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my man bought me a ring...engagement ring and wedding band combined, and asked me to wear it on my wedding ring finger, and he says its a promise ring. does this mean that this is all I can expect? or can I expect/hope for a real wedding one day? I am a bit confused...why spend that much money if its just a "promise" ring.
why we women have to question everything men do
Because I want him to be my husband.
How long are the two of you together? Also, did you hint that you really wanted to get married? :).Quote:
Originally Posted by annoyed23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
he knows I want to get married, its no secret. But hes also told me he wants to too (without me hinting). We have been together almost 3 years, and have a 5 month old daughter together.
Perhaps do something like this.Quote:
Originally Posted by annoyed23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Lay on the couch, and take his hand, if he has a ring too. Then take his and yours off. Give him yours. Then kneel and put his ring over his finger and ask him to marry you! Or is that not such a good idea? Doesn't always have to be the guy right :).
I also dont want to rush him, I have thought about this too...I want him to be ready.
Well if its a special ring + wedding band together, maybe it was a hint? Perhaps ask him subtle about it.Quote:
Originally Posted by annoyed23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
but he went through the trouble and expense of getting you an engagement/wedding rings. what's there to question? how paranoid do you have to be?
Get him one too.
im not paranoid. I am wondering if I should bring it up...or if i should wait for him to. clearly he isnt ready if he didnt ask me. history: we were engaged once before and he freaked out and we broke up for a few weeks. he said "once we have the money we will get married"...but I wanna do it now...even if its just a simple wedding in the court house.
how did he present his gift this time?Quote:
Originally Posted by annoyed23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Girls are funny.
If you can't even TALK about it, how are you supposed to be able to deal with being married?
What's the point of a promise ring? Isn't that what an engagement ring is supposed to be?
maybe you should just be blunt. you say you dont wanna rush him but maybe thats the only way of doing it. Just randomly come out with it that u love him to bits , want to marry him alread , no matter where it is. U never know it could work
gartlas, if you wanna feel better just read posts here and how see for yourself how screwed up people are.Quote:
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Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I know , thats what Im doing , lose myself in the problems of others.
I has a pln now anyways :smug:
EDIT: calling them all screwed up is mean XD , it'll all be good in the end anyways confused
Mean is my middle name, or screwed up.Quote:
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Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Mine is sarcastic little bugger
nice to meet you Gartlas Sarcastic Little BuggerQuote:
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Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Thanks ,u made me smile for the first time all day :astonish:
How old are you? Three years dating sounds like a lot to me.
That's what I am here for! Entertaining from 9:00 am to 5:00 pm Pacific Central Time! Please send donations to [email]Indignant_Livid_Grump@msn.com[/email]Quote:
Originally Posted by gartlas [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
we are both 23. My mom actually asked us last night when we are gong to get married, and when i brought that up to him he just laughed casually, and said when we have the money.
please disregards all my remarks, i wasn't aware that there was a child involved. thanks to miso for pointing that out. would you like me to send some people over to screw his head on right and make sure he accepts his responsibilites?
so you have a kid, but he doesn't want to get married until you get money?
So because there's a child involved you must get married? She might be far better off raising the child without the guy.Quote:
Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
no, it's just backwards.
why the money rule about marriage but not about kids?
if you ask me, the guy is stalling.
I didn't expect you to be this young tbh.
How old is his other kid if you don't mind me asking and what age is yours again?
and this is why i can't stand American man. they refuse to take responsibility for their actions.Quote:
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we are not getting married for the child. we were not together for the majority of the pregnancy because we didnt think a relationship would work. we have been together for a while now, and if we get married its because we love each other...not because we happened to have a baby.
So you two have a baby or a somewhat older kid, but he has a baby with someone else?Quote:
Originally Posted by annoyed23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Did he cheat on you in that period or something?
Marrying a woman, and helping raise a child are two completely different things. I know a non-married couple who had a child that they raise jointly.Quote:
Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
we were living together and we lost the apartment, so I was living with a friend and he was living at home with his dad. during that time i was working so much that we never got to see each other so we separated...i had NO IDEA he was persuing this other female, and she got pregnant during that time. so technically it wasnt cheating.
It sounds to me your man wants you to walk around with a sign saying OFF THE MARKET without taking you off the shelf. You have to talk about this with him. If you can't communicate over this then how will you handle serious forks in the road during marriage. I know some guys that get their girl a ring as a symbol for other men. Then once that ring is on they are in no rush to set a wedding date. Call his ass out.