slip of the tongue?

Earlier, my boyfriend of 3 years and I were having sex, and his penis made a weird popping noise. It kind of freaked me out, and afterward, I asked if everything was ok. He kinda laughed, and said "Yeah, that always happens when I'm having sex!...with you..." The "with you" part of that sentence was definitely an afterthought. Am I being crazy to wonder if he's been having sex with someone other than me? Or was that a normal statement? I am struggling with a lot of crazy thoughts lately and I really don't know what to think about this. I would appreciate any thoughts on the matter.

You're making shit up, I think. Don't do that. Life is hard enough.

I've been on this forum for a short period of time and strongly believe if most of the posters here would simply communicate with their significant other posting here wouldnt be necessary.

That being said, ask your b/f what the hell he meant and if he's having sex with anyone else. You need to know for your own safety.

bring the convo up again and work ur way up to his response and dont be too strong on the suspision... i think he just tried to correct his mistake and made it worse.

You're probably overthinking things.

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Originally Posted by Tug [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I've been on this forum for a short period of time and strongly believe if most of the posters here would simply communicate with their significant other posting here wouldnt be necessary.

That being said, ask your b/f what the hell he meant and if he's having sex with anyone else. You need to know for your own safety.

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Well of course I asked him what he meant, but they wouldn't call it "cheating" if people admitted to it.....

Im sure he just meant people in the past. Your over thinking it.

I appreciate everyone's insight; I guess bottom line is that I just don't trust him. I've tried breaking things off with him in the past because of this, but we have a child together and he always guilts me with that. "You can't give up on our family" and similar statements. It's not that I'm giving up, I've tried really hard. But if you just flat out don't trust someone, do you think that trust can ever grow? I did trust him in the past, but he has lied to me about a few things (i've never caught him technically cheating or anything, but he has lied to me in the past). He's very secretive about his life. He owns his own business and its mobile, so he is constantly traveling all over the greater dallas area (which is huge). I really have no idea what goes on in his day, and he really makes no effort to share it with me. He's also very inconsistent. He'll call me several times a day just to say hi for a week solid. Then suddenly I won't hear from him except a quick text in the morning and then maybe a 1 minute phone call at night (we don't live together) for the next week. Does trust grow on its own, if the other person does NOTHING to help it? Any thoughts any one would care to share would be appreciated.

good call tug

in my opinion, you *need* to let him know that you're not at all satisfied with here hte relationship is at the moment. And that if he doesn't make an effort to meet your needs, you are going to leave. Take it or leave it. Some men, when faced with the actual threat of being left, get their acts together. If he doesn't, well at least you warned him. And don't let him pull that guilt trip bull shit on you. If you're unhappy and you've tried to work it out more than once, unsuccessfully, you have evry right to leave. Be strong! Much love. -twisted-

I agree with the majority that you should just straight up ask.

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I agree with the majority that you should just straight up ask.

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Again, I did ask, but again, they wouldn't call it cheating if people admitted to doing it.... Thanks to everyone for their insight. It is much appreciated.

why r u sleeping with him if u think he's cheating on u?

and u could tell us how he answered when u asked him about it, even if he didnt adnit it as such it could be pretty easy to tell depending on how he reacted

Kinda sounds like he just said it as he thought he'd dug himself a hole. If he'd said "happens when i'm having sex" it sounds awefully general, that would seem more suspicious i'd think. But then if you don't trust him you need to confront him, just not too forcefully.

Errr.. if you don't trust him, it's time to end things.

Don't let him guilt you by statements like you're "giving up on your family," -- that's ridiculous. Regardless of if you're together or not, he's still your childs father. Not being in a relationship doesn't change anything, especially since you don't live together. He'll still be involved with your kid and with you, just not in a relationship sense.

Seriously, don't stay in something you know you don't want.

If there's no trust, there's no relationship.

Can trust grow? Sure. When both people are honest and communicate their issues in a healthy manner, as well as put in the effort toward rebuilding it.

It doesn't sound like this guy is up for that sort of effort.

hey alovehangoverr don't make it look like the guy is at fault she's just a little possessive and if he's on trip i think you should also call him and just seing your post you can tell that the poor guy is the one doing everything to keep in touch with you .you should also understand that he's right about your child you should understand that a child needs a father i don't think you could explain to your child that you destroyed your family for something so stupid
i believe everyone is innocent until you prove that he's guilty:stuckup:

Well, when I asked him about it, he started to act like his feelings were hurt and like I was crazy for thinking that. Then he kind of tried to turn it around saying he didn't know if he could trust me, and how he wanted to go through my cell phone; stupid stuff like that. It doesn't matter, I ended things anyway. It's time!

wow lol.

Talk about paranoid!!

Firstly, I would think if it's a common occurrence when he's having sex than it must have happened at least several times before for him to know that. If this is the first time it's happened with you then the only way he would know is if he's been sleeping around with other people.

Secondly, his attempt to keep you with him by making you feel guilty with accusations of you of not caring about your family is a little hypocritical if you ask me. Because if he is cheating on you than he obviously doesn't care about the family himself.

I say do some investigating, like any woman would who suspects her partner of cheating. Approach him about again when you have some evidence to throw in his face.

Like I said, I've never technically caught him cheating, but that doesn't mean I haven't found hard evidence. It's difficult to admit when you've made bad choices, and I've made a bad choice by staying with him all this time. I know this! About a year ago, I found condoms in his truck (I'm on the pill). I found a note under his nightstand one time that said "Have a great day! Love-KC" or something to that effect. Judge me if you want, that's fine. I appreciate everyone's postings, it's nice to gain new perspective. Sometimes that's just what you need to finally understand what's really going on!