Do looks REALLY matter?

I hear a lot of people say that they go for personality more than looks but, is it though? Because apparently, we talk more to those that appear more attractive to us and because we do that, then we get to know them and know their personalitly so do looks come first?
For example, guys which girl do you think you would prefer out of these?:

Girl A: Long blonde hair, soft brown eyes, tanned, white teeth, overweight, eczema and say she had a little bit of acne but was someone who was bubbly, chatty, fun and also rude, inconsiderate, selfish and bitchy.

Or

Girl B: Long, curly brown hair, sparkling blue eyes, white teeth, pale, slim but i dunno, say she had dry skin and a wart on her head or something but was friendly, chatty, funny, unique, fun and nice but also sometimes selfish and inconsiderate and rude.

Or for the girls, which guy would you prefer:

Guy A: Muscular, pale, a bit hairy, dark hair, short, dark eyes, friendly, sociable, fun, funny, outgoing but arrogant and rude and selfish at times.

Or

Guy B: A bit on the puny side, tanned, blond hair, blue eyes, sociable but mostly quiet, friendly, caring, a tad dull, sometimes selfish and hmm say he was also a bit clingy.

If you had to select, which one would you find more attractive and why?

I'd buy a vibrator.

There's no point answering the hypothetical, you're asking us to imagine a character and then rate its attractiveness, you'd get a clearer answer if you posted pictures, but even then thats hardly that scientific.

To answer the original thread title: looks do matter. There are a lot of psychological studies on facial symmetry and correlation between looks and pair bonds. We are hardwired to try to find the most attractive mate, since attractive offspring are more likely to reproduce and keep the trait in existence.

However, humans are complex social organisms. Just because we have evolutionary instincts doesn't mean they always come first. You can overcome looks, you can be attractive to someone for reasons other than your appearance.

Both girls are selfish, inconsiderate and rude? I wouldn't date either of them.

In answer to your core question, looks are important but you can't coast on them forever. No matter how good she looks, someone, somewhere, is tired of her shit.

Frankly, I prefer the 4's to 7's since they tend to have good personalities and are generally less self-absorbed than the 8 to 10's while also knowing how to take care of themselves better than the 1's to 4's. Yeah, yeah, I'm sure you hotties all have amazing personalities because your guy friends say you do; obviously don't know what I'm talking about.

Personality goes a long way but it's rare that I've found a woman that takes care of herself to be too unattractive for me to date (at least once).

Looks matter to girls more now than they did in the past and what is good looking is governed by fashion.

Little puny annoying men are actually in fashion at the moment so all you need to do is talk about global warming and wear crap clothes and you should get some silly politics student.

I agree that looks do not make up for a bitch woman for a long term relationship but having sex doesn't take that long so looks matter heaps.

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Originally Posted by BoredGeorge [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

... having sex doesn't take that long...

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Another clue...

George, maybe if you weren't banging hookers, you'd learn that it's supposed to take longer than four minutes.

Looks matter always.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Another clue...

George, maybe if you weren't banging hookers, you'd learn that it's supposed to take longer than four minutes.

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Hookers are sometimes good, even if it lasts only four minutes because they do not answer back and they do as they are told.

I'd rather have a woman I did not have to pay and would be useful for things other than sex but that is not the way my life is so we must always look at the positives.

when u approach someone, u approach them because u think they are attractive...u dont know how their personality is yet until u start talking to them and perhaps, go out on a date so YES, looks matter.

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Frankly, I prefer the 4's to 7's since they tend to have good personalities and are generally less self-absorbed than the 8 to 10's while also knowing how to take care of themselves better than the 1's to 4's. Yeah, yeah, I'm sure you hotties all have amazing personalities because your guy friends say you do; obviously don't know what I'm talking about.

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I'm not a bitch or anything (although I won't admit I'm a saint) but I am in the 1's to 4's range (a bit below your expectations) in the looks department. I am surrounded by girls who are in the 8 to 10s range who also has a good personality. Is there a way for me to trick a guy into liking me?

Post up a pic and tell us some info about u...then we can help lol

I'm horrifically ugly. Posting a picture up will be social suicide.

^ lol yea rite...come onnnnnnn haha

Lozenger, in the real world our eyes take in the first bit of information about someone and we instantly determine if they're physically attractive to us or not.

Does it increase the possibility of interaction? Of course. But living life in general we're surrounded by all types of men and women, all with the opportunity to show us or us to show them how our personality can more than make up for someone who may be by definition more physically attractive.

Looks are and always will be a portion of what makes up who we choose to be with. But nothing more than that, just a portion.

attraction is important initially, but when an attractive person doesn't have the intelect to match, how attractive they are doesn't seem to matter to me.....I think both are important for a long term relationship....

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Originally Posted by Bumble_bee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

attraction is important initially, but when an attractive person doesn't have the intelect to match, how attractive they are doesn't seem to matter to me.....I think both are important for a long term relationship....

