Me & My Sister...

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30-12-09, 09:15 PM
kthx

Me & My Sister...

I hope the title doesn't make it sound too promiscuous, but I have a real dilemma which I cannot discuss with friends, as you can tell is an awful, awful situation in my eyes anyway....

Thanks in advance, and well, here goes.

Christmas day had been a great one, house was packed and full of close relatives who had decided to stay over, so that of course meant me & my sister (only children of parents) would stick together to save space, now this is nothing unusual we've been doing this since we were young and if anything, it's a great laugh, have always had fun whenever we get the chance, we are very close and discuss 'most' things, furthermore we are both well educated aren't typical pub revellers if it's of any relevance, she is 19 and I am 20.

So fine, everything is going as usual, no weird thoughts at this stage, we are drunk from coming home previously but this hasn't made situations any stranger - I turn on the PS3 and challenge her to a game (we both have competitive natures). We chat into the night, mostly just joking around, giggling, cussing and what-not until eventually the conversation numbs down as we get tired, so she heads off to get changed into something for sleep... she returns in a sexy silk thigh length nightgown, she usually wears this kind of stuff but this is the first time I've actually noticed and couldn't keep my eyes off and went to myself - "god, what am I thinking, what the f*** is wrong with me!!", couple this with the fact that she is a blonde bombshell which I mean in the most affectionate way she turned me on and I just could not get my mind off her.

Ok so, I just wipe off the thoughts, she comes back to the PS3 for another 30/40 minutes or so and we are just giggling and shoving each other as usual - trying to cheat as we usually do! Once again the conversation dies down as its around 4am, we are both pretty tired and still had been drinking since we were in the 'festive spirit' per se, before she's about to head off I'm just looking into her eyes and she replies 'What?' smiling. I gave her a peck on the lips (regret this so much now...) then I held onto her face, the most bizarre thing is she did the same thing, gave me a peck but then 5 seconds later went 'What the hell are you doing' before saying 'Need to get up early tomorrow, boxing day sales and stuff' something like that anyway.

That's it, we haven't spoken or looked at each other the same way since, although I don't 'love' her in the sexual sort of way, I do love her a lot and I'm sure its the same vice versa, it's obvious we've both been avoiding each other and it's been such a bore now we sit around and don't even talk, it's alien to us.

She is a half-sister mind you, but still, it was nothing more than a fantasy I suppose. Am I weird? Is she weird? Are we both weird? Or is this a normal thing to come across?

Please help, I would really love to get back together (no sexual innuendo) with my sister, we are both heart broken from that nights events.

I know it's kind of the opposite of love advice for relationships etc, but yeah, this is the only place I could think of. Thanks! ~Jay

(sorry if it's a mouthful to read!)
30-12-09, 10:20 PM
Gigabitch

Jay, that's ****ed up and you know it. You've just taken her brother away from her. You're supposed to be the only guy in the world she can horse around with and not be worried that you're going to "get the wrong idea". Well, you did. You got the WRONG idea.
30-12-09, 10:28 PM
vashti

I think you crossed a line, but what kind of girl wears sexy nighties in front of her brother? (Eww.)

Don't ever drink with her again.
30-12-09, 10:56 PM
Petit Papillon

Well I still feel like it`s a troll :)
He probably smoked too much of a very good dutch weed ;)
30-12-09, 11:04 PM
vashti

Maybe he's a troll, but I just saw some really creepy brother/sister activity at work this week, so I am getting to the point where I assume the worst.
30-12-09, 11:14 PM
Petit Papillon

Yeah cause we never know :) But it`s so rare such things that I assume he`s a troll. I checked his IP and he`s definately not english . So everytime I see someone post something like this,choose wrong country,and then not come back to see the responses,I assume it`s a troll... Well I`ll wait to see if he comes back by this evening. If not it`s a troll ;)

Well at least,I would come back for an answer very quick ,if I had a problem like this ;)
30-12-09, 11:16 PM
Perryville

I really hope this IS a troll, because it is totally whacked!! I have a sister, too, but can't even imagine doing any such thing. This really, really, really sucks.!!!!:mad:
30-12-09, 11:18 PM
Petit Papillon

Even if this is a troll, there are sickos even worse than this one in the world... You can`t stop them ...
30-12-09, 11:33 PM
vashti

I had a 38 year old female patient who asked if either I or my assistant could give her a sponge bath, and I politely refused because she was physically capable of doing it herself. Her brother called me, semi-complaining about it, and I explained that it was good for her to be able to care for herself in routine ways since she would have to do it when she left, and he conceded, but I'll be damned if that man didn't come in and give her a sponge bath himself later in the morning!

I ended up requesting a psych consult.

