feel life is hopeless.
9 months after the breakup.
why i still feel shit.
feel like want to kill myself.
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feel life is hopeless.
9 months after the breakup.
why i still feel shit.
feel like want to kill myself.
You as happy as you want to be, set yourself goals and get something to o like a hobby or something, get your life back to the way it was before the ex... only better.
Keep yourself busy thats the key to getting over things, also if you have any pictures; phone numbers; clothing throw them away, dont keep anything of the ex, no reminders nothing, try going to the gym and doing things that will make you feel good about yourself.
Go wild and enjoy it, life will seem so much easier once you get started, no one deserves to fill this way and you need to get out of your shell, go clubbing eating out whatever you can imagine.... just have a good time!
I agree with Savanah. I'm doing the same, restructuring my priorities and orienting my goals towards myself. I find a lot of people, including myself, put a lot of worth in a loved one, which is by no means wrong. However, whether you put that emphasis there, or it develops over the course of a meaningful relationship, you must be able to detach from it and learn exactly how to stay on course with your life. That's they key here, LIFE. Try to stray away from thoughts of death, and negativity. Stay positive, no matter how hard. Now is the time to be selfish, forget other people and strive to do all you can with your life.Quote:
Originally Posted by SAVANAH [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well, are you taking care of your health? If you're not eating or sleeping or getting any sunshine, you're probably in a chemical tailspin and you don't even have a chance of getting over the breakup.
I swear, someday I'm going to start Camp Heartbreak, a place where people go to get over getting dumped. Good food, nature walks, shoulders to cry on, we'd have everything. Even a Wallowing Room, with romantic movies and sad songs. Plenty of Kleenex.
Just hang on until I get it up and running, okay moonie?
You'd be selecting for the really bad cases tho.
I think you should look into a partnership with Hedonism. Your grads are sent there when the week is up:
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giga, that is a frikin brilliant idea!
moon you and i both broke up with our ex's at the same time and i found only really recently after dating a not so fantastic guy that life is so much better without a man. deffo start looking after your health and hang out more with friends, you'll find men may be the topic of many a conversation but not in the lovey dovey sense, it's so refreshing and rejuvinating to have a man bashing session with your friends, go do it now! you'll feel great!
There is or was a tv show on german tv called ' club of ex wifes' (i think it was on US tv as well) , they helped women after breakup or divorce to get over their ex partners (including - destroying some of belongings of their exes :P ) .But nice idea of Yours.Quote:
Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Moon, it's not worth to take Your life because of Yourself,it's even less worth to take a life because of somebody else.Imagine how many people would You make sad because of it.Or could be even worst, You would survive but become handicap for the rest of Your life(that happens too). Leave depression for Emo's. There more plenty fish in the sea ,girl.
And stop listen to the 'moon river' by Audrey Hepburn,as I assume You're a fan of it(Your nickname ;) ) .I was listening to it ,and it was putting me in a worst depression. Try 'I hate You so much right now' by Kelis or 'Kim' by Eminem and then try something happy like Britney Spears or something... hahahahaha:D
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Originally Posted by moonriverlove [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You may feel like you want to kill yourself, but i know won't because if you did, you would have done it already and not come on here looking for help :)
So, the reason you probably still feel down is because you can't stop thinking about your ex and how perfect and lovely things seemed to be before it went horribly wrong at the end. Unfortunately fairytale endings rarely happen to anyone so instead of seeing it as the end of your life - see it as a chapter in your life that has ended.
Learn from it - you will find love again :) - but like others have said, you need to find yourself and learn again how to live independently first. So keep busy (it really does work! :) ) and stay in touch with everyone else who makes you feel good beside your ex.
God will make sure that you end up with the life He planned for you and this relationship happened so you could learn something either from the break up or from your ex (ie some people change when they meet a certain person, making them better people themselves)
So come on, what are you waiting for? There's a whole life ahead of you! Explore it and enjoy it whilst you are here living in all its glory! :D
X
i'd just sleep around.
we need to open male and female whore houses.
Heh... you want to kill yourself because of a measely broken heart?Quote:
Originally Posted by moonriverlove [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
My roommate just ditched me... took all my stuff... I lost my job... and I've been living out of my car for the past week... luckily the air card for this laptop won't be turned off for another 7 days.
