Am I really that easy?

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08-01-10, 01:21 PM
LailaK

Am I really that easy?

I never thought that I was easy. I've always considered myself pretty picky when it comes to guys.

I've written a few posts about this guy before. We met, sparks flew, we were long distance (different countries in fact) but we talked every day for 3 months. Then he met someone else and we stopped talking. He wanted to remain friends but I didn't want to be "back-pocket" girl so I backed off. On x-mas we wished each other a happy holiday and started talking a bit. He had a lot of questions most of them surrounding the details about the guys I'm seeing now. He tried to go back to the way we were before but I was clear that it wasn't a go.

Then today I receive a package at work. He sent me my favorite candy from his country.

:( I melted. I felt all warm and happy and giddy and STUPID. I know a part of it is the fact that I still really like this guy and I've been trying to protect myself by fighting my feelings and staying away. But really, sweets?! Is that all it takes to win back my affections and make me forget his crazy ways? I'm kind of disappointed in myself.

~ Laila
08-01-10, 01:25 PM
shheadz

Oh.. he's good. ;)
08-01-10, 02:20 PM
IndiReloaded

A polite thank you is appropriate but stay aloof without more direct communication from him.
08-01-10, 02:43 PM
Heratriumphant

It's not how you feel about an attempt to get you back on the hook that matters, it's how you respond.

I think we all have those moments when our wishes and hopeful hearts overpower our sanity. As long as we allow ourselves to just feel that moment, and not act on it, its ok. Have your weak mushy moment now, but get your spine of steel back in action the next time you chat with him.
08-01-10, 04:16 PM
SirWagginston

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Originally Posted by shheadz [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Oh.. he's good. ;)

He sure is!

You should thank him for the sweets, and respond in a way that forces him to reveal his motive in sending them. I'm too drunk right now to provide an example for you to paraphrase, sorry. :P At the least, though, your message should acknowledge that he remembers your interests, and inquire into what's on his mind these days.

I think, however, that our advice would be more helpful if we knew what country this male is from. I can see that you are American, but it makes a big difference whether the guy is from Canada, Mexico, or someplace far removed.
08-01-10, 04:25 PM
Perryville

So, LK, what kind of sweets do you like? I'll send you TWO boxes, and then we will see if you like me TWICE as much as him> LOL
08-01-10, 09:23 PM
vashti

Everyone is easy for SOMEONE.

Try to do what your intelligence tells you, and not your heart. Your heart will betray you.
09-01-10, 12:23 AM
LailaK

He's from freaking Germany. Freaking far away.

My intelligence tells me that it was a sweet but easy thing for him to do. It doesn't mean I'm anything other then the girl he keeps in his back pocket to bang when he gets to the States.

The girly stupid side of me (my heart) isn't saying anything but "Awwwwwwwwwww..."

Ugh.
09-01-10, 02:50 AM
Gigabitch

Test him. Act like you're all in, totally swooning for him and see if he cools off again.

That will be interesting, definitely.
09-01-10, 04:04 AM
Aeradalia

He's from Germany? No wonder...

Chances are, you may not have "melted" for him specifically, but for the gesture. It's nice to feel loved... even if you don't necessarily feel or want to feel love toward a particular person.

As someone else had said... regain your spine. Don't dwell too much on such feelings or shortcomings -- stay the course. The only thing that really matters are your actions. What are you going to do?
09-01-10, 04:06 AM
Perryville

LK, stay away from Germans, they are the sneakiest people in the world.
09-01-10, 04:08 AM
Aeradalia

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LK, stay away from Germans, they are the sneakiest people in the world.

I'm not sneaky... *gives the saddest puppy dog look*... honest.
09-01-10, 04:11 AM
Gigabitch

Hey! Where's my wallet?
09-01-10, 04:22 AM
Aeradalia

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Hey! Where's my wallet?

Not a clue... but thanks for the car! :D
09-01-10, 04:27 AM
Perryville

My ex is a Kraut, she and her family are the most arrogant, backbiting people on the planet. They wouldn't steal your car, they would try to foreclose on your mortgage, just so they could kick you and your kids out into the street. Awful people!!
09-01-10, 04:31 AM
Aeradalia

I'm not too fond of my mother, who's German, Perryville... she's done worse than that to me... but I don't hold her national origins responsible -- just her. My uncles are rather decent folks... and my Mom's ex-husband (not my dad)... is a very nice guy too.
09-01-10, 04:35 AM
Perryville

Sucks to be you,AD. My experience is that Germans are always down around your nuts ready to give'em the big squeeze. LOL:D
09-01-10, 04:48 AM
Perryville

BTW, I'm really just joking. Most of Central Texas was settled by Germans, my Mom is part German, so I was just being an ass. LOL LK , You aren't being "easy", you are just responding to a very flattering, and romantic gesture. If he wasn't thinking of you, why would he send the candy? Just take it easy, and cautiously explore where you think his feelings lie.
09-01-10, 05:17 AM
Aeradalia

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Originally Posted by Perryville [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Sucks to be you,AD. My experience is that Germans are always down around your nuts ready to give'em the big squeeze. LOL:D

Eh... I refrain from "big squeezes" in favor of a gentle massaging motion... and finding the 'tender spots.'

Oh wait... nevermind...
09-01-10, 05:41 AM
Perryville

Please......tell me more!!:D
09-01-10, 05:43 AM
IndiReloaded

Einstein was german...
09-01-10, 05:45 AM
Perryville

He is illegitimate. his mom had sex with a Welshman!!:D
09-01-10, 05:53 AM
IndiReloaded

Wow, you guys are cracking me up today!
09-01-10, 05:54 AM
Aeradalia

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Originally Posted by Perryville [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Please......tell me more!!:D

If I did that... it wouldn't be the Love Forum... it'd be the Lust Forum...
09-01-10, 05:57 AM
Perryville

Where is this "lust forum",? and how do I get there from here?
09-01-10, 06:08 AM
Aeradalia

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Originally Posted by Perryville [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Where is this "lust forum",? and how do I get there from here?

Right here: [url]http://forum.literotica.com/[/url] :evil:
09-01-10, 07:07 AM
dancer4life

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Everyone is easy for SOMEONE.

Try to do what your intelligence tells you, and not your heart. Your heart will betray you.

She's right. everyone is easy for someone...I know I am.

Same thing happened with me...well kinda. A guy from work and I hooked up after work one night (11p) he ended up dropping me back off at work the next morning (6a) after that night, he said that we needed to pretend like it never happened. that pissed me off like you wouldn't believe. I still see him...everyday at work.
If someone else did that to me, they'd be dead. but this guy, all he has to do is wink and I'm ready to jump right back into his truck for another make-out session.

and it's not like you flew over to Germany right after you got the box of sweets, if you had done that, then yeah, you would've been TOO easy.

relax kid!