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my girl asked for space coz we are currently solving some issues regarding her sorority group. then it keeps our relationship hanging.. from the very start i don't want her to be involved in any sorority.now were like in a cool off situation and asking for time and space to let her think on her own?? gurls??? please answers why do you need space if you really love youre partners!:(:(
It makes it easier to move on
space means a break up is coming soon..sorry :(
but she told me that she loved me..and shes mine no matter happens.
They always say crap like that to keep you waiting.
Not much you can do. The ball is in her court. Either end it or wait.
what should i do now then?
Take what she says word value. Nobody is a mindreader, despite the fact some pretend they are.Quote:
Originally Posted by elz [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
My wife and I on a regular base take something called *me* time, which means that we take a break from the relation for a few weeks.
This is in order to maintain our individuality and refuell our batteries. We're both very independent individuals.
So for all you know, she just needs some *me* time.
Like I said... take whatever she says word value. All the rest is trust. If you trust her and she trusts you, it shouldn't be a problem.
If she breaks that trust, then you have reasons to worrie.
Hope I am making sense here.
ygg is right, i feel bad for assuming otherwise, it may be usual for a break to come but it is not always standard. wait and see
Nothing to feel bad about it eco.Quote:
Originally Posted by ecojeanne [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm only trying to point out there may be other reasons for asking space and that it's not necesairely an indication for an eminent breakup.
She just may need some me time, or she may feel a bit smothered and need some space, she may need to refuel her batteries, she may just need a break from the relation or she may just be wanting to be focusing on her new friends right now and experience some high life. Who knows. Only she does.
Pushing her and comming over as needy and clingy are a far better way to push her away as just giving her what she's asking for.
That's just my opinion of course.
Anyways, it's not always as bad as it appears, that's my point.
ygg,,
its our anniversary this week.. should i let her to do the things that she wants like giving like have what you said the me time? its kinda hard because this week is very special tome.
I would leave that up to her. If she considers it important, I am quite sure she'll somehow hint you.Quote:
Originally Posted by elz [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Or, you could very carefully inquire what her plans are for that day, but don't push it, just ask casual: btw: do you have anything planned for (friday the 13th)???
i want to suprise her fetch her from school and bring some flowers.. but it is ok if i will tell her that if i can fetch her?
If she has asked for space, the best thing you can do right now is give it to her.
If she is looking to distance herself from you to make a breakup easier, her desperately needy soon-to-be ex will only make her that much more certain that it's the right thing to do.
If she just wants some breathing room to get situated in her new sorority, she'll be back shortly, and she'll appreciate her supportive poopiekins that much more.
Either way, I would suggest sending the occasional text, card, bouquet of flowers, stuffed animals, etc. (extra emphasis on "occasional") to remind her of all of the good things about you.
thanks for that little pingoin.. i used to fetch her to school yesterday with flowers on my hand as a gift because its her birthday. But i felt so unsure on my feelings when i saw her.. its like she's not happy.
little pingoin, I understand what you are saying, and years ago I would have said the same.
However, it's a woman we are talking about here: you ALWAYS lose.
If he doesn't (very carefully inquire) she may hold it against him, if he does (very carefully inquire) she may hold it against him, all depending on what her intentions are.
I would very carefully and casualy inquire, without pushing it, them leave the ball in her camp.
No answer from her is an answer to.
I hope that answers your question elz.
Now be smart and back of about 3000 miles. Don't even think about contacting her, asking her something, even looking at her.Quote:
Originally Posted by elz [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
You have made your point, now back off.. seriously, and let her come to you.
give her space.
but you know,
some girls do that so they can move on easy..
Agreed, but either way one has to back off when someone asks for space.Quote:
Originally Posted by Gray [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
1: if they really want space, not giving it to them will push them farther away, leading to a permanent breakup;
2: if they use it as a means to break up, then no matter what you do, they're not gona come back. In that case, all you're doing is making a fool of yourself.
So in either case, the smart thing to do is give the space asked for.
It's pretty much common sense isn't it?