sex. size wise.

for any of you females out there. does size matter?
girth vs length? differences in feeling?

was wodering if i could post here what i wanted to get advie for too. its a lil off topic from th title but it relates.

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forget the size question. forgot to look at search button....;P
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well heres the question i wanted to ask...

what would you do if you were having sex and your girl just totally compared you to her ex. size wise and how it feels for her?

cuz it happened to me and it's so hard to get my mind off it. it happened during the 4th month of our relation ship and now its almost our 10th month. also, from time to time she compares me to him. it pisses me off and i feel so insecure. she gets pissed at me for being insecure and she tells me i have no reason to, but its kinda different when she compares me.

sorry. kinda went off and got a lil mad.

That is odd for her to compare you to her ex and then tell you about it. Have you been comparing her to your ex's? I really don't see where someone would think this is acceptable to do other than to either tear you down or build you up (i.e.... not as big as so-and-so or you are bigger than so-and-so).

My bf only asked that question once... how he had compared to others I had been with... it's a question loaded with insecurities. So I answered in the most honest and positive way I could. I told him that I've noticed I have a preference for a very particular shape and size... and that he is indeed within that preference.

His question was inappropriate and can be damaging to a relationship... just as your girlfriend's comparisons are inappropriate and damaging to a relationship. Ask her calmly in a curious manner why she would make such comparisons. It shouldn't really matter how you compare with her ex's so long as she is pleased by you and happy to be you. I mean, those are some of the reasons why she isn't with them anymore... right?

Well when she was in high school she was dating this black guy. they've been doing it for almost 3 years and they do it like atleast once or twice a day for that whole 3 years. then college comes, i stole her away from him because they were having problems. btw fyi, she's asian and im asian. when we started talking and getting to know each other, she always told me that she liked it BIG. everytime she describes her ex to me, she always mentions MASSIVE. she even made a face when saying that. and first time she felt mine, she said "o thats it?" ever since then i've been so insecure, dun really know how to handle it. she also plays that game where she says, "o where is it?" pissed the shit outta me when i tell her this but she always say that im too insecure and that i should stop because im not comparing you.

The first time we ever did it, it didnt happen because when i was fingering her, outa the blue she compared me. she said that "o you dont find it as fast as he does." that turned me off just like that. she didnt even know that she "compared" me, thats what she said. the next day she apologized.

when we started doing it, she didnt even have a reaction untill i called her out on it. first time we did it, she was just lookin at me. then when i called her out on it, thats when she started moaning or w/e she does. and when it comes to pleasing her....? lets just say that its hard to please her when all i can think about when doin her is, is she thinking about her ex when we do it and is she missing that MASSIVE thing.

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also when we started talking, she told me that she was ALWAYS horny with him and that from time to time, she came to his house JUST to have sex. i noticed that she was never horny before we did it, i always have to work for it and i always have initiate the sex or we wont do it.

What a disgusting c**k slut! I would break up with her and tell her "I'm leaving you because obviously my d**k isn't big enough for you"

What kind of monster girl would even bring that up? Tell her to go back to f**king her ex ... a relationship is more that a c**k and a pu**y!

Carl.

As Carl clearly describes in a rather emotional way... this behavior is completely inappropriate and can even border on mental abuse.

Referring to an ex who was 'massive' and 'large' compared to you is counterproductive, destructive.. and downright poison to the relationship.

She is obviously showing that she doesn't give a **** about your feelings, your pride, or your ego. Apparently you are nothing more than a dick to her... and she clearly isn't satisfied.

If she really had strong feelings for you... she would be mindful of your feelings... focus on your other virtues/attributes... and remind herself daily of just how lucky she is to be with you.

When she brings this up again... calmly remind her that you are NOT her ex... and if having a MASSIVE dick is worth far more than being treated decently as a real woman should be... then she can go back to her MASSIVE dick of an ex.. :P

Wow, your girlfriend sounds like one cruel bitch. Why do you tolerate her?

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Originally Posted by 12many [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

what would you do if you were having sex and your girl just totally compared you to her ex. size wise and how it feels for her?

cuz it happened to me and it's so hard to get my mind off it. it happened during the 4th month of our relation ship and now its almost our 10th month. also, from time to time she compares me to him. it pisses me off and i feel so insecure. she gets pissed at me for being insecure and she tells me i have no reason to, but its kinda different when she compares me.

sorry. kinda went off and got a lil mad.

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You could always say that her vagina is too big and that your exes' vages were so much tighter and pleasurable. I mean seriously, that is so rude and inconsiderate of her. Anyone with half a brain understands that. Anybody would be hurt if their bf/gf compared them to their ex.

