Which gives you a better feeling?
Loving someone, or being loved by someone?
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Which gives you a better feeling?
Loving someone, or being loved by someone?
you always feel better when you know that someone loves you. raverboy
it feels good to be loved and it feels good to give love its good when it goes both ways
neither one is very enjoyable for me unless both are happening at the same time :)
Being loved, but being able to return it is an even better feeling.
I agree with Elysium. Neither is good until both come at the same time (to and from the same person too). After all, there is this saying that to love and be loved is feeling the sun on both sides. If you only feel the sun on one side, you might end up like Ross in one of those Friends episodes when he went to a tanning shop.
lmfao! nice illustration GBRaul :D
lmao, I remember that episode :lol:
I think that loving gives me a better feeling. Then I don't feel like I'm taking advantage of the other person, and I know that if they don't feel the same way, it's not for my lack of trying.
Yeah, Ive both loved and been loved, but never at the same time so I dont know for certan.
But I think that I would want to be loved only so I know that I am allowed to love someone, and display it properly without restriction.
Don't quite get what you mean. Anyway, I've loved and been loved before too, and also not to and from the same person. Sigh... :(Quote:
Originally Posted by LucidDream
I think I would like so show just how much I feel about someone, but it wouldent be appropriate to do that unless they shared those feelings
Oh, I read you. Though I think that love is something too complex to keep inside. It must be let out. And only then would you know whether or not your crush or whoever shares the same feelings.
I think it's definately harder to love someone who doesn't reciprocate your feelings than it is to be loved by someone you don't love. Firstly, the saddness and melancholy that you go through by not having your feelings returned can sometimes be overwhelming, and secondly, watching them with someone ELSE can bring about unmentionable sorrow. HOWEVER, I would still rather love someone who doesn't love me, than have someone love me that I don't feel that way for. It's too hurtful. I just don't have it in me to cause that kind of pain. HOWEVER, like others have said it is much better to be in love with someone who is in love with you in return. That's de bestest!!!! :love:
Haha... I totally agree with you Breezy.
yeah, one position is particulary akward, one of my best friends girlfriends has a crush on me, everyone knows it, including him.
I feel realy bad about it and dont know how to react when she keeps asking me for hugs, usualy I just give her a quick one when I dont think he is looking.
I dont want to be harsh to her, but I have to consider him too. :(
Lucid i dunno how old you are but you certainly are mature :)
Well, I've experienced it all. I've loved, but not been loved in return. I have had someone love me, but I did not have the same feelings for him. Currently, I have found someone that I love and he loves me in return.
There is nothing more special then being loved both ways. If I had to choose between one of the two. I would choose neither. For one brings heartache to myself and the other brings heartache to another person (then, in turn, makes you feel awful for hurting someone).
I remember a time when I thought that mutual feelings where more common than feelings that where not...
Oh and thanks Elysium, Ive just turned 18.
But I think maturity is something I need a little less of at my age, sometimes people my age group see maturity as boring. Though I am making alot of progress being immature when the need arises.
LOL don't do that - you are who you are, and trying to be something else will only cause trouble. :)
I found that in the space of about 2-3 weeks I can change my personalety, if I try hard enough, and realy have the will to change.
Last week I made the decision to try and be more of a fun party guy, yesterday I found myself singing to Pink Floyd at a pub karaoke with my mates :lol: I realy enjoyed that, and we all agreed its the best night out he had had in ages!
Pink Floyd rocks! :D
I'm with you Lucid. Bloody irritating how maturity seems so damn boring nowadays. I am turning 18 in November :D Anyway, I haven't really tried to be some sort of party guy before, haha. It's not even legal for Singaporean under 18 to go to discos, pubs etc.
Regarding my previous post, when I was 15 I passed off as an 18 year old to watch some movie forbidden to people below that age (because of violence, not sex in case you are wondering). So I don't think it would be too hard for me to get into a pub. Anyway, less than a month to go!
in California, you've got to be 21+ to drink ...
but back on subject ... I've been through all situations and I can only speak of having love be a shared thing ... because I can't describe how good it feels to be held by your love and really WANT it ...
i think they have to happen together. i would say to be loved is better, but if i didn't love the person, them loving me wouldn't mean all that much. and i guess we can all agree that loving someone without reciprocation definately sucks!
Luvtif, they don't have to happen together. Just browsing this forum would tell you how many people have loved but not been loved back. Then the people they loved are the ones who were loved but didn't love back. :lol:
oh i know it happens that way. i didn't mean that they have to happen together. i meant for me to enjoy either of them, they would have to happen together.
Oh... of course :D
I remember one of my friends telling me that his parents told him this once:
***WARNING THERE IS SOME CHINESE BECAUSE IT PROBABLY WOULDN'T SERVE IT'S PURPOSE UNLESS I PUT IT DOWN BUT I WILL ALSO TRANSLATE***
To be loved by somebody is very "hung fook" (lucky), but to love someone at times can be very "tong foo" (painful). I thought about it, and sometimes I think it is true. Now bear in mind those two statements are not being referred to as something that is happen concurrently but rather individually. Think about it.
Actually its Cantonese kermy. It's a Chinese dialect, not exactly Chinese. But I do not agree that being loved by somebody is lucky, cos like people in this thread including me I think have been saying, being loved by somebody (and you don't feel the same way about them) sucks cos you have to break the other person's heart. Also, this can spoil really good friendships the two of you had at first.
wow, didnt realise this thread would be so popular!
Well, I just think that I have so much love to give, and I want to give it. I only want to be loved so I know that they will accept my love, not neseseraly the feeling of being loved myself.
But I guess that could change if I was in a relationship, bit I still think that giving love would still give me a better feeling than receiving.
I have a lot of love to give too... I think it's better to give rather than receive cos I'd rather be the one who gets hurt than the one who hurts another. Though when I start getting pissed or pessimistic or both I start feeling the other way around. Heh...
better when you have both going on for you IMO.
Of course... but if you just have to choose one... refer to above
I'd rather choose neither than have only one of the two.
Brilliant !Quote:
Originally Posted by Elysium
You can love. You can be loved. But both are extremely painful unless they are happening at the same time between the same two people.
If I had to choose between just one of the two, I would choose solitude.
meh...love's to overrated these days anyway....
but yeah if i could only choose just one than i wouldnt pick anything, its just better when it happens all at the same time.
Oh my gosh, I definately would NOT pick none if I could only choose one. Loving someone else brings almost as much, (maybe more in some cases) joy as being loved by someone. Yes, I would definately pick to love someone and not have it returned than to have someone love me that I could not love back. Being with someone you love, even if you can only be friends, is one of the sweetest feelings on earth. Watching them laugh, smile or just talking with them is incredible. Yes, the only thing to top that is having them someday return your feelings. :)
Wow Breezy! I agree completely. Even the feeling of loving a friend is fantastic. I wouldnt choose either one. I have been by myself for 5 years, and still loved people around me. Granted I didnt have a b/f to give those loved feelings too, I knew someday or know someday I will have so much to give someone it might be overwhelming, but I also know one day I will get those feelings in return, and that thought alone puts a smile on my face. Because ONE day it will happen. And Im pretty happy with my life with or without giving that special kind of love. It will be good for me one day, as it will for others.