i definately am. my drive is much higher than his.
anybody else have this?
sometimes he shrugs me off.
again, anybody else have this?
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i definately am. my drive is much higher than his.
anybody else have this?
sometimes he shrugs me off.
again, anybody else have this?
My g/f is typically more often ready to go than I am, though, when I am, I'm typically more aggressive about it than she is (except when she's right before that time of the month).
I don't like to have sex too often because I'm just not as sensitive if I go day after day. Yeah, I last longer, and in that aspect it's more fun, but my more intense orgasms are when I haven't had it for 2 or more days, so even when I'm horny, I'll pass off sex so I can enjoy it more later.
Who says self control only applies to alcohol and illicit drugs, lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
'That time of the month' is fun!
I agree that the tension builds after a couple of days, and it gets pretty exciting by the third day, but I think any longer is hardly worth the necessary self control.
My sex drive has gone down but my passion and love making has gone up.
Less on the rough; booty-slapping; heart-pounding; lip=-ocking sex and more on the soft: body-caressing, eye contacting, finger tip embracing love.
Interesting Frasbee..my bf says the same kind of thing..
I spent 12 years in a progressivelly passionless marriage..I have experienced an awakening so to speak with my bf. He is very affectionate,passionate and lets just say has got my number. The only problem is the more I get the more I want...maybe it will slow down..hopefully not for a while.
Life begins at 40 my friends!!!
I have been with both types and discovered both to be annoying in their own unique ways. Best is to be with someone with similar sex drive to yours.
i'll tell you this, i always have a harder drive than my girls.
raverboy
i agree 99% of the time with you, but in this case I would find it really boring if someone had the same sex drive as you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Better to have them want it "too often" than not often enough.
As a man who had sex 5 times during the 2 years he was married, I know this lesson far too well. *sigh*
5times in 2 years? *gulp*
well he's into it more these days which i guess is a good sign. i think it was because i changed my hair. meh..
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Originally Posted by Lite [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Holy crap dude. I think in a case like that it should be permissible to cheat.
I know I am hornier than my fiance for sure. I could do it twice every day, where he seems to be fine with four or so times a week......I can handle that.
I just hope my libido doesn't get worse......as in higher.
Sorry to give you the news, blue, but it might. Mine actually increased when I hit my late 30's.
Fortunately, my guy is almost always ready to go when I am. Doesn't take much convincing.
Perfect. I guess I'll need extra batteries for the hand-held devices.
Just go for the Sybian or Hitachi Magic Wand and an extension cord...Quote:
Originally Posted by bluesummer [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It is weird how my drive is ten times more than my boyfriends...i have never been in a relationship like this.. I know that we care for each other very much but for some reason he does not want sex as much as i do...
Some times is make me feel a little insecure..i would like to have it at least two or three times a week...but i am lucky to get it once or twice every two weeks...
I love him deeply but it can be frustrating at times!
What's going on in his life that may be causing low sex drive? Poor diet, lack of sleep, stress, too much work, depression?Quote:
Originally Posted by sinner saint [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
There are so many things that can affect a man's sex drive.
i remember my ex was always horny our first like 4 months. then it dropped. then for a few months it tanked. im always down for sex tho.
id love to have a girl that wants it more than i do. that would be sweet..
goddamit its been too long...
i am with my bf nearly two years and i love him to pieces!!! when we first started going out we'd have sex every day now its lik once a week. i am away at university and i have a very high sex drive, especially when i am drinking. a few times i have ended up cheating, on him when i'm really really drunk. i feel really bad about it but i dont kno what to do to make him more into sex again. maybe i should buy a rabbit!!
Whore. Cheating whore.
come on Giga, let's not be jealous. it's a troll with a high sex drive.
If ur gonna cheat dont use drinking as an excuse cheat sober or better yet open up ur relationship, have u ever thought that maybe he would want more sex if he could get a little strange on the side like you obviously are. Maybe that would work. Since ur high sex drive has a higher priority than the exclusivity of ur relationship it shouldn't bother u if he gets a little on the side too.Quote:
Originally Posted by username1988 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm not jealous! I've been falling-down drunk before and I'm possessed of a very high sex drive, but I've never cheated. I reserve the right to pass judgment on cheating whores.Quote:
Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
i was kidding...
Technically She is a Cheating Slut unless she's getting paid.Quote:
Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I did a quick financial analysis of Energizer Holdings, Inc. (ENR) and determined that their one-year income before interest and taxes (EBIT) was $654,500,000. I think this may answer your question! :D
Carl.