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You could always say that her vagina is too big and that your exes' vages were so much tighter and pleasurable. I mean seriously, that is so rude and inconsiderate of her. Anyone with half a brain understands that. Anybody would be hurt if their bf/gf compared them to their ex.

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In my opinion, that is a dumpworthy event!

Carl.

Or "accidentally" have your dick slip out of her vagina and stuff her ass with it.

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Wow, your girlfriend sounds like one cruel bitch. Why do you tolerate her?

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because if i leave i feel like the next girl that im gonna be with will say that to me too. i dont wanna hear that shit the 3rd time. this way when im with her, i wont hear it from anybody but her. i lost so much confidence in myself once i heard that too. i was planning on cheating on her, but i feel like the girl will say the same.

what confused me the most was when she said, "once you go black, you never go back." i was like "wtf that suppose to mean?" she said, "o nothing, im just glad to be back." i asked, "why" she replied, "because it doesnt hurt me...?" she said that with a question tone too.

for 3 months of our relationship she has exaggerated how she liked "BIG" things. she said that sexually and even made a face too.

it hurts to stay in this relationship. i have anxieties, i worry alot, and im insecure and i lost alot of self confidence. i dont really know what to do about it. if i leave, i feel like i'll be lonely but if i stay, im getting hurt but at the same time i wont feel like im alone.

lol grrrr.. i wanna run her over sometimes.


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what's sad was, i gave in and i got desperate cuz i was hurt and insecure...sooo....i bought extenze..hahaha w/o researching what it did. after i bought it..i took 1 pill everyday for 3 days. because i wanted to be "bigger." after the 3rd day, i found out that it doesnt really make you bigger. it just lets more blood flow through your penis which will make it bigger, but not that much. theres not a significant amount of change it'll just look like it has more girth but it really doesnt. then i stopped using it cuz i was like **** this shit. i'll just **** her out of my pleasure and not hers. for these past 9 months that we've been together, i had lost so much love for her.

No offense... but she's the one with the penis size problem... not you. You're most likely within AVERAGE size... which means the average woman will be more than happy with your 'equipment.' This woman is a bitch... a big, nasty, ****ing bitch... understand? Nothing wrong with your equipment... plenty of women are being pleasured by dicks very similar to your own --- thoroughly pleasured... deliriously pleasured... couldn't forget the guy's name if they're life depended on it because they're just in utter bliss kind of pleasured.

You need to take this bitch outside... give her a swift kick in the ass and send her to the curb. She's an insult to all the female gender... a terror to any other man that would have her... and just a terrible piece of cosmic debris.

No man deserves being made to feel insecure about his manhood.

The problem is her... not you... alright?

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No offense... but she's the one with the penis size problem... not you. You're most likely within AVERAGE size... which means the average woman will be more than happy with your 'equipment.' This woman is a bitch... a big, nasty, ****ing bitch... understand? Nothing wrong with your equipment... plenty of women are being pleasured by dicks very similar to your own --- thoroughly pleasured... deliriously pleasured... couldn't forget the guy's name if they're life depended on it because they're just in utter bliss kind of pleasured.

You need to take this bitch outside... give her a swift kick in the ass and send her to the curb. She's an insult to all the female gender... a terror to any other man that would have her... and just a terrible piece of cosmic debris.

No man deserves being made to feel insecure about his manhood.

The problem is her... not you... alright?

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haha dayum. that made me feel good a lil bit. thx :D
even though i feel less of a man....kinda want to be single for a while but dont wanna be lonely too.

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Originally Posted by Aeradalia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

That is odd for her to compare you to her ex and then tell you about it. Have you been comparing her to your ex's? I really don't see where someone would think this is acceptable to do other than to either tear you down or build you up (i.e.... not as big as so-and-so or you are bigger than so-and-so).

My bf only asked that question once... how he had compared to others I had been with... it's a question loaded with insecurities. So I answered in the most honest and positive way I could. I told him that I've noticed I have a preference for a very particular shape and size... and that he is indeed within that preference.

His question was inappropriate and can be damaging to a relationship... just as your girlfriend's comparisons are inappropriate and damaging to a relationship. Ask her calmly in a curious manner why she would make such comparisons. It shouldn't really matter how you compare with her ex's so long as she is pleased by you and happy to be you. I mean, those are some of the reasons why she isn't with them anymore... right?

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no i havent compared her because i already know how it feels to be compared once and i dont wanna do that to a girl.
now a days, i pretty much move her hand away whenever she's touching it or whenever she wants to see it. i just dont feel comfortable with her doing that no more. then she gets mad at me for doing that...but im just w/e about her being mad and sh*t. like i giv a fcuk.

umm..i dont really kno where most of you guys are located, but if any of you live in nor cal area, round dublin/livermore/san leandro/hayward/san lorenzo/union city/fremont/castro valley,
know a cheap place for a therapy session? not like an anger session or something, but just someone to talk to and listen and evaluate where your at and try to fix your problem/issues or w/e. im having trouble looking for one...all i see are expensive ones like $260-400/sessions.