Shit... there's always someone worse off than you. I'm ****ing homeless in Dallas... if there is anyone more inclined to put a bullet through the brain... it'd be me... ****...
"Measely broken heart?"
Whatever happened to passion?
I understand the situation, I go out a lot now, socialise, but really it is shit, it just is.
When they break up with you it is almost like they died, and I know that if my ex (while she was my GF) had died, I'd probably want no more place here.
Hi, you would be killing the wrong person..... beleive me what you are going through will pass. As painful as it seems just now you will experinece diffferent feelings as time goes on. That is the healing process. However we can make thie process easier.
Share about it with whoever will listen. Be honest about why it broke up. Was it something that you need to look at within you, or, was it something that your partner was/did that made it necessary for it to end. Whichever way THATS OKAY.
I have been split from my ex for 7 months now and....I saw her last night at a dance and it still hurts, however * it is different and, it is a lot better than how it was.
Keep believeing it will get better and you deserve to get better. See a counselloor if you can/have to. Normally when a relationship ends we have 'given our power away under the guise of Love'. However the lesson to be learnt is that the better option is to Love ourselves by reclaiming our power.
Good to look at topics like detachment and boundaries. maybe do a search on the internet.
Anyway, I wish you all the best. its not easy, however it will get better....however it wont pass by magic and there comes a point where we need to quit thinking that feeling sorry for ourselves will change things. Mmmm nope. Some time it will be time to say "**** it....enough" Shoulders back, deep breath and get stuck in tio being the best you.
I would never consider killing myself over a female
Dude, why kill yourself
Seriously why??
People break up everyday ok...I broke up withmy GF and it sucks ok.I cant eat or sleep or think about anyone else, but NEVER conimplating killing yourself
Dude heartbreaks happen,there will be more in your life...hopefully not many but there will be
Dude tbh I felt the same a few weeks back, but what will it achieve, Killing yourself will ruin your familys life, friends life and also make the girl think OMG WTF IS HE ABOUT
sorruy about the heartbreak :(
Because you haven't yet realized how to emotionally assassinate someone who has done you wrong.Quote:
Originally Posted by moonriverlove [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You instead turn that fear and loathing upon yourself.
You have two ways to go. Forwards or backwards, and let me tell you.... there is no forward hiding in the backward.
Have a few drinks, tokes, random rolls in the hay... whatever gets your goat.
Burn his shit.... curse the punk... and then move on.
Think he did it?
I don't. But I doubt anything people said make much of a difference when you're feeling like that.
It's as if your best friend died.
haha, that sounds like my idea of purgatory!Quote:
Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
hey man!
dont do that!once I felt bad for 3 years for a girl...i though ipassed over her, whil inside of me I was still thinking to her...
then I took another crash, years later..worst than the first one...i went in depression, really serious situation, I also though to make it stop stopping my life...just dont do that!its useless!
this page really heped me, and the book this guy propose here: squidoo.com/get-your-ex-back-fix-your-broken-heart
hope it will help you..let me know
I just had a really bad break up yesterday with someone that i had been with for 2 yrs. I can't sleep i stay up all night crying. He ran off and texts me but won't answer his phone. I myself have never been in a relationship that long and i don't know how to cope, but time heals all wounds. You just know for next time not to let your gaurd down. I know that im being cheated on and that hurts even worse to know that he's sleeping next to someone else and doing god knows what with who. when he was suppose to be mine. i just feel like i was being used all along but still i smile. Let it out at night,cry, do some voodoo anything just don't kill urself and if my pain isn't gone in 9 mos im sure ill feel the same way. but don't think no one cares. I wish i could hurt anyone that makes a person feel the way you do.
Unfortunatly when you get into a relationship with someone at one point one of you will lose each other, it's life.
Break up's are hard and I struggle sometimes even 3 months after she broke up with me. The best thing I did was to completely cut ties with her, I found that things that reminded me of her were really bad for me. Not being reminded every day helps you to move on.
She wanted to be friends but I found this to be very hard for me so I cut ties. I think depending on how you take it you should consider cutting ties, if it makes you feel like suicide etc.
The only person you need to care about is yourself. As stated before in this thread, keeping busy and active really helps you to move on.
you can get over that as quickly as you want boy...
;)