There are really f-cked up people in the world.
30-12-09, 11:36 PM
Perryville

Thanks a lot, Vash!! You just spoiled my lunch!!:(
30-12-09, 11:41 PM
Gribble

I hope you're just being an ass. That's horrible. You're supposed to be protecting your sister (possibly against her will) from the advances of sick perverts, not carrying them out yourself. Shame on you.
30-12-09, 11:42 PM
vashti

I love nurses, Perry... we can have the most disgusting, entertaining conversations while eating. :D
30-12-09, 11:46 PM
Perryville

Vash, I'm a combat Vet, so it usually takes a lot to make me squeemish, but bathing my sis would do it.
30-12-09, 11:51 PM
winter32842

Quote:

Originally Posted by kthx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I hope the title doesn't make it sound too promiscuous, but I have a real dilemma which I cannot discuss with friends, as you can tell is an awful, awful situation in my eyes anyway....

Thanks in advance, and well, here goes.

Christmas day had been a great one, house was packed and full of close relatives who had decided to stay over, so that of course meant me & my sister (only children of parents) would stick together to save space, now this is nothing unusual we've been doing this since we were young and if anything, it's a great laugh, have always had fun whenever we get the chance, we are very close and discuss 'most' things, furthermore we are both well educated aren't typical pub revellers if it's of any relevance, she is 19 and I am 20.

So fine, everything is going as usual, no weird thoughts at this stage, we are drunk from coming home previously but this hasn't made situations any stranger - I turn on the PS3 and challenge her to a game (we both have competitive natures). We chat into the night, mostly just joking around, giggling, cussing and what-not until eventually the conversation numbs down as we get tired, so she heads off to get changed into something for sleep... she returns in a sexy silk thigh length nightgown, she usually wears this kind of stuff but this is the first time I've actually noticed and couldn't keep my eyes off and went to myself - "god, what am I thinking, what the f*** is wrong with me!!", couple this with the fact that she is a blonde bombshell which I mean in the most affectionate way she turned me on and I just could not get my mind off her.

Ok so, I just wipe off the thoughts, she comes back to the PS3 for another 30/40 minutes or so and we are just giggling and shoving each other as usual - trying to cheat as we usually do! Once again the conversation dies down as its around 4am, we are both pretty tired and still had been drinking since we were in the 'festive spirit' per se, before she's about to head off I'm just looking into her eyes and she replies 'What?' smiling. I gave her a peck on the lips (regret this so much now...) then I held onto her face, the most bizarre thing is she did the same thing, gave me a peck but then 5 seconds later went 'What the hell are you doing' before saying 'Need to get up early tomorrow, boxing day sales and stuff' something like that anyway.

That's it, we haven't spoken or looked at each other the same way since, although I don't 'love' her in the sexual sort of way, I do love her a lot and I'm sure its the same vice versa, it's obvious we've both been avoiding each other and it's been such a bore now we sit around and don't even talk, it's alien to us.

She is a half-sister mind you, but still, it was nothing more than a fantasy I suppose. Am I weird? Is she weird? Are we both weird? Or is this a normal thing to come across?

Please help, I would really love to get back together (no sexual innuendo) with my sister, we are both heart broken from that nights events.

I know it's kind of the opposite of love advice for relationships etc, but yeah, this is the only place I could think of. Thanks! ~Jay

(sorry if it's a mouthful to read!)

Did you grow up with her? Did you guys see each other on a regular basis during childhood?
31-12-09, 12:03 AM
kthx

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pettit-Papillon [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yeah cause we never know :) But it`s so rare such things that I assume he`s a troll. I checked his IP and he`s definately not english . So everytime I see someone post something like this,choose wrong country,and then not come back to see the responses,I assume it`s a troll... Well I`ll wait to see if he comes back by this evening. If not it`s a troll ;)

Well at least,I would come back for an answer very quick ,if I had a problem like this ;)

What?

I'll clear up a few things it really seems like it's getting nasty here.. god..

For the last comment I didn't see her like all the time during childhood, she lived out of town its only recently my stepdad decided to live in the city, anyway it was a really drunken moment and it's not like I wanted this to happen...
31-12-09, 12:36 AM
Petit Papillon

You know... The times when You could `date`Your family members are long gone. What do You expect from us? See a doctor if You have problems with Your feelings towards Your siblings.
31-12-09, 12:40 AM
Gigabitch

Quote:

Originally Posted by kthx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I'll clear up a few things it really seems like it's getting nasty here.. god..

That's the pot calling the kettle black.

Look, dude. There are billions of women on the planet. Most of them aren't your sister. Go pork one of them.
31-12-09, 01:09 AM
irrelevant_89

K, you (two) did something wrong and you know it. Of course it's awkward right now, but in the end it was a relatively small event - a peck in the lips is worth what it's worth, but with time and patience you should be able to put this episode behind your backs. Just don't rush things - slowly begin to talk normally and build back confidence.
31-12-09, 01:10 AM
chump4u

Quote:

Originally Posted by kthx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

What?

