Stupid stuff

Okay, i have been dating this girl that i am truly, deeply in love with. We were not supposed to date in the first place because her parents don't believe in interracial dating. i know it's stupid to be talking about here but none of my friends knew what to say to me about it. We have been together for over a year and then we broke up in june. we still talk but now she's talking to this other guy and i am horribly bitter about it. if it werent for the way that the sun reflects light off of my skin, then she'd still be mine. i dont know whether or not ot be mad at her parents or at myself for not being white. i love her more than i lvoe myself and it kills me to know that i can't have her. how can i get over her? It makes me so mad to know that there are still people in the world like that. I tried so hard to be that exception, that special guy that her parents would like and they do like me, they just dont like us. i hate it. i dont even know how i let myself fall for her but i did and i dont regret it. i just wish that i could still have her. can someone help me with this. i cant stand the thought of her being with some other guy just because of all this stupid stuff. im sorry if im not making any sense.

Did you try to go out with her in her parents back ?

yeah we kept it a secret for that whole year

Why not continuing ?

we just decided that it was time to. but deep down i didnt want it to end.

we figured that nothing would come of it if we were to keep going. we probably would have stayed together forever if it werent for the fact that im not white. it hurts so bad and i hate that.

I can understand your feeling. Try to be stronger. I am white and i do like black people !!

Did her parents see you and her together ?
Can't you see eachother at school or on week-ends ?
Does she really love you ?

no they never saw us together but they knew she had feelings for me so they would try to tell her that it was wrong and stuff.

we did see eachother after school at school and on weekends. we just couldnt show affection in public or at school because a lot of people know her parents and they might see and say that they saw her with me, not knowing what they think

yes, she loves me. she cries everytime she talks about how much she loves me. she was with me for over a year, she kept the secret that long because she loved me that much. she would lie to her friends and to her family about what she was doing just so whe can be with me. eventually her friends found out and they werent suprised, in fact they welcomed the fact that we dated but her parents still remained unchanged about us.

She must have a talk with her parents. If their parents do not agree with her then you can talk with them and prove you are human with one thing different your skin's color.

she already tried that

i dont want to talk to them. but the point is that she has found some guy now and im extremely bitter. how can i get myself to accept that i can't have her anymore and i should let someonelse.

In france its the same things, White people allways hear that black people make troubles and stuff, then when they see a black people they feel bad. I thought racism was finnished in USA !?

racism will always be around. as long as ignorance is around.

Don't let someone else. If you love her you must be with her. This is a very hard situation for you. Well, did she agree with their parents about what they said ? I think yes because she broke up.

no she totally disagrees. she just doesnt want to live a lie anymore.

Are they really racist ?

I think the best way for her is to go back with you because if at each times she phones you she is crying that means she needs you. Did u meet her since she broke up ?

yeah, but now she is busy with this guy and i dont knwo what to do. she came over yesterday and told me repeatedly that i could never be replaced but i dont know if i can accept that because she is all abotu this guy now. at least she can be seen in public with him and everything and her parents probably like him. im sure they are glad im out of the picture. sometimes i feel like i have nothingelse in life to go for. she meant so much to me and now i have nothing because of my skin. i hate the world i hate her parents and i hate that im black. i would seriously change just to be with her but i'd be an ugly white guy she says so i guess i'll stay black haha

she says that her parents arent racist and i dont think they are. but when you judge someone based on race, that is racism. they judge me as a not fitting person for her to date because of my race which makes them, to me, racist.

How can you change your color ? :P

I bet you don't want to forget her. It is such a hard situation. Is the other guy nice , beautiful , in other terms does he have a chance with her ? How old are you and her ?

listen pull her aside and tell her you still love her, and then sit and talk to her parents, come to an understanding with them... if they really do love her, then they'll be happy for her no matter who she chooses

im 18 she's 17. i guess the other guy i nice. i figure he has a chance with her.

if she honestly onyl wants friends with her, make nice with the new BF and be happy for her

im happy for her but im not happy. i hate that i cant have her. i love her so much and he would never exist if it werent for the fact that im black. i tell her i love her all the time, but i cant talk to her parents

It is not a lie to her parents. She just does not tell them it is diferent. And if her parents can not understand what the word " Love " means they suck.

It is holidays now, you can see eachother somewhere where you can kiss her in public.

I kinda know how you feel, but mines a whole other *ucked up drama..... yours is way my serious in it's own because her parentals are total racist jerkoffs who need to get there heads outta thier rears,....

but all ranting about social injustices aside..... just be there as a friend, cause "tis better to have love and lost, than never to have loved at all.....

Seriously , he loves her with all his heart How can he see her with another guy ??

read my post, it'll explain my situation.... somethimes you have to numb your heart to the feelings of love...... i know what it's like to see someone I Love with all my heart with sum jerk, and to be forced to make nice or loose her as ANYTHING!!!

yes, her parents do suck. they just dont understant.

Yeah. Actually, she still loves him. So he is still in her heart, although the other guy is not yet. You have to meet her pretty soon, and fix it now

although he's still in her heart, he's not in her arms... the closest place (and prolly the best if u want any hope) is to be by her side

Yes meet her. Because if the other guy takes the place you will never forget it !!

thanks a lot guys

No problem mate. Let us know how it is going please !!!

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