So... I effectively ended 2 relationship today by default

Yes.... I was still talking to this girl on and off, even though it should've been off a long time ago...

So this is what happened. She called me again, and in that conversation I asked her if she loves me. She says "I can't answer that anymore" then I said "why?" her response, "cuz then *her bf* (lets call him michael) will be so angry with me. and i don't wanna hurt him..

I was like, that didn't stop your ass when you told me you loved me every night for 3 months AFTER getting back with him, kissed me, went out with me on lots of dates, and all that other shit we did.


I was like, so all this time i was right, you don't give a **** about me u weren't concerned one damn bit about hurting me with what you did to me, but now you put this guys feelings at that level of importance? I should tell him exactly what happened between you and I, then what?

She was like fine do it, then we'll both be lonely. (meaning that she'd have to feel MY pain) and as you can guess that set me off, so i said, "ok, maybe i will"

Then she said, "**** you I hate you" then i was calling she wasn't answering and she deleted and blocked every way i had of contacting her..

So at that point, I sent her bf a long message via facebook describing everything that took place between she and I.... So I by default effectively ended 2 relationships today. Undoubtedly she will never speak to me again..... and most likely her bf is gonna dump her. Even she knew that, that's why she got so pissed. Should I be regretting this?

LOL, as an update I got a txt message from her saying "thanks for making my bf break up with me. I can't believe you betrayed me. I'm never talking to you again. **** you" and I actually LOL'd. Serves her right!

You let someone affect you that much? You would do something so spiteful? You don't have very much self-respect, Survivor. I feel bad for both of you. What she did was wrong, but she dragged you down with her. If I were dating a guy who told me he had done something like that, I would stop dating him immediately. Very immature.

These things have a way of coming back to bite you, kiddo. Karma is a bitch.

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Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You let someone affect you that much? You would do something so spiteful? You don't have very much self-respect, Survivor. I feel bad for both of you. What she did was wrong, but she dragged you down with her. If I were dating a guy who told me he had done something like that, I would stop dating him immediately. Very immature.

These things have a way of coming back to bite you, kiddo. Karma is a bitch.

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Dude.

Cheating IS spiteful. Messing with love is even more!

She was a liar, she deserved it good, and her (ex) boyfriend isn't a puppy living in unknown, believing all her lies, anymore.

Basically, he did a favor.

And actually I`m glad You did it. If a girl that my ex was cheating on me with never told me about it maybe I would still be with his sorry ass.
It`s not good that You were with a girl that has a bf but it`s good that You made him know how she really is. There should be more people like this.

I know right? Call me dumb, spiteful, immature, whatever, but honestly I did this for him more than I did it for me. He lives miles away from her and was never gonna know about any of this... She made sure of that.

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Originally Posted by soulsurvivor23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

So this is what happened. She called me again, and in that conversation I asked her if she loves me. She says "I can't answer that anymore" then I said "why?" her response, "cuz then *her bf* (lets call him michael) will be so angry with me. and i don't wanna hurt him..

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Why should she avoid answering you that question when she has a BF already? Unless she still have feelings for you. If I already moved on and have a BF and my ex would ask me that question, I'd give him a straight answer.

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I was like, that didn't stop your ass when you told me you loved me every night for 3 months AFTER getting back with him, kissed me, went out with me on lots of dates, and all that other shit we did.

I was like, so all this time i was right, you don't give a **** about me u weren't concerned one damn bit about hurting me with what you did to me, but now you put this guys feelings at that level of importance? I should tell him exactly what happened between you and I, then what?

She was like fine do it, then we'll both be lonely. (meaning that she'd have to feel MY pain) and as you can guess that set me off, so i said, "ok, maybe i will"

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Well, I know she deserves it. Might have done the very same stuff if I was still in contact with the person I'm involved with. However, after a break-up, I'd totally go for NC. Helps a lot to get that person out of my system.

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Then she said, "**** you I hate you" then i was calling she wasn't answering and she deleted and blocked every way i had of contacting her..

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At least you've got that straight.:lol:Now, you totally know how she feels about you.

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Undoubtedly she will never speak to me again..... and most likely her bf is gonna dump her. Even she knew that, that's why she got so pissed. Should I be regretting this?

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You've got that right. After what you did? Who wouldn't if somebody was in that circumstances. Why? Do you feel like you've done something wrong? Examine how you feel about what you did.

haha good on you i say.
****ing north american girls have to learn they can't pull shit like this,
They have no loyalty.
Good job hopefully she learned her lesson.

I don't think any valuable lessons were learned out of this. All involved will most likely repeat the same with other people.

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Originally Posted by boobaa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Dude.

Cheating IS spiteful. Messing with love is even more!

She was a liar, she deserved it good, and her (ex) boyfriend isn't a puppy living in unknown, believing all her lies, anymore.

Basically, he did a favor.

