also appreciate,like,respect purposeful men.
2)Good sence of humor :) .Really important.Life is difficult and having sence of humor helps us take things easier.And i just like it.
3)Responsibility.No comments :stuckup:.
4)Personality.Hmm,difficult to describe.It mostly feels.I am just quite attracted by the man i love,everything i wrote and will write in this topic will be about him :P . By personality i mean something what can not be seen by eyes,maybe behaviour or energy,something what differ him from others,ooohhh,it seems to be a fat chance to try to explain what i mean.
5)An age difference because of the reason i wrote above,since "old" men have it much more and they know what they want,how to get it and ....and they are good experienced.
It was my opinion.But i am sure if i loved an young boy I would write here how great it is to be with young boys,i just love,i love the man who older me,i love him because i love him,not because he can give me something,so,take this out of your heads and try to be how you feel.You will meet your girls who will love you because you are the way you are,what will be wrong to her(from what you have)-you can fix it together if you think that it is worth it.It is like to try to teach someone to kiss,we can talk about it endless ,but anyway,when it happens the first time..you will forget everything what you knew about.Men,boys should be the way they are and do not try to pretend to be someone else.
So,hope you will catch my English :goofy:.
Ok I havent said much in this thread-but MONEY is NOT always the reason for attracting a woman-if you have it. For me if youre confident and youre stable does it for me. I dont have to have someone whose got a shitload of money-thats not what attracts me to a man-its his confidence. Along with a lot of other things...which Im exhausted in trying to explain.
But if a woman wants you just for your money-dump her. Shes a gold digger-high maintenance gal-who could keep up. I dont get impressed by 5 star hotels or 5 star restaraunts-expensive cars or wines-thats just so material-and doesnt hold a candle next to a man who knows who he truly is-(without the dollars).
So Im gonna say for the most part here-woman like a man whose got confidence-which means for you -just be yourself!!! Let the rest fall into place.
Well said Squirrley and SO true!
Money by itself-is nothing.When men think or even are sure that if they have much money-they can buy us-it makes me really very sick.I can not stand that.But if look around,there are plenty of girls who don't care about anything,but money,they can be sorry in some time that they sold themselves,but for a while they enjoy it...So,i just want to say,that money can be as additional for having something,but it should not be taken for the first place,no way.Althrough...everyone makes his own dessicion.I had a chance to stayed at expensive hotels with him,we went to expensive restaurants....but firstly i did not see anything around him,i quite did not care expensive or not,quite the contrary after i "tasted" these "great expensive places" i insisted on cheaper places but with taste and cosy,if it is expensive it does not mean that it is good,that's true,but not every time we could go to cheap places for some reason,but now i never want to stay at expensive hotels anymore,yes,it has many adventages,but i can not stand these smiles,masks on hotel's people,I am honest and wait it from people,maybe i just did not get used to it.I enjoy much more from simple places,picnics or something such,where everyone can behave himself freely(that another reason i do not like expensive places,people there are such....beeeeeeeee and they wait the same from you),just when you are in love-everything what is around is not important,really it is. If everyone was in love and that person loved him back,if people appriciated each other at once and try to be better,if they were happy-the world would be much better.
***EDIT***
how would you girls describe or define 'being confident'
Someone whose comfortable with themselves, is happy with themselves, has no voids that need to be filled, carries their pride without being arrogant, someones whose independant-doesnt NEED someone, can do things for themself, self reliant, comfortable with their emotions and in expressing them, has a variety of things that they do, not some mundane couch potato, someone whose out going, isnt afraid of grabbbing life by the horns, enjoys THEIR life and their surroundings, oh hell Ive got to finish watching hockey but you get the idea!
And this is just my opinion-there maybe other ideas of what women find confident...
anything else?
1) Independent - I love being with someone but every now and then I need time to do my own thing and he needs to have his own thing to do as well.
2) Caring - I am a tough chick but I am also all about meeting his needs. I need someone who is interested in meeting mine as well.
3)Sense of Humor - I love to laugh - in high school my history teacher used to say "Life or Cry - its all the same release" I would prefer laughter to tears.