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forget the size question. forgot to look at search button....;P

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You just dodged fifty hate filled infractions.

Good for you.

And good job on doin' the right thing.

****ing extenze commercials.

Dude, did you know those contain harmful substances such as lead? Stop taking them immediately if you still are.

Oh and believe it or not, but a girl can be too small. I don't understand why society blames the problem on the male's size. I guess that's just because it can be seen with the naked eye.

I always thought it was a no-no to compare exes in general, much less something as sensitive as penis size. She should know that this is BAD behavior. Most women know this can be a sensitive subject with guys and to steer clear.

If my boyfriend started comparing my body in any way to one of his exes, I'd have a HUGE problem with it.

Sexual details about exes should stay in the past. Or at least be on a "don't ask, don't tell" basis.

Hopefully you'll get to the point where you can now start undoing the psychological damage your gf has been doing to you.

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You just dodged fifty hate filled infractions.

Good for you.

And good job on doin' the right thing.

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doing what right thing?

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****ing extenze commercials.

Dude, did you know those contain harmful substances such as lead? Stop taking them immediately if you still are.

Oh and believe it or not, but a girl can be too small. I don't understand why society blames the problem on the male's size. I guess that's just because it can be seen with the naked eye.

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no i didnt know that. i stopped because i dont wanna use that sh*t just so i could feel better bout myself. i only took about 4 or 5 pills total. lol hope that didnt mess me up in the future.

what you mean a girl can be too small? tightness wise?

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I always thought it was a no-no to compare exes in general, much less something as sensitive as penis size. She should know that this is BAD behavior. Most women know this can be a sensitive subject with guys and to steer clear.

If my boyfriend started comparing my body in any way to one of his exes, I'd have a HUGE problem with it.

Sexual details about exes should stay in the past. Or at least be on a "don't ask, don't tell" basis.

Hopefully you'll get to the point where you can now start undoing the psychological damage your gf has been doing to you.

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haha..she did that to me too. compared his body to mine...her expressions are always with the big "O" at the start of her sentence when im being compared.

the only "good" comparison that she commented about me was i had my feet werent ugly and his were. :emot159:

my bad for multiple post...couldnt figure out how to multi quote.

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what you mean a girl can be too small? tightness wise?

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Tightness and depth... some women can be quite small in that regard...

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Tightness and depth... some women can be quite small in that regard...

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oo....but cant it change once you've been use to something that wont fit? pretty sure the answer is no...just got curious. i know anyting you put in it will fit no matter what, and i know it adjusts to things too. but lets say your small and tight, and lets say ur bf is huge. 9' wise, and you've been doin it, for, say...3-4 yrs. wouldnt your internal vagina or w/e get bigger/expand?

what a bitch.

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oo....but cant it change once you've been use to something that wont fit? pretty sure the answer is no...just got curious. i know anyting you put in it will fit no matter what, and i know it adjusts to things too. but lets say your small and tight, and lets say ur bf is huge. 9' wise, and you've been doin it, for, say...3-4 yrs. wouldnt your internal vagina or w/e get bigger/expand?

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Uhm... not really.. you might get an inch or so more... as far as depth is concerned --- especially during orgasm and such. Same is true with tightness. Even though women are capable of delivering... thus being able to 'stretch'....does not necessarily mean it's easy to do or even painless.

I tend to be small... it hurts entirely too much to even put your experiment to the test. I'd rather be with someone who does not require me to 'stretch' and adjust to his size.

Some women tend to be deep and wide --- they are better suited for the larger males and really should seek them out.

Just as some men are small and others are big... it would follow that there would be women of appropriate size.

tell her that if she wasn't such a mean bitch maybe she could get a guy with a bigger dick to stay with her.

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tell her that if she wasn't such a mean bitch maybe she could get a guy with a bigger dick to stay with her.

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haha...dunno bout that...just thinking about it..i think it'll hurt me more..

you need help.

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you need help.

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lol whaa?? huh? whered that come from? wut u mean?

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haha...dunno bout that...just thinking about it..i think it'll hurt me more..

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you need help.

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lol whaa?? huh? whered that come from? wut u mean?

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Because of your response... how could it possibly hurt you?

Short answer --- it can't. You have nothing to fret over physically... it's just insecurities brought on by her words that would make you even consider the possibility that you could be hurt by such a remark...