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Intellect*

Sorry, I just had to :D

I know a guy that is VERY attractive yet very stupid..at first I used to say WOW when I see him..Now I still say WOW but its more like "Wow, I never met such stupid person before"

You know maybe look matter, but there is a funny part. when you love someone you start to idolize their flaws more than their perfect part. maybe its just me lol

Honestly, if a girl is going treat me bad, even if she is smoking hot, I wouldn't want any of it. I don't really go for the hottest girl out there, I usually aim for personality, likes/dislikes, then looks. Most of the guys I know would jump on anything above an 8. I can't stand the idea. I'd rather just cuddle up with my girlfreind then go anywhere (if that makes sence). (sorry if that was off topic lol)

Unless you do online chatting to phone conversations to meet & greet without showing a photo before the meet & greet... you're full of shit.

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Originally Posted by BoredGeorge [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Looks matter to girls more now than they did in the past and what is good looking is governed by fashion.

Little puny annoying men are actually in fashion at the moment so all you need to do is talk about global warming and wear crap clothes and you should get some silly politics student.

I agree that looks do not make up for a bitch woman for a long term relationship but having sex doesn't take that long so looks matter heaps.

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LOL george makes my day

Looks matter a lot. I said it before and I'll say it again: Every guy has a minimum standard for what he finds attractive. If you don't meet a guy's minimum standard, you have no chance with him unless he's a desperate mother****er. The good news is that different guys go for different things, so if one guy doesn't find you attractive, another guy will. The exceptions to this is if you're a statistical extreme, i.e. you're supermodel hot or medusa ugly.

I'm sure every guy here has met a girl and decided he didn't like her cuz she wasn't pretty enough.

And when guys say they want a girl with a nice personality, that's pretty much exactly the same as when a girl says they want to meet a nice guy who will treat them well. And then a dork walks up to her and she goes ew. When guys say they want nice personality, it means we want an attractive girl with a nice personality but those kinds of girls are a bit rarer. Similarly, when a girl says she wants a nice guy, she's looking for a confident guy who's got his shit together but is nice also. Guys don't wanna date uglies and girls don't wanna date insecure dorks who can't even take care of themselves.

Looks matter to some extent. But, when you are in love that person, you'll find him/her the most beautiful even if they are not, provided they have good personalities.

Anyway, as Sanctuary said, Beautiful girl + good personality = Rare

For me looks first, then personality. Sounds shity but if you don't have both there is no chance.

Hi all,

As a woman I have a few points to make here:

First and foremost: Looks are important! We are highly visual creatures, and the only person who can honestly say that looks have no bearing whatsoever are the visually challenged. However, I would like to make a few stipulations:

What attracts a person says more about who they are than the person they are attracted to. For example, some women want a guy who is all cut up, tall, certain hair color, etc- this reveals a certain superficiality in these females. There's nothing wrong with that, and I'm not judging- it's just a statement of truth. The women who care more about the substance of a man will probably overlook their genetic appearance and focus more on their HYGIENE. For these women, a man with white teeth and combed hair who smells nice will go a lot farther than the gym jock with yellow teeth and who reeks of smoke. A woman with low self-esteem will never judge how a guy looks, but will just be happy someone noticed her.

So ask yourself- what kind of woman do you want? If you aren't the stereotypically attractive male, maybe you should count your blessings that this will naturally weed out superficial and typically high maintenence women! However, if your problem is your own hygiene (aka, self-esteem) perhaps you should work on how you see yourself before you can expect anyone else to figure out who you are for you. How attractive is a woman with no self-esteem to you- at least as relationship material...?

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Originally Posted by kai [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Looks matter to some extent. But, when you are in love that person, you'll find him/her the most beautiful even if they are not, provided they have good personalities.

Anyway, as Sanctuary said, Beautiful girl + good personality = Rare

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i totally agreee with this
looks matter , they have to or none of us would give a crap what we looked like , no showers , haircuts , we would all be wearing trash bags for clothes . when i was with my ex she was dropdead gorgeous to me , after we seperated (she cheated ) i could not believe i ever thought that. When i loved her she was beutiful when i didnt she wasnt, a beutiful girl with a good personality is rare, yes , but if you are lucky enough to find and ok looking girl with a great personality and great compatibility, she could be drop dead gorgeous to you. looks are important , but we all know you should never judge a book by its cover, you never know what you might be missing.

I find that regardless of what many of them say, my guy friends stick with women who are bitchy and snotty because it's convenient. They have very little backbone when it comes to relationships and end up getting walked on. I've had to listen to one too many of my male friends piss and moan about why their girlfriend got mad because he didn't have her Starbucks order memorized.

For me personality.. I find way too many women who think they are hot shit and that leads to a piss poor personality.

Looks are too important to me which is why I keep dating really good looking jerkfaces.

Course they matter. If they didn't, we'd be able to form relationships with anybody and everybody that crossed our paths......and bed the really repulsive guys lol.


The initial attraction is down to looks, but my cup of tea, may not be another persons. We have to be attracted to someone physically, else we have no desire to get to know their personality.

If you find someone you are physically attracted too and their personality sucks, then looks alone won't hold the relationship together.

For a relationship to go onto long term, there needs to be a combination of a few things.

At first, looks definitely matter. The longer the relationship lasts, the more important personality becomes.

I think your first intial attraction will be more likely based on looks and as you get to know them their personialty will either suit you or not.
But you wouldn't go out with someone who you thought was ugly would you?

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Originally Posted by trustno1 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

But you wouldn't go out with someone who you thought was ugly would you?

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If she were perfect in the rest, yes.