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He wasn't trying to do this guy a favour. He was trying to humiliate her, and he ended up looking like an ass in the process b/c he did it openly on Facebook where everyone could read it. Not just the people involved.

If he couldn't just walk away, then much smarter would have been a heads up in person (privately), a phone call to this guy or at least a PM. Then, it would be up to her BF to divulge how he found out. Chances are, he'd just break up with her, but not say why (unless he's just as immature as the other 2).

You kids need to learn that, even when someone deserves it, throwing shit will generally get you spattered as well. :P

Maybe I'm just not a good person.. but I'd say after the shit you were put through, her leading you on, revenge was only fair. lol

Despite my stance on relationships I really hope this girl's boyfriend tracks you down and beats you bloody. You deserve it.

Actually it was a private message to him so only he saw it...

Anyways, as an update to this crazy ridiculous never ending saga... (and yes i know i'm immune to advice so why am I here.
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Basically after breaking up with her, amazingly she then told him every detail about what had happened, and they got back together.. Then he sent me a reply saying "she's my queen, I love her and she loves me, and she promised she's gonna be real with me from now on, so i don't care about what you did with her cuz she said you mean nothing to her. bye!"

Then, after that message made me pretty much feel like scum, SHE calls me maybe a few hours later and says that I mean a lot to her and that she wants to keep my friendship.. But that in order for us to be friends, I have to apologize and ask for his friendship too..... And that we have to be friends only from now on, with nothing extracurricular. So now i'm thinking, wow, it's crazy how that message made their relatiionship BETTER. lol. My luck with women is just rock bottom these days. I need to just start having crazy ridiculous one night stands.

Well, much to the dismay of probably everyone in here who gave me advice, I decided that i'd rather have her as a friend in my life than not at all. However...... that doesn't mean that i'm not gonna be looking in the mean time.

I agree! No doubt! big no no

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Originally Posted by soulsurvivor23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Actually it was a private message to him so only he saw it...

Anyways, as an update to this crazy ridiculous never ending saga... (and yes i know i'm immune to advice so why am I here.
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Basically after breaking up with her, amazingly she then told him every detail about what had happened, and they got back together.. Then he sent me a reply saying "she's my queen, I love her and she loves me, and she promised she's gonna be real with me from now on, so i don't care about what you did with her cuz she said you mean nothing to her. bye!"

Then, after that message made me pretty much feel like scum, SHE calls me maybe a few hours later and says that I mean a lot to her and that she wants to keep my friendship.. But that in order for us to be friends, I have to apologize and ask for his friendship too..... And that we have to be friends only from now on, with nothing extracurricular. So now i'm thinking, wow, it's crazy how that message made their relatiionship BETTER. lol. My luck with women is just rock bottom these days. I need to just start having crazy ridiculous one night stands.

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LOL! Sorry but I think that's just hilarious. I saw this coming from miles away. She really, REALLY must have put on a good act for him, not to mention overdoing herself in the bedroom that night. :lol:

Don't worry, tho. He will dump her within the month. You'll see.

Ignore her, dude.

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Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

LOL! Sorry but I think that's just hilarious. I saw this coming from miles away. She really, REALLY must have put on a good act for him, not to mention overdoing herself in the bedroom that night. :lol:

Don't worry, tho. He will dump her within the month. You'll see.

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It's just my emotions talking. Quite honestly, she conned him. She knew she conned him. She cheated on him and she'd do it again 10 times over (though i'm sure not with me anymore due to me telling him about it). So it's probably better for me, no matter how tough it feels, that I never ended up being in a relationship with her. Cuz if my girl cheated on me for 9 months and then decided to confess after being put on blast, that would be the point of no return for me.

Survivor, you were knowingly dating a girl who was cheating on her BF. Its rather easy to think you are somehow getting what you deserve.

Have more self-respect, young man. Is it really that hard to find a decent gal to date?

They might deserve each other, AJ. See my last. Remember, he DID know this gal was already seeing someone else. That makes him at least complicit in the cheating.

Wrong... I've known her for 9 months, I knew of him for 3 of those months... So no, I wasn't knowingly messing around with a taken woman.

My mistake Survivor, sorry. Well, in this case walking away clean seems your best bet. B/c you know being 'friends' with her will just mean she's got designs on you and, if you didn't know it before, now you do.

When this guy breaks up with her again tell the guy.....hey, I told you that you'd be digging your own grave, dude. But then again, we never learn till we experience pain.

You know her personality, so she's bound to repeat the same mistakes if she doesn't learn anything from her failures.

ok even your intention wasnt all that justified. still i think the bf had every right to know what she did. and it's girls like that give the rest of us rep. well done. indeed serves her right!

Well... the way I feel about it a few days later is that I did the right thing, but for the wrong reasons.

As for the situation that happened between herself and me prior to that message I sent, I still don't feel like i'm the one in the wrong. She was the one who was probably telling both of us that she loves us, while doing everything under the sun with me while her bf wasn't around.