I'm beginning to realize the effects emotions can have on sex drive. I am just about as wanting, if not more so, than my boyfriend. However, in his absence I have noticed that earlier my drive had surged as I was missing him terribly so... but as of late, it has fallen by nearly half. Whenever I do talk to him on the phone or over the internet... I am immediately aroused. Though by the next day, other than fleeting thoughts... I have almost no desire. (Though I am more than happy to joke about sex and related things.. :) )
So I think emotions can play a key role in heavily influencing your 'natural' sex drive.
i wouldnt cheat if i was sober, so i'm not usin drink as an excuse. i have stopped drinkin so much n the cheating has stopped too.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sureality [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
i dont want to cheat, it seems almost involountary. i dont want an open relationship either, they dont really happen outside of america. i dont know what to do lik i used never cheat even when we had massive fights and he'd end up dumping me cause he was drunk. i dont know.
i suppose it doesnt even matter anymore. i am a whore a slut a f biach in all ur eyes. but he has done it again. all my friends bf/gf's are down to celebrate this week in uni cause it v important but yet again i am left alone. men ar e pricks
my real da left wen i was a baby n i was told my gran parents were parents but they werent they just raised me like their baby but i'm not my mam didnt want me my dad left
now my gran dad dies 2007 n a few months later i was raped. ever man i have ever known has letf or abused me i cant tust none a them.
o ca,t believe my bf had dumpe me agin. but least i am so drunk ican pas our oe kill myawld without pain
I have a very high sex drive and my guy actually loves it. I masturbate (vaginal, anal, with vib, without vib, with balls, without balls etc etc) and tell him all about it later. Which turns him on and I get the sex I craved... the one with him!
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Originally Posted by username1988 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Not to be harsh on you... but I've been in the 'victim' role quite often in my life too. Rough childhood... parents barely there... abusive ex bf and ex-husband... my favorite dog died... they canceled Futurama (which really sucked)... etc.. However I've learned three things in my life:
1.) Just because you feel you need help does not mean someone is going to help you (or are even required)
2.) There are no victims only volunteers -- you are the one who chooses to perpetuate the role of victim, not the rest of the world
3.) Whatever you put out comes back to you --- you reap what you sow
It's time to stop with all the self-pity and self-loathing and really take a good long look at your life. Are you happy with it? Is this really how you want to live? How does what you want out of life compare with how you're living now? What are some things you think you'd need to change in order to have a better life?
Sit down... write out on a piece paper (yes... write it out so you can see it):
* All the things that are right in your life (that you are happy with)
* All the things in your life that are wrong (that you are unhappy with)
* Ideas of how to change the wrong things to right
There is a correlation between your actions and thought process and what happens to you. If you hate yourself then you will have low self-esteem... if you have low self-esteem then you will not pursue guys you really want (and feel you truly deserve).. rather you will settle for far less... these less quality guys are damaged and most likely abusive. So by hating yourself you are leaving yourself susceptible to these abusive boyfriends... so STOP!
I can't say what you deserve or what you are entitled to and I won't fill your head with that nonsense. What I will say is this... there is a part of you that is screaming that there has to be something better than this... That part of you is right --- there is a life far better than what you are living now... and it's up to you and you alone to decide whether or not you're going to figure out how to get that better life. It's up to you to decide that you want better for yourself... Up to you to forgive yourself for whatever mistakes you have made... forget what other people may say about you... put your mind to good use... and do better for yourself. Make your own success story... because you have all the power you need to make it happen... if you choose to do so.
Hi,
I cant denie that i have been the 'victim' of late. I have had a lot of horrible things happen to me, but i have never been a 'victim' of it until recently. I know exactly where it is all coming from, my granparents raised me and i lost my grandad last yr. since then i havent been the same person, i need to accept that he is gone.
I have decided to forgive myself about cheating. I know I shouldnt have but there are some things that my bf has done to that he shouldnt have done either. I know nothing, wel mostly nothing is as bad as cheating. But I do love him, I want to make it work, and so does he. I dont think telling him would solve anything.
Thank you so much for your advice Aeradalia, I do not want to be a victim, i want to be a happy person, and this past month I have been.
Telling him is the right thing to do --- for the sake of your boyfriend... he deserves to have a chance to make an informed decision about whether or not to stay with you. Could you possibly lose him? Yes... but it is selfish to resume a relationship that you need to have based on trust if you're the one that's lying... wouldn't you think? This will be one more thing to fester in your conscience and sabotage all your effort from hence forth (because deep down you won't believe you deserve it --- because you will know you are lying to him every single day).
Start with a clean slate... it's the only way you will ever truly be happy. Tell him the truth... then the rest is up to him. Feeling bad about doing something wrong doesn't change the fact that there will be consequences... It's shitty, but it is part of life. However, if he is understanding and forgiving enough... he may give it another go with you.
I wish you the best of luck and hope it all turns out well for you...