The internet and inappropriate behaviour

I have HAD it with the internet and inappropriate behaviour

What is it with the prevalence of underhanded or just plain bad behaviour on the internet?

From this forum alone it seems like so much confusion occurs due to Facebook/Myspace/MSN emails, websites and blogs.

Why is it ok to profess your feelings for someone over the internet? Does it somehow make it better?

In case you are wondering what the impetus for my vent is I have had enough this year.

This year my ex boyfriend started a campaign of trying to win me back with emails, videos on You tube and messages on his website.
After I completely cut communication with him he started following me to forums and tracking my moves/information. I have a different log in name on LF which is why I can post on here.

THEN my current boyfriend has received an email from an ex girlfriend who lives in the States stating that she loves him and they are meant to be together. Arrrragh!
What gives her the right to do that? Just because it was an email it is ok? He is in a relationship with me..how is that right?

Now he has gone through this process of deleting her on Facebook etc (btw I despise Facebook but that’s for another thread).

Have you had anything like this happen to you? I think it is a growing epidemic.

I'm sure ppl from small towns once thought the same about phones, D.

Its just a sign of the times. Ppl will use whatever means available to get what they want. You can do the same, and I suggest you do so.

I broke up with a chick via e-mail once.

Better than coming to the front door with flowers, a card and saying "Merry Christmas" on Dec 6th!

What Indi said.

Got any links to those YouTube videos?

Nothing like this happened to me, but I guess it's an evolution. Our second life is becoming pretty important and reflective of who we are. It's best to becareful.

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Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I'm sure ppl from small towns once thought the same about phones, D.

Its just a sign of the times. Ppl will use whatever means available to get what they want. You can do the same, and I suggest you do so.

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Yes I have. Can you bitch slap via email ;)

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Originally Posted by TheGreek [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Got any links to those YouTube videos?

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Ha! No they were taken down pretty soon. They were lame anyway.

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Originally Posted by Dasein [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Ha! No they were taken down pretty soon. They were lame anyway.

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I knew they were lame. But I could use a laugh.

Avoid personal stuff via the web. By phone its okay. But face-to-face is always the best.

Everything is an epidemic these days, it seems.

it's the ol' story dasein, people are chickens. they use phones, texting, emailing fb'ing, bebo'ing etc etc so that they say something and not have to face any consequences, buk buk bukaaaaa i say to all of them. if you can't face someone then you're not even worth listening to

Thank you sir!

Good day sir!

Yes mam!

Sorry mam!

Would you like some e-tea, sir?


No, shut the **** up! Its the internetz and I like its freedom. You never have to take anything seriously.

boobaa i don't think anyone is disputing that the internet is fantastic and is the complete and perfect example of free speech and so i say let it live on forever, however it's people's courage and selfishness is what dasein is referring to when people use the internet in a way that is disturbing and shows how the disconnection of society enables people to chicken out and use the internet in selfish ways. thats life tho, humans are selfish and lots of them lack courage.

PS no-one's perfect, i broke up with my ex by text and msn. he deserved it tho and i really didn't want to see his face again

I wanna see the youtube videos he posted to you, dasein.

Thing is, Internet is so less personal, that its simply easier. Using the internet gets you instant gratification. You post a message, get a reply.

Breaking up/asking out is soooo much easier online, because your awkwardness does not shine, and you are cloaked with the feeling you can say whatever you want. We are given a sense of anonymity online that we don't have in person.

You're right though, it is really, really sad. People will take advantage of the fact they can use the internet/ text messaging to spark/end a relationship... when all it does is come off as a shit load less personal.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I wanna see the youtube videos he posted to you, dasein.

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I already tried :D

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I wanna see the youtube videos he posted to you, dasein.

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It was removed within 24 hours of him posting it because it had a montage of pictures of me with a voice over. He also had another with South park characters and voices?? Weird. I asked him to remove the videos because it was in violation to my privacy. I also reported it to You tube but they were pretty apathetic.

I personally love the internet but I think people seem to think it is a filter for them. Something that they wouldn't have the courage to do in person is acceptable because it is on the web. You see it all the time on this forum..eg "My girlfriends ex is messaging her on Myspace all the time" blah blah ad nauseam.

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Originally Posted by Dasein [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

It was removed within 24 hours of him posting it because it had a montage of pictures of me with a voice over.

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Creepy!



What did the voice over say?

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Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Creepy!



What did the voice over say?

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It said that we should get back together. He's such a cool guy. I will never find anyone like him (complete narcissist). All it did was make me happy that I dumped his sorry ass. At the moment he has a crappy TV show and on the front page of the website he has a message to me. If I was his current girlfriend I would be none to pleased with that. Gosh people can be weird.

I am here to profess my deep love for you Dasein. I want to marry you and have many children by your womb




































Haha, naw jk... but I probably would indeed pork you

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Originally Posted by Dasein [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

At the moment he has a crappy TV show and on the front page of the website he has a message to me. If I was his current girlfriend I would be none to pleased with that. Gosh people can be weird.

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He sounds OCD. Probably self esteem issues to boot.



What TV show is that by the way? :)

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Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

He sounds OCD. Probably self esteem issues to boot.



What TV show is that by the way? :)

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Um..prefer not to say Mish..privacy and all.

It's probably the ease and instant gratification mixed with the need for attention and drama. The internet seems to provide some people with their virtual stage or soapbox.

I think people are just as attention-grabbing and selfish offline. They just don't post it all for the world to see.

Hi Starbuck!

Hey Vash! Woot! Lark party!

I was just about to post an update thread :)

Starbuck..you're back!

Yes, Daesin, I've has something inappropriate happen too. My husband had all of these old hookups as Facebook friends. It was ****ing ridiculous. It was like Little Black Facebook.

They're gone now.

whose asking for sex?

raverboy

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yes, Daesin, I've has something inappropriate happen too. My husband had all of these old hookups as Facebook friends. It was ****ing ridiculous. It was like Little Black Facebook.

They're gone now.

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I have a friend who just went through this recently. Her boyfriend had every single ex girl friend on Facebook. Then of course she looked daily at the posts they made and she was going mad.

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Originally Posted by Dasein [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I have a friend who just went through this recently. Her boyfriend had every single ex girl friend on Facebook. Then of course she looked daily at the posts they made and she was going mad.

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Ouch. That guy must have been a true bastard.

Ok I am going to start listing the threads with this problem.

This is one I just saw:

[url]http://www.loveforum.net/ask-male-forum/26484-i-need-your-opinion-guys.html[/url]

[url]http://www.loveforum.net/ask-male-forum/26387-what-up-online-chatting-other-women-you-have-woman.html[/url]

[url]http://www.loveforum.net/broken-hearts-forum/26419-girlfriend-cheating.html[/url]