I'll clear up a few things it really seems like it's getting nasty here.. god..

For the last comment I didn't see her like all the time during childhood, she lived out of town its only recently my stepdad decided to live in the city, anyway it was a really drunken moment and it's not like I wanted this to happen...

Waitaminnit folks...I'm confused. What's this "stepdad" business, and does it mean that the OP meant to say "stepsister" instead of "half-sister?"

I mean, if there is no actual "blood" relationship, we could probably agree just to hang the guy couldn't we? I mean instead of torturing him first?

Anyway, keep the rope and the pitchforks handy. Let's see if the OP can talk his way out of this. Be fun to watch.
31-12-09, 01:18 AM
kthx

They married a year back, stepsister/halfsister is practically the same thing, i've called her a halfsister practically all my life since she was born out of wedlock... :/
31-12-09, 01:32 AM
chump4u

Quote:

Originally Posted by kthx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

They married a year back, stepsister/halfsister is practically the same thing, i've called her a halfsister practically all my life since she was born out of wedlock... :/

.

It doesn't matter what you "call" her, it matters what she is. If you and she do not share a biological parent, and were not raised in the same household, your story suddenly becomes one Hell of a lot different than the "I almost f**ked my sister" that you began with.

Do you and this step-half-maybe-sister have a common biological parent, or are you biological strangers? Think hard. A lot depends upon your answer.
31-12-09, 01:37 AM
kthx

She has a different mum to mine but she is still a sister to me, that's what makes it so bad, regardless if it's genetic or whatever we've always been close...... :(
31-12-09, 02:00 AM
chump4u

Quote:

Originally Posted by kthx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

She has a different mum to mine but she is still a sister to me, that's what makes it so bad, regardless if it's genetic or whatever we've always been close...... :(

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Whew! Finally! We've dug clean through the dung-heap, and we're out in the clear light and fresh air.

What you meant to say was: "Me and this very beautiful girl who I've known all my life and is a very close friend who is like (but not actually)a sister to me nearly fell into a smooching session, and it has shaken us up a bit."

OK, now...disregarding all that has been posted before, we can invite folks to start over and comment on that story.
31-12-09, 02:03 AM
vashti

Umm... chump? Different mother does not mean different father....
31-12-09, 02:07 AM
LoveHurts09

he already said stepdad.
31-12-09, 02:13 AM
chump4u

Quote:

Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Umm... chump? Different mother does not mean different father....

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Damn, Vashti, you're right.

God!

Get the red-hot pliers and the thumbscrews out for me, will you? I think I'm going to need them.

OK, KTHX, 'fess up...different mother, and different father?
31-12-09, 02:20 AM
kthx

>_>

Just read through will you
31-12-09, 02:36 AM
vashti

Which is it, boy?

Different mother, same father, mom remarried (stepdad)

or

Different mother, different father, mom remarried (stepdad)
31-12-09, 02:37 AM
DoesntMatter

This guy is a troll. Even his name gives it away
31-12-09, 02:40 AM
vashti

yes, it is school vacation time....
31-12-09, 03:25 AM
winter32842

Quote:

Originally Posted by kthx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

What?

I'll clear up a few things it really seems like it's getting nasty here.. god..

For the last comment I didn't see her like all the time during childhood, she lived out of town its only recently my stepdad decided to live in the city, anyway it was a really drunken moment and it's not like I wanted this to happen...

Thanks for the reply. I see the problem. Usually when people live close proximity to each other like siblings in childhood, they lose sexual and romantic feelings for each other. This is known as Westermarck effect in psychology. Since you didn't spend time in close proximity on a regular basis during your childhood with your sister you may develop romantic feelings for her.

I am pretty certain that your sister also have feelings for you from the story you described. The best thing is to do is talk to her about the night. After that, act and behave regularly with her. Your feeling will naturally go away with enough time. One good thing may happen is your bond between your sister and you may be stronger after that.
31-12-09, 03:51 AM
kthx

Thanks for the advice, I will look into it and have a chat with her, it's just been the most bizarre experience in my life and I kind of expected negative comments but that comment is a relief, cheers.
01-01-10, 07:15 PM
sandfish

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pettit-Papillon [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You know... The times when You could `date`Your family members are long gone. What do You expect from us? See a doctor if You have problems with Your feelings towards Your siblings.

When the hell was that? ''puke''

What is a troll?

In reply to the OP. Just talk as if nothing ever happened. It is easy to forget when its not on your mind. For christmas you should have bought her some granny style night gown. This would have never happened!