4)Stability - I don't mind the occassional risk, but don't want someone who jumps from job to job or pursues one flight of fantasy after another
5)Chemistry - someone's looks are extremely subjective (Beauty is in the eye of a beholder.) He's just got to be able to make my heart do flip-flops every now and then.
and I needed a number 6 . . .
6)Family Man - growing up my Dad was never around - my ideal man would put his family ahead of his job most of the time and would be there for all the important events.
Jules
lmao - you just described me. except for #5 - that is a bit on the iffy side. I aint hot, but I aint ugly...
I also said looks are subjective - who knows I might think you are hot. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by BillyGalbreath
hehe :D go look in the gallery - I am in there somewhere.. I think...
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Originally Posted by BillyGalbreath
Hmm, I tired to look in the gallery but it said I had to be registered to look in the gallery! (And at the top of the page it says Welcome, jslaughter) So I thought maybe I had logged out but when I clicked the link - it said I was registered!
So sadly I will never know how hot you really are :(
heh - on the gallery you have to log into it also. i believe the is a link at the bottom right, or maybe top right... it is a small link compared to the normal login for the whole site. yeah - try that I guess. I am curious to what you'll think if me now. :lol:
Okay and now I feel silly! I Figured it out about two minutes after I posted and when I came back to try to delete my message I was BUSTED! :lol:
I posted my comments in your gallery
and how would u describe being confident Jules ? or anyone else
Being confident is knowing who you are and being comfortable in that. It's knowing that it's okay to laugh at yourself but it's NOT putting yourself down all the time. It's a way that a man carries himself. It's being able to make eye contact. It's hard to put into words but you know it when you see it!Quote:
Originally Posted by qwerty86
sorry no advertisiments
for me its .. personality, ambition, sense of humor a caring attitude.. n lots of chivalry.. yea if hes rich.. thats a bonus!
"...yea if hes rich.. thats a bonus!..."
Yip, just about sums it up with women, always throw that one in at the end but "it's not important".... yeah.
Like they say, money can turn a bald spot into a part... or a missing tooth into a gap...
In some ways I think asking a woman to name the "top 5" traits of a guy is all BS. Women never seem to really tell you what they want. They always do the "Oh, a sense of humor, someone friendly and polite who treats me nice, someone who treats old ladies, children and small mammals with kindness."
Yeah, ok. Why can't women say what they REALLY want in a guy instead of the same hashed out responses? It's like our society wants guys to really believe this is what women want when they told it's not polite to say what really wets their lips.
"I want a man who can be a MAN, not a little boy. A man who isn't afraid to stand up to me and be his own man. A man who will respect me but respect himself first and never put me above himself, but always letting me think that someday...maybe he will. A man who makes me feel that raw, sensual energy whenever he pulls me into his embrace. A man who lets me express my sexual desires without the hesitation of behaving like a "proper" woman. A man who is confident and will not accept any disrespect I may act out towards him or the relationship and will not give me "chances" to do better.
A man who will not change for me and does not attempt to change me because he respects the woman that I am. A man who will be exciting in his life, work and play and attitude to me but expects me to contribute equally. A man who will share his life with me enough to have trust and faith in, but never share his entire soul with me and always keep a little mystery about who he is. A man who will not cater to my emotional swings, but will be supportive as long as I am respectful, because as a woman, I actually can control my PMS outbursts if I choose to. A man who will not be over emotional and sappy, but can be romantic when I am deserving and make me feel in his eyes as though i'm the only one in the universe.
A man who makes me laugh and smile and appreicates my humor and personality. A man who I can talk with about anything and who enjoys talking with me. A man who knows that only I can make myself happy, regardless of what he can provide or give. A man who expects me to give as much EFFORT (quality over quantity) into our relationship as he does regardless of our work, wages or lifestyle. A man who will be faithfull, and never accepts infidelity from his woman.
A man who will be the protector of his kingdom. A man who can be aggressive when those times are required but gentle enough to never lay a finger on me or use words against me in times of stress. A man who cares about my thoughts and feelings and shares his own but understands that I want to expereince my trials and tribulations through my own merits and do not want an answer to all my problems. A man who understands that I am still learning and growing each day, and that I need to feel every emotion to live and be a woman, regardless of how I feel day-to-day and ENCOURAGE me to strive to grow as an individual, as I support his self-quests.
