unconditional Love

Much of the time our love for someone comes from how well they are able to satisfy our needs and desires. Once they stop fulfilling those needs and desires, we start resenting them. We are very rarely unselfish in love. Love is coexisting, not because you want to or don't want to, but because it is in tune with the natural harmony of the universe to do so. We only need someone when we are not fully aware of ourselves, when we don't see how accepting all of life is of us and how every moment of our lives shows us our interconnectedness with all of life. When you see this, "you" or your ego is no longer there and you are aware of the constant love that is recreating all of life moment to moment. THat is why they say that God is love. Only then can you have a honest and true relationship with someone, only then do you not impose yourself on them anymore. You are free together and share everything together because you know nothing is your own.
If you want to read more about spiritual love, go to thetruthisalie dot com and click on the entry called "The Present". I recently found it online and it is redefining how I think about relationships and all of life. It is also free so that is not a problem.
Also another book that talks about what true love is; "The Pussy" by Kill Gib. check it out !

Gibran says:
"when you love you are in the heart of God"

oh and that link above is [url]www.thetruthcontest.com[/url] and the book is called "the Present"

I'm starting to become a bit tired of hearing this contineous bullshit about unconditional love which makes you lose yourself in your partner. There is no worse relation than a (co) dependent relation.

If you love me unconditionaly, you'll do everything for me (including killing someone).

That's the bullshit that's being talked about here. Total loss of individuality.

Unconditional love only exists between a parent and a child, and only sometimes.

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Originally Posted by true1 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Gibran says:
"when you love you are in the heart of God"

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Or the mouth of Hell.

I only have about 1 year of relationship experience in total. (1 x 3 months, 1 x 9 months and counting)

But i do know that a relationship and love are two different things.

You could potentially love a person without any conditions, he/she can become a wife/man beating, drugs using, sadistic serial killer who wouldnt give you the time of the day and you still could be willing to lay down your life for that person in the blink of an eye. Love can be a one way street.

But a relationship is give and take. A unbalanced relationship is going to leave one of the two partners feel used or unappreciated, his/her needs unfulfilled. A (healthy) relationship is a two way street.

Great post true1! Absolutely beautiful.

I opened that book called The Present at The Truth Contest and read the section on relationships around page 200. It was so good that I decided to read from the beginning. This is the most amazing book I have ever seen; everyone should take a look at it. It is free and it is easy to read. I am in complete amazement by what it says, even though it seems so obvious. Thank you so much for sharing this book!

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Unconditional love only exists between a parent and a child, and only sometimes.

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What about in between a human and a dog?

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Originally Posted by Yggdrasil [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

That's the bullshit that's being talked about here. Total loss of individuality.

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It is the exact opposite. Total loss of individuality is true love. Satisfying each other's egos is just playing mind games.

My sister could hate my guts. She could be out to kill me. I'd still love her.

If my parrot (I don't have a dog) decided to attack me I'd twist the li'l bastard's head off and fry him up.

Total loss of individuality is true love? Wtf? No, it's not. Respecting and accepting the other person's individuality is true love.

True1, you're a triple posting faggot.

Jethro, you're a cunt.

I see that what you both share in common is that you're both sheep.

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Total loss of individuality is true love? Wtf? No, it's not. Respecting and accepting the other person's individuality is true love.

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I wish I could thank you multiple times for a single post.

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Originally Posted by Yggdrasil [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I'm starting to become a bit tired of hearing this contineous bullshit about unconditional love which makes you lose yourself in your partner. There is no worse relation than a (co) dependent relation.

If you love me unconditionaly, you'll do everything for me (including killing someone).

That's the bullshit that's being talked about here. Total loss of individuality.

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All relationships are co dependent you silly idiot. Loss of individuality is what makes a relationship, if not the very definition of.

Your children should be sterilized for the good of humanity.

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Originally Posted by 1averagejoe [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You sound like you've already been castrated...

So you're a nice guy, ha? I bet you aren't the one wearing the pants in your relationships. Sounds more like the one that gets walked all over by women.

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Actually, women pick me up. I don't have to do anything. In fact, I have women fight over me.

And the silly comment about castration?

Son, I have bedded some of the finest women in the South. I get approached by women when they first meet me and some proposition me in front of their boyfriends. Sometimes husbands.

I am gods gift to women.

You wish you were me.

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Actually, women pick me up. I don't have to do anything. In fact, I have women fight over me.

And the silly comment about castration?

Son, I have bedded some of the finest women in the South. I get approached by women when they first meet me and some proposition me in front of their boyfriends. Sometimes husbands.

I am gods gift to women.

You wish you were me.

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HAHAHAH*SNORT*HAHAHAAHAHA! ****, man, you are high-larious. Damn. I best watch out, you might steal away my wimmins with your manly musk and your chiseled jaw.

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Actually, women pick me up. I don't have to do anything. In fact, I have women fight over me.

And the silly comment about castration?

Son, I have bedded some of the finest women in the South. I get approached by women when they first meet me and some proposition me in front of their boyfriends. Sometimes husbands.

I am gods gift to women.

You wish you were me.

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Yuck. You are a poor representation of the male gender, my friend.

And these 'finest' women you speak of....well, they sure sound like real prizes (*cough*whores*cough) to me. Good for you!

:D

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Originally Posted by bluesummer [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yuck. You are a poor representation of the male gender, my friend.

And these 'finest' women you speak of....well, they sure sound like real prizes (*cough*whores*cough) to me. Good for you!

:D

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They are. Every single one of them has a place in my heart. My life is better from them having been in it.

