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Chicks make you feel bad for no reason at all? When they twist and manupulate you until you feel bad about something that isn't even relevant to a conversation you were having and then they go all quiet and pretend nothing is wrong until you finally get it out of them then YOU have to apologise and feel bad about it. God they piss me sometimes..
There are always reasons, if you can't find them then you might be the reason itself. Try to be more understandable of situations.
If I'm the reason then I wish she would let me know.Quote:
Originally Posted by Nocturne [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Maybe the reason is that she's being a manipulative bitch. :detectiveQuote:
Originally Posted by Nocturne [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
No reason at all? Maybe she thinks it's fun/entertaining/gets pleasure out of it?
Touch'e my friend.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bokonon [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It's weird, she just gets in these moods where we will be talking normal like everything is perfect then all of a sudden she just like shuts off and it seems like something's wrong, so I ask and she says 'nothing, why are you asking?'. So I'm like oh ok just seems like something is up, nevermind it. Then after a few minutes she will say something like oh it was this or it was that and you didn't show you cared? And I'll be like huh!? Then she is all moody for the rest of the day and I end up apologising when clearly I haven't done anything, yet she ends up making me feel upset.
It's only been recently too? Hmm I don't know what it's all about.
oh god! you see this is the difference between men and women at play right here!
ransom - you said something stupid and were inadvertently hurtful coz you didn't take your gf into account - you took her for granted
it could be anything from ignoring the fact that she mentioned she would like or dislike something and you went ahead and decided to do the thing she liked with someone else or you did the thing she disliked or you critisized her indirectly bla bla bla...the list goes on at how insensitive men can be either on purpose or by accident (by accident my arse! are men really that thick?!)
Ahh hang on your saying im insensitive and that I take her for granted? Hahaha ahh your funny eco! That is utter bullshit. Either she is constantly pms-ing or is trying to pick shit from a turd and find things to sulk about at the moment I don't know.Quote:
Originally Posted by ecojeanne [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
lol yup, i think all guys are that thickQuote:
Originally Posted by ransom_nite [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
jus kiddin' ;)
For the record I am definately not thick, although I would agree most guys are.Quote:
Originally Posted by ecojeanne [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
The standard male "Yes dear" is the culmination of tens of thousands of years of man-woman interactions. For that matter, so is "full belly, empty balls" as the recipe for male happiness. You can't fight basic biology, kiddo. Bend like a willow or you'll break in the gale.
Sorry Indi I didn't understand your post haha :)Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Sorry, I'm a bit out of 'posting practice'.
Just saying there's a reason old married guys say "yes, dear" to their wives all the time.
The understand the futility of arguing. Female hormones can make us flighty/bitchy/emotional. Some are worse than others, but generally its just a storm that guys need to weather.
Or did you really not understand the "full belly, empty balls" part? ;) That just says that male needs are relatively simple in comparison.
lol! ransom you're goodQuote:
Originally Posted by ransom_nite [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Ahh that made it clearer haha :DQuote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Just weird that all of a sudden she has been like it that's all? Ahh well just gotta weather it like you said :)
Oh I know I'm good ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by ecojeanne [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
oh ransom! i thought you were takin' the piss not understanding coz i said men were thick
lol
Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying to any guy to be a doormat. Just learn to pick your battles. Guys invented the term 'equanimity' I think to deal with women. And learn to see through that bitchy female exterior. Sometimes there are lovely gals underneath.Quote:
Originally Posted by ransom_nite [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
And sometimes there are horrible bitches. So be ready to cut & run when you find one of those also. :P
I was mostly raised around guys... so I've had the opportunity to be more or less a demonstration of the truly 'innate' aspects of the female psyche...
Usually I'm pretty straightforward about my feelings... I admit when I'm wrong and even to the possibility that I may be wrong (pending evidence). I try very, very hard to separate a real problem from me just being angry and grabbing the closest available excuse... and I'm always willing to apologize when I fail at this task (after I calm down).
I have noticed other women being exceptionally moody... how they sit and stew about something that happened days or even months ago, and suddenly for no apparent reason they have an outburst at that very moment without any direct and obvious trigger. Even I am often confounded by how I seemingly jump to conclusions without any direct line of thought. Funny how I have to back-track just to see if and how it makes sense.
And yes, some woman are just manipulative and receive pleasure from 'picking' on men... though usually it's because they feel angry about something completely unrelated or even worse, something involving the guy that happened a long time ago.
As for the remedy to this problem... I have no idea... when my female friends do something similar to me... I normally just nod, get up and leave... after they calm down, I just tell them I felt it was best if I didn't add to it. Normally by then they either realize it was nothing... or they want to talk in a more civilized fashion about why they suddenly felt that way.
i agree, as a male it's better just not to engage with it. Just make the right noises, and the problem seems to go away.
Getting to the root of a woman's irrational outbursts via earnest discussions all the time is just too energy sapping. It gives me a headache. That stuff is best left to their girlfriends.
I must have really made her sound like a bitch.
She isn't manupulative or bitchy or anything along those lines, i wouldn't have spent the last 2 and a bit years with her if she was. She has the same personality as me and we are very open about how we're feeling and things like that but the last week or two she has been a bit 'off'. I'm just going to confront her about it tomorrow and see what's up, I think it's best to do that, will turn out to be a silly little thing either of has said or done.
Her change in mood can be triggered by biological reasons too... I'm sure there may be women that disagree with me, but I have noticed that my emotions become more intense and I want to be less logical and more irrational during these times of hormonal fluctuations.
Not much I can do other than give other people a wide berth and try to do things that appeal more to my emotional side... such as listen to music, draw... etc.
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Originally Posted by ransom_nite [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
nah ransom, you didn't make her sound like a bitch at all, i took it as the usual couple problems that all men and women have from time to time. we're wired differently, i was just takin' the piss coz it's so normal, it's beyond belief how common it is, i didn't think it was anythin' serious at all. it's funny really coz it never changes :D
But you are female brained. The quantity of your words in your posts vs. the guys makes that obvious.Quote:
Originally Posted by Aeradalia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I agree completely. You are just a rare female that understands & deals with it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Aeradalia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
For those interested I recommend the book "The Female Brain". My husband found it fascinating. :D
[url]http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Books/Story?id=2274147&page=1[/url]
‘If chemicals acting on the brain can create different realities, what happens when two brains have different structures? There's no question that their realities will be different. Brain damage, strokes, prefrontal lobotomies, and head injuries can change what's important to a person. They can even change one's personality from aggressive to meek or from kind to grumpy.’Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
This bit made me laugh coz it made me think men need a lobotomy
Lol jus' kidding of course!
yup this book should be mandatory reading for all males in schools all over the world. facinating indi! i'm gonna buy that book and give it to the next man i decide to date haha
Certain there are as many guys that feel the same about their women at least once a month.Quote:
This bit made me laugh coz it made me think men need a lobotomy
Anyway, its a good book & a fun read. Worth having in one's library, IMO/
I was using the fact that I was raised more around males as a way to demonstrate the femaleness of my brain.... That even if you were to strip a female from the majority of influences from other females... you would still have 'innate' characteristics that would be present no matter what.Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Forgive me if I failed to convey the intended message... words can be limited, and no matter how we try... difficult thoughts are always at risk of not being expressed in the way we intended.