How being rejected changed my life
Hey everyone, I'm new here but I thought I'd share with you my life changing experience. After a hard break-up I had a couple years ago I have come to realize that its so much better to just spend time with your friends rather then trying to get with someone of the opposite sex. Here is what happened.....
Back in 2006 I started working at a store and there was this one girl there who I never thought anything about but one day we were doing the closing shift and we were talking and she asked me if I wanted to go see Clerks 2 with her. Couldn't pass up that opportunity so we exchanged phone numbers and I waited to hear from her. So the next day she calls up and we head out to the movie and had a great time. So this continues for about 6 months, we hung out together every week, having a great time. Come to find out she loved Disney, which I thought was the one thing no girl in the world would find interesting in a guy. All this time I found myself liking this girl more and more until one day she said "Yeah, I don't date guys because they are jerks, like my last bf." But I thought that's ok because at least we get to hang out. So one day I told her about going on a cruise and she said she had never been on a cruise before so I told her we should totally go one. Also about this time she told me about this customer she was talking to at work, which I didn't think anything about because she only mentioned him once. Now flash forward to the cruise. First night we were watching some video with the kids on the cruise and she said "You know it's a good thing Justin and I don't have to worry about having kids when we do it because I've got that taken care of" I sat there in shock "Justin? The guy she only mentioned once?" So back at the state room I asked her about this whole thing saying "I thought you said you didn't date guys?" and she said "No, what I meant to say was that I only date older guys" (She was 22 and Justin was 37). I couldn't take it so I just went out on deck and was walking around thinking to myself "Should I have said something to her?" then all of a sudden I hear a voice say "If you were waiting for the opportune moment, that was it." I look up and said "Lord?" and it turns out it was Johnny Depp, they were playing Pirates on the pool screen. So anyway her and Justin started going out but I thought "Well it's ok because we can still hang out" which started to change from every week to once a month if I was lucky. And yet, it seems like I did everything for that girl. When I first met her she told me that her brother sold her electronic keyboard for drug money so for her birthday I spent a month before hand finding a keyboard, stand, etc. even made a homemade song book. What did her bf do? He said "Wait? It's your birthday?" Then about 7 months later I told her about a concert I wanted to go to and that she should come. The concert was 3 months away and I told her everyday to ask for the day off. 2 days before hand I asked her if she was ready and she said "Oh well, I don't have to work that day but I have to work the next day and I'd be to tired the next day." I lost it and ever since then we haven't talked.
Three years later I realized that I was just the tool to keep her happy from one bf to the other. Also, I have thought it over and I have come to the conclusion that why do I really need to date? I can do everything I did with her, with my guy friends. I am perfectly happy being my own person, doing great in school, have an awesome job, and have great friends who will always be there when times are down. I am enjoying the single life. I really love anything to do with Disney and I go there often, it really is something that I feel fills the void of not being with anyone. As far as sex goes I figure if your not having a child, what's the point? I can go do something I enjoy like editing movies or spending the day at Disney and have just as much fun as having 10 minutes of "pleasure" with someone who will just end up making fun of you behind you back. I guess what I'm trying to say is that even though breaking up might hurt, sometimes it can work out for the best.