Life is best when there are lots of beautiful women around. The greeks would put their pregnant women around beautiful scenes, so they could contemplate the imagery.

That is the epitomy of romance. Being around the opposite sex and contemplating beauty.


You sound insecure. If you have problems with your sexuality, it is not my fault.

Sorry.

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HAHAHAH*SNORT*HAHAHAAHAHA! ****, man, you are high-larious. Damn. I best watch out, you might steal away my wimmins with your manly musk and your chiseled jaw.

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I have no chiseled jawr and nor do I have manly musk.

I have french sissy metromusk and the chics seem to dig it.

French sissy musk good. Old spice piss.

Nope, not insecure. You just sound like the typical predatory male, and I don't like those.

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Originally Posted by bluesummer [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Nope, not insecure. You just sound like the typical predatory male, and I don't like those.

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Well I don't dig chicks who have ghandi quotes in their sigs so I guess we won't be sipping on grenache together, will we?

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Originally Posted by 1averagejoe [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

In other words you don't dig chicks that are too smart to look passed your arrogance, won't let you get them drunk, and spread their legs?

Ahhhhh...this is how "God's gift" works.

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What, me arrogant?

Of course I am arrogant. From your perspective.

And I like to drink with womens. Why do you bring up "spreading legs"?

Why do you care what others do? Who are you protecting?

What ideas have been placed within your cranium that would make you think what you think??

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Originally Posted by MrNiceGuy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

All relationships are co dependent you silly idiot. Loss of individuality is what makes a relationship, if not the very definition of.

Your children should be sterilized for the good of humanity.

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All relationships are co dependent?

Silly idiot?

My children should be sterilized?

Do you honestly think that you even in the slightest manner are able to intimidate me with this kind of abusive, derogative and patronizing language?

I've done this before and I have not a single problem with it: you are on ignore.

Ah, Ygg. You crack me up.

I've never seen someone use ignore on so many people.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Ah, Ygg. You crack me up.

I've never seen someone use ignore on so many people.

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I am glad I could make your day :)

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Unconditional love only exists between a parent and a child, and only sometimes.

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You are full of shit and obviously never experienced unconditional love.

Sorry.

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Originally Posted by MrNiceGuy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You are full of shit and obviously never experienced unconditional love.

Sorry.

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You're wrong.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You're wrong.

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Oh, look. It speaks.

What am I exactly "wrong" about in your all knowing mind, frisbee?

There are always conditions.

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

There are always conditions.

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false.

Maybe in your mind. Not in mine.

Sorry.

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Originally Posted by MrNiceGuy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

false.

Maybe in your mind. Not in mine.

Sorry.

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Doesn't make you any less wrong.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Doesn't make you any less wrong.

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You can have unconditional love for anyone. It is a givin' type of thing.

Giving unconditionally a smile to someone frowning. Making that person happy.

Giving someone a hug.

Touching someone when you are talking with them.

Making eye contact while talking and saying a persons name when conversing.

Those are just a few things you can do. Or you can open your heart up and actually feel empathy for another human by seeing them and everything is one.

Seeing the depth of their suffering and see that a lot of it isn't really their fault. More like a sick society that seems to keep maladjusting people to nature and each other.


So if they are hurting, a part of you is hurting.

This is a total experience in life. The animals and nature are ever changing.

Humanity is not changing but hardening and that is not a good thing.

Why have a civilization that is not based upon love?

So it can parade across the universe in coffins killing the dead? No thanks.

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Originally Posted by MrNiceGuy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You can have unconditional love for anyone. It is a givin' type of thing.

Giving unconditionally a smile to someone frowning. Making that person happy.

Giving someone a hug.

Touching someone when you are talking with them.

Making eye contact while talking and saying a persons name when conversing.

Those are just a few things you can do. Or you can open your heart up and actually feel empathy for another human by seeing them and everything is one.

Seeing the depth of their suffering and see that a lot of it isn't really their fault. More like a sick society that seems to keep maladjusting people to nature and each other.


So if they are hurting, a part of you is hurting.

This is a total experience in life. The animals and nature are ever changing.

Humanity is not changing but hardening and that is not a good thing.

Why have a civilization that is not based upon love?

So it can parade across the universe in coffins killing the dead? No thanks.

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Who are you, Jesus?

That's okay, he was wrong too.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Who are you, Jesus?

That's okay, he was wrong too.

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Not jesus.

But you are wrong. Your mind thinks you are right, but alas, it tis not so....


so solly.

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Originally Posted by MrNiceGuy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Not jesus.

But you are wrong. Your mind thinks you are right, but alas, it tis not so....


so solly.

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You're even spelling incorrectly.

It just keeps getting worse.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You're even spelling incorrectly.

It just keeps getting worse.

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I know. What next?

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Originally Posted by MrNiceGuy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Actually, women pick me up. I don't have to do anything. In fact, I have women fight over me.

Son, I have bedded some of the finest women in the South. I get approached by women when they first meet me and some proposition me in front of their boyfriends. Sometimes husbands.

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Only someone who's not getting any or a virgin would say something as ridiculous as that

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Originally Posted by MrNiceGuy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

false.

Maybe in your mind. Not in mine.

Sorry.

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Must be true than because; my mind > your mind.

I believe that you would only can feels unconditional love does exit when you just gave birth to your first child. I had that experience when I had my first child. Te feeling just came with after birth. I don't know if any mothers out there had same experience as me???

About love relationship, I think when you come into the stage crazy in love, you think it's unconditional love but it's not. It's a feelings that you think you are in love but don't want to control you feeling.