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Because of your response... how could it possibly hurt you?

Short answer --- it can't. You have nothing to fret over physically... it's just insecurities brought on by her words that would make you even consider the possibility that you could be hurt by such a remark...

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o...true....come to think of it...i dont think i'll b hurt..i think i'll b glad that im gonna b out of that relationship.

hmmm...how should i end it???

1.) dumb bitch gtfo?
2.) stop trying and just try to screw her as much as i can?? lol...
3.) get her pregnant, leave the country...lol hahahahaha...thats kinda mean though..
hmm...

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Because of your response... how could it possibly hurt you?

Short answer --- it can't. You have nothing to fret over physically... it's just insecurities brought on by her words that would make you even consider the possibility that you could be hurt by such a remark...

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hmm...

you're a smart girl...

You really should break up with her. I'm not normally a mean person but I think she deserves this. You shouldn't break up with her 'softly'. When you end it with her, you have to do it with a '**** you'. Not necessarily say it, but break up with her in a way that makes her feel like sh*t, just like she's been making you feel.

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You really should break up with her. I'm not normally a mean person but I think she deserves this. You shouldn't break up with her 'softly'. When you end it with her, you have to do it with a '**** you'. Not necessarily say it, but break up with her in a way that makes her feel like sh*t, just like she's been making you feel.

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hmm...as of right now...im just looking for someone to replace her. then when i find her, ima dump my gf, just like that.

Lol why would you want to deal with that bullshit until you find a new girlfriend? I would just dump the bitch and be done with her. But if you have all the time in the world to waste, be my guest.

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Lol why would you want to deal with that bullshit until you find a new girlfriend? I would just dump the bitch and be done with her. But if you have all the time in the world to waste, be my guest.

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wellll my friend...even though i feel like shit when im with her, the good side (i think) is i get to have sex. it might not be the person i wanna have sex with but at this moment...i just want sex...i just imagine that she's christina milian or some one hot like....jessica biel. now she has a nice ass.:lol:

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wellll my friend...even though i feel like shit when im with her, the good side (i think) is i get to have sex. it might not be the person i wanna have sex with but at this moment...i just want sex...i just imagine that she's christina milian or some one hot like....jessica biel. now she has a nice ass.:lol:

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If a girl was talking like this... she'd be called a whore or slut... just to let you know...

However.. I guess you could get in a little grudge ****ing?

The proper thing to do is dump her, then find someone else. Regardless of her behavior, it's really the best thing you can do for yourself and appearing to be on the up-and-up.

Secondly, while there is such a thing as too small, there is also such a thing as too big. Think of ever variation in size and shape of a penis you may have ever seen, and apply that to a woman's vagina. You'll get the idea.

Even if you were small, there's really nothing you can do about it that won't cause long-term damage. Just chill out, dump her ass, and go on w/ your life.

I know that my wife has been with larger than me, and smaller than me. You know what, I don't care. She's with me, and seems to prefer my cock to others. Seems to me that's what really matters in regards to my size.

maybe you could tell her that your penis hasn't been given the opportunity to reach its full potential as she's not attractive like all your other exes..now that's a way to kill a girl's spirit!

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No offense... but she's the one with the penis size problem... not you. You're most likely within AVERAGE size... which means the average woman will be more than happy with your 'equipment.' This woman is a bitch... a big, nasty, ****ing bitch... understand? Nothing wrong with your equipment... plenty of women are being pleasured by dicks very similar to your own --- thoroughly pleasured... deliriously pleasured... couldn't forget the guy's name if they're life depended on it because they're just in utter bliss kind of pleasured.

You need to take this bitch outside... give her a swift kick in the ass and send her to the curb. She's an insult to all the female gender... a terror to any other man that would have her... and just a terrible piece of cosmic debris.

No man deserves being made to feel insecure about his manhood.

The problem is her... not you... alright?

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If every woman had the respect and decency you have the world would be a happier place. BTW that goes for guys 2. how many times ive seen a guy be a complete C**t to his girlfriend. Some people dont have concsiences.

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Originally Posted by Aeradalia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

If a girl was talking like this... she'd be called a whore or slut... just to let you know...

However.. I guess you could get in a little grudge ****ing?

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yea...but girls and guys are diff though..it would hurt more for a girl to be known as a slut? meh...nvmm..iuno wut im talking about..im tired of studying..got a final 2mrw


yea...nuthin wrong wit grudge fu*king. just to let some steam out for all the sh*t she put me through.

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maybe you could tell her that your penis hasn't been given the opportunity to reach its full potential as she's not attractive like all your other exes..now that's a way to kill a girl's spirit!

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:D:D:D hmmm i would....but...iuno