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my girlfriend started very strongly hinting to me that she wanted to have rough sex. i'm not the most sexually experienced person in the world, and this is the first time i've done anything like this. what are some good techniques and ways to avoid actually hurting her? i want to make it enjoyable and am definitely ok with experimenting, but it's difficult for me to bring myself to be rough with a female and i want to make sure i don't hurt her. any advice?
Well there's not much you can do, she pretty much asked you to bruise her ass.
You should talk to her about it and ask her how she wants to be ****ed, and ask her how hard and stuff.
once again, i have said it before, in my experience, girls ask for that when we have to deal with a small cock that doesn't reach where it's supposed to. get a penis pump.
Little bit of common sense goes a long way... just 'play it by ear'... ask for some suggestions from her and during sex, learn by trial and error. She will take necessary steps to keep herself from getting hurt too much.
Have fun... this could be a great learning experience.
In regards to Indignant, some women don't care if the guy is big or small... they just want it rough because of the excitement of it and that pain mixed with pleasure feels good for them. I doubt a woman that would prefer a guy with a larger size and be slow and gentle would settle for a guy that is small, rough and fast.
my ex wasn't that big, and i could never enjoy it as much as i did with someone on a biggger side. we did last for 3 years, but when i started having desires for others and when we broke up, i finally understood what i was missing all those years.Quote:
Originally Posted by Aeradalia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Maybe what she's asking for isn't so much about being violently thrown around, but the whole experience of having sex with you. Honestly, I enjoy it when my husband makes sweet, tender love to me, but more often, I just want to be taken. It's more about how he grasps my shoulders so firmly and has such a pressing need to have sex NOW than the amount of force exerted.
You won't hurt her by pushing her onto the bed. You won't hurt her by holding her wrists together, over her head, as you push her knees apart with your leg insistently. You won't hurt her by demanding that she take off her panties for you in a husky voice.
It's a mood you need to create, not some kind of wrestling match.
Wait.Quote:
Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
In your experience, you ask for rough sex when you have to "deal" with a small penis?
Or in your experience you've talked to other women that have asked for rough sex when they've had to "deal" with a small penis?
Also, how cavernous are their vaginas?
i personally had that experience, i have been told that my vayjay is really small. i guess he must've been beyond small for a guy, he wasn't tall or big either, about 5'6.Quote:
Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
"Beyond small"?Quote:
Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Your comments are so vague they're virtually worthless, you gotta be more specific than just "big" and "small".
Also, you're pullin' the shit other women pull when they want to sound credible, by leaving out important details.
This is misleading, and a little confusing.Quote:
in my experience, girls ask for
With "my experience", one would assume that you are referring to only yourself and your experience, but when you throw in "girls ask for", this is a blanket statement thrown on any woman that has ever asked for rough sex, when you're not even citing anyone but yourself.
I'm not sure if you do this deliberately, or are simply careless with your words.
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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
is this a sensitive subject for you Fras? yes, i am not the only who has complained of guys with small penises. we, girls talk and share our sexual experiences, you know. what's here not to understand? where does it create a confusion for you?
i am sure women do love rough sex occasionally, me included, but when it's constant, then there could be another reason.
It's the semantics that get to me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I already pointed out the misleading statements in your post.
You essentially jumped from "my experience" to "every woman's experience" within the same sentence.
Also, in your post quoted above you're now amending what you had said in your first post.
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girls ask for that (rough sex) when we have to deal with a small cock that doesn't reach where it's supposed to.
Notice how you went from an statement of absolutes, to a statement of variables.Quote:
i am sure women do love rough sex occasionally, me included, but when it's constant, then there could be another reason.
You're like the John Kerry of LF.
once again, i am not as educated as most of yous are. I have only finished 7 grades in Russia and took a GED test when came here. You do get my point, there's no need to scrutinize all of statements. I will try to learn from you, oh the great one, and hopefully one day will become the Bill Clinton of LF.Quote:
Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
No I didn't get your point that's why I brought it up, I wanted to know exactly what you meant. What you think and what you say don't always seem to match up.Quote:
Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Plus, I thought you were shootin' to become the Monica Lewinsky of LF?
sure, i'll take ML. please tell me which part you didn't get and i'll make sure to explain it to you in my best russian.Quote:
Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Oooo.Quote:
Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Just translate this one:Quote:
i am sure women do love rough sex occasionally, me included, but when it's constant, then there could be another reason.
k.Quote:
Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
on occasion i like to have rough sex. pretty clear, right?
when i had a relationship with SP(small penis), i had to have it rough all the time cuz otherwise he didn't reach where i wanted him to. and even then he hardly ever did. it was really miserable for both of us, cuz he really tried to outperform himself and did everything he could but then he had to go and buy me a vibrator after 2 years.
Either you translated that from english to english, or I'm fluent in russian and didn't know it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
but you do understand me thought, right? you might not agree with me most of the time, but in about 10 years you'll see things clearer.Quote:
Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Do you mean like pinky finger small?
no, of course not :lol:Quote:
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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
In my opinion, great sex is about communication, and rough sex clearly needs a lot of this! Next time you have sex, when you're all cuddling in the afterglow, maybe try and bring it up, ask her what she had in mind, let her know you're willing and excited to try, and I'm sure she'll be very pleased by your enthusiasm. And there are so many levels of roughness, she might just be looking for a light spank and you holding her down, or she might want to be tied up and spanked hard, or any of a million different combinations.
So, if you want to start fooling around with rough stuff before getting into a full on discussion, try a light smack on the ass or lightly hold her down and see how she reacts... take your lead from that and have fun :D
just stick your dick in her ass as hard and quickly as you can. next, bust a nut in there before she changes her mind.
raverboy
You had a relationship with Small Penis?Quote:
Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Rather than hinting I'd suggest to your girlfriend that she flat out tells you what she wants. The hardest thing about rough sex is setting boundaries about what is or isn't acceptable and in order to do that you need V good communication.
In a way I've always found it to be the most involved type of sex you can have, by definition its not something you can do casually. You can spend years with a person developing the sex.
Everybody has a different idea of rough sex but if you think about it as carefully controlled violence plus sex it can put it in perspective for you, and remind you to be a little cautious.
Another thing I've found is that it puts a lot of pressure on the man, and some guys even though they start of really enthusiastic discover quickly that they're not comfortable with it. The woman gets thrown around a little but psychologically it takes more out of the man.
Just things to bear in mind.