no calls after making out

a long but simple story..thanks for reading

I met a guy from on-line dating. we had a coffee date and a romantic dinner date.

we had a casual kiss after the dinner date, the other day he asked me to go to his place.

we watched a movie and made out, but I resisted to have sex with him ( I do want to but I am a virgin, and I don't want to give it to someone that I am not sure about, he doesn't know this).

He was excited after we made out and you know, he had to finish it by his hands to..release the pressure.

I just watched it and I didn't really do much..then I insisted going home....he begged me to stay longer but finally he drove me home.

during the makeout time, he asked me twice if i wanted to be his girlfriend, and I just joked about it and said that I don't know..

On the way back he said: so we are dating...I said: are we?

before I left his car, he joked: I feel I was used for sex...

Since then, he didn't contact me that night and today as well...


so anyone can give me some suggestions about this situation? did i do anything wrong? do you think I am not gentle/sensitive enough? or maybe he just wanted to take an advantage of me and got me on the bed?

any guys' opinions?

millions of thanks!!!

Celine! WTF! you cheating on me!

He wanted sex. But I am not shure if he ever wanted to have a relationship or not... But still you basically rejected him with the dating part imho.

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Celine! WTF! you cheating on me!

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i am still a virgin:0

So the guy beat one off while you just watched because you didn't want to have sex?

Awkward...he sounds creepy, be happy he's not calling you.

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Originally Posted by boobaa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

He wanted sex. But I am not shure if he ever wanted to have a relationship or not... But still you basically rejected him with the dating part imho.

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how do you tell if a guy really likes you or just want to get you on bed?? or he tries to manipulate me by doing some dating games ??

darn it...relationship is too complicated

...i did get him all excited....

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Originally Posted by 1averagejoe [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

So the guy beat one off while you just watched because you didn't want to have sex?

Awkward...he sounds creepy, be happy he's not calling you.

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Celine, averagejoe is right. That was a very strange thing for a guy to do in front of a girl he barely knows. I would run far, far away if I were you. He was a bullet dodged.

i think he just want sex with you :mask:

It's ok don't feel bad someone like him prob won't be worth it. He's gonna dump you once he gets it.

the best way to know if a guy is just after you for sex is to withold sex for at least, say, a month. The ones just after your vagina won't have the patience to hang around that long.

Not only is it a good filter, for the ones still left, it will increase their respect for you, because for many it is an indicator of self-worth. Additionally, it will make the guy feel like he is being given access to a something of real value, a gift shared by a priviliged few. As opposed to guy #67 just because you were a bit drunk and felt like getting laid.

I remember when I was younger(yea Im still a youngin but you know what I mean :D) I used to think if I had sex with the guy he'd stick around. Well, I learned the hard way that it's the complete opposite. There's a guy I'm currently close friends with and it's been over a year and it still hasnt really happened. He's already stated that he loves the fact that I havent given it up as fast as other girls he's been with. He likes the challenge, and he respects me alot. He wouldnt even allow me to give him head if I asked to do it LOL. He said "I respect you too much" so that told me he didnt respect girls who gave head, i guess. So yea, making the guy wait is a jillion times more worth it when you really think of it. They really respect you more because you respected yourself. They see your worth because you dont throw your pussy around like a ragdoll.

OP, dont worry your head over this guy. If he was a real man, he would have respected the fact that you didnt want to have sex and he would have carried you home no questions asked. Move on.

I've never beat off in front of a girlfriend ... or even my wife. Let the guy be a ghost and not call because he's a weirdo.

Wtf?! Where the ****'s my post?

EDIT:...Ok...LF's been scaring me lately....First I couldnt get on the site at all, now my posts disappear and come back....

He hasn't called, and won't, b/c he was after a quick lay & you weren't spreading. The fact he finished off in front of you is creepy. Stay away from this one.

OV: how many times do we have to tell you: stop doing that shit on the first date, k? ;)

I'm sorry, if a guy started beating himself off in front of me on our second date, I'd get up and leave as soon as he started. That would creep me the **** out.

I would pray this guy DOESN'T call you.

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OV: how many times do we have to tell you: stop doing that shit on the first date, k? ;)

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but ... but....but ...:sad2: I had to play with my wiener.

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Originally Posted by celine [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

i am still a virgin:0

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Good, keep it that way till I get there. On another note all jokes aside, please don't sit in a room with a guy beating himself off. I mean, what did you do? Just sit there and watch? Didn't you feel a bit embarrassed or something? Where are you from? Is that normal over there or something?

aaahhhh.... okay... never beat off while date still present.... well that explains a lot!!!! *taking notes*

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

but ... but....but ...:sad2: I had to play with my wiener.



Good, keep it that way till I get there. On another note all jokes aside, please don't sit in a room with a guy beating himself off. I mean, what did you do? Just sit there and watch? Didn't you feel a bit embarrassed or something? Where are you from? Is that normal over there or something?

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I was in shock... I didn't have experience on this before, so I don't know what is normal and what is not...

so....if a guy was very excited, what would he do if he is in front of your gf or wife? he said that if it is not good for health if a guy doesn't let it out....is that true??

sigh...he was very nice to me...i thought he may be a good guy...how come I have to be disppointed every time? how can i not to get hopes up?

How old are you and him?

What he did is not normal. It's plain weird. I wouldn't even beat one off like that even if I was with a girl for a long time. That's just weird. If I was horny and had a girlfriend or wife, I'd probably do some mutual masturbation or sex...but not just beat one while she just watched. That's weird.

He was a nice guy because he wanted to get into your pants. Not good for a guy's health? lol...is this guy serious? He couldn't have waited till you had left? This guy was full of shit. Like I said before, be happy this guy hasn't called you back, he's a weirdo.

Thats just straight up creepy. What is wrong with some guys...jebus.

They put a scene like that into a movie, celine. You should rent it. It was called "Little Children". Watch it and you will reconsider how creepy it is.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

They put a scene like that into a movie, celine. You should rent it. It was called "Little Children". Watch it and you will reconsider how creepy it is.

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That reminds me of taxi driver, where R. De niro takes a women out to a porn-theater on the first date.

When I saw the scene, it seemed so unrealistic. I couldn't imagine a guy doing it or a woman tolerating it. It's really creepy.

Anyway, Taxi Driver is a great movie!

....I really need some sex education ....

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Originally Posted by celine [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

....I really need some sex education ....

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I'm sure O-V volunteers.... ;)

jokes aside, how old are you?

omg he beat it right in front of you? gross.

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Originally Posted by alter_ego [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I'm sure O-V volunteers.... ;)

jokes aside, how old are you?

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if i say im 25, you probably will laugh at me as I am so naive about sex...

that guy is 10yrs older than me

no-one is gonna laugh at you, but that guy has some serious issues... you should stay away from him.

about the education part, well.... practice makes perfect :)

Celine run! He's crazy. Trust me. It happened to me and he was a real nut in every way imaginable. I wasn't his gf or date! I was just enjoying some music (I'm a music fanatic) and he 'got too horny' and had to relieve himself.

RUN!!! Weirdos are everywhere. There are even nice weirdos but he's still strange. You do not need that in your life.

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Originally Posted by celine [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

that guy is 10yrs older than me

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more reasons to run

Remember this, sexual acts should always be mutual.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

They put a scene like that into a movie, celine. You should rent it. It was called "Little Children". Watch it and you will reconsider how creepy it is.

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That exact scene popped in my head ... minus staring at a children's playground.