Obsessive Love Disorder

Hi all, thanks for reading this.
(I'm new here)

Well, the title tells everything...I think I have Obsessive love disoreder..
The reason why I'm posting this here is becasue I want someone to listen to me. I don't want any solutions. sigh..I sound so immature..
anyway, here goes my story:
I'm 28, crazy Japanese girl. I broke up with my boyfriend almost 4months ago who meant a lot to me. We were talking about marriage, kids, house, and stuff. But it was a long distant relationship plus he was younger than me by 6years and free-spirited so things didn't go well. I loved him so much that I let him go as I reckoned it was the best I could do to respect him.
Anyway, I was Hurt! I cried! But 2 hours after we broke up,I was already heading to a club! Yeh, and I met a guy and slept with him. I was drunk that night but I don't feel bad about the one night stand.(it helped me forget about my ex for several hours)
And two weeks after, I've already made a new boyfriend. He asked me to become his girlfriend. I like him and we are officially going out but I'm already looking for another boyfrined. Becasue we are both losing interests in each other. (I'm going to break us up soon) This is just an example.
I'm ashamed to say but I've done the same thing over and over. (except with the younger boyfriend. we were together for 2 years..sigh) I've normally had two boyriends at the same time and if I lost interest in a guy, I simply ended it and cut off contacts.

I don't feel ashamed of the fact that I'm not subjected to "morality" and I love my life. I've always learnt a lot from boyfriends.
Yes, I know that I have low self esteem but yet I am happy who I am. mmmm
Anyway, thanks for reading my story!!!!!!

Your disorder has nothing to do with love.

"I'm ashamed to say but I've done the same thing over and over." & "I don't feel ashamed of the fact that I'm not subjected to "morality""

that basically sums up ur post, confusing and contradictory :p

so ur still looking for the right guy? good for u, maybe u have a strange way of looking but if it works for u then u dont need us to tell u to stop...

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Originally Posted by berry [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I've normally had two boyriends at the same time

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As long as you tell them both that this is the situation and they accept it then it should be fine.

It's only when you start lying and covering up the facts is when you start doing some serious damage. Mainly to yourself.

omoshiroiso ne?? anata wa hajime nihon poster.

anyways, getting back to your problem. i don't believe that such an illness exists. it's just as excuse that you are using because you can't stop thinking about your ex bf.

raverboy

I think the diagnosis is more likely to be "lack of impulse control".

Lack of impulse control... not meaning that control cannot be regained...

Perhaps a little self-discipline would help?

You guys are genious! Thanks for the replies :p
I guess I wanted to be diagnosed with some sort of disorder so that I may know the cause of my behaviour. But I guess there's not such thing as "Obsessive Love Disorder" I googled the word but I couldn't find any scientific articles about it.
But I feel lighter now, thanks to all of you guys! I wanted some attentions ><

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Originally Posted by berry [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You guys are genious! Thanks for the replies :p
I guess I wanted to be diagnosed with some sort of disorder so that I may know the cause of my behaviour. But I guess there's not such thing as "Obsessive Love Disorder" I googled the word but I couldn't find any scientific articles about it.
But I feel lighter now, thanks to all of you guys! I wanted some attentions ><

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That's why you wanted to be diagnosed with some sort of disorder. That's why you leapfrog from one guy to the next.

You crave the attention with no real regard to the consequences. I would seriously suggest learning some self-discipline... it's the only way to slow yourself down enough so you can think and be able to find what truly makes you happy.

to be honest ..... ur lyk that girl with the boyfriend hu gets really drunk and has no inhibitions and sleeps with you, only your not drunk. thats the natural you .. youre a player.

I spent 18 months being obsessed with someone. It consumed my every thought, every minute of the day. I loved him, hated him, loved him, hated him. My behaviour was very unattractive indeed. I spent some time in therapy and also went to SLAA (Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous). I have written a small book that may help people in the same situation. It is called When Love Has Gone - Coping with Obsession and can be found at whenlovehasgone.com Hopefully it could help you out in some way. Take care, Paul

warui onnanoko

Smells like spam...

Wish there were some eggs too... :)

mit der liebe besessen sein? quatsch. mit deinem schmollmund, vielleicht hast du deine selbstachtung weggegeben.

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Originally Posted by Gottfried [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

"Look at me, I speak German!"

So do I, dickweed, but you don't need to publicly advertise it in the hopes someone online respects you a little more.

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May not have gotten him respect.. but it definitely got him attention...

Aja wegen dem Forum muss ich den Anschluß herstellen!

Aeradlia, if it was me you were referring to, I certainly wasn't trying to spam - I complete relate to the situation and the first three chapters of the book I've written are free and I honestly think they could help.

I wasn't able to get over the guy I was obsessed with for what seemed like an eternity, but half the time I wouldn't even admit it to myself and transferred all of my affections onto other people. Yes, attention is a part of it, but then so is denial - denying both that what you had with the person you loved has ended, and a completely contradictory feeling of denial over the grief you are not allowing yourself to experience. Rushing into new relationships helps you forget the person you're in love with, but also means you don't have to face up to the fact that it's over; having someone else lavishing you with attention is like putting a plaster on a wound, but unfortunately it'll hurt even more when you rip it off.

You need to face up to the emotions that you're trying to surpress, and part of that involves giving yourself the space (particularly away from other men) to do that. Good luck, and let us know how it all goes. Paul

I would say lack of inhibition.

You are just a slut.