A man who will LOVE me for who I am and not for what I may give or provide for him and vise-versa. A man who knows that love can wax and wane at times throughout life, but that love can be built stronger as time goes on with hope, compassion, devotion and honesty... or left to flicker and fade and turn to dust with deceit, lies, secrets, absence, envy and pride.
I want a man who makes me feel ALIVE inside!"
Does this sum up anyone's thoughts a little less vaguely?
I didn't say this out of anger towards women. I just feel that most women only express the surface of what they really want AND expect from men and wonder why when they tell a guy "I want you to be funny, be good looking, and confident." they end up choosing as$holes at or abusers at times, then go "I made it clear, where did it all go wrong?"
Of course, you could give every reason I gave and then some and meet some guy who says "Yes, I am all of those things." and turns out to be a jerk. But at least you made it clear from the start instead of psychically trying to PROJECT those feelings of needs/wants onto a guy and wondering why he just doesn't get it.
Maybe if women starting expressing what they really want deep down, they wouldn't have to waste time on chumps and losers no matter how good looking or how deep their pockets are which might sway their decisions. Be true to yourself. This goes for GUYS as well. This isn't a one sided muse by far. Guys need to express what they want to. It's not being needy, it's not being sappy, it's not being melodramatic. Your being REAL and CONFIDENT when you can express what YOU really want and desire and that's attractive deep down.
Don't be afraid to get down to the nitty-gritty when it comes to relationships. It's YOUR life. Why settle for someone who only fits 1/8 th of what you really want in a man/woman? Be true to yourself!
Sure, you can say "Oh Bono, these things all take time and can't all be determined at once!" Of course they can't. Nobody bears their entire mind, body and soul in just one date. BUT....too many people find out soon enough if that person matches their ideals. AND...too many people decide to ACCEPT the flaws that they DIDN'T WANT IN THE FIRST PLACE because maybe that person had 1 or 2 of the traits they wanted and let their heart override what their mind decided beforehand. Use them both! Everything in our body works together for us. Why shouldn't your HEART and MIND be used in conjunction instead of either or?
Be TRUE to YOURSELF! It's a simple idea yet difficult to incorporate into your life. I've been one who has been negligent in this too! Too many times I accepted the flaws in others that I KNEW I didn't want. I denyed myself for selfish reasons and sometimes selfless. But either way, I wasn't being true to myself.
That's they key to this whole mess called life. Be yourself, and be true to yourself. When you do this, you'll find it easier to ATTRACT and IDENTIFY those who compliment you in the right ways. True ways. :)
Ok, I think I may have buried this post under philosophy and opinions. Either way, make what you will of it. Peace.
Comments/complaints appreciated.
sorry Bono there are times I dont have time to get into depth...but when listing traits thats what it is-and the meaning behind them says it...hell I tell Iron all the time what I see in him and why...I think its important to tell that person those qualties that they posess that are attractive...depth is good...
I kinda got on a rant there but the intentions were good. I do believe that it's not LIKELY that people will take the time to get into that detail, nor is it realistic to say such things and get a honest response back. I can see guys making a mad dash for the door if they heard such things on the first date. It's just too bad that we can't be so open and not have the hang ups to hide those important truths and play those silly games of give and take, push and pry.Quote:
Originally Posted by squirrley
I agree that telling someone about the qualities they posses that are important to you. Oftentimes, most guys will be like "Hey, she thinks i'm attractive and a fun guy to be with. I'm the man!" and they'll be satisfied and leave it at that. It's not often a guy thinks "That's great that she sees that but what other traits do I have or could I have that she is interested in?"
Too often, the guy will get lazy thinking he's got enough to keep her satisfied with just existing. And if the woman is hoping that they guy will grow or change or realize that there's more to him that she wants, she might be dissapointed in his unknowing behavior.
Compassionate, Confidence, Sense of Humor, Intelligence, Physically Attractive.