Bro, need help fast!!!!

so, i have known emily since undergraduate school and now we are in medical school, i consider her a very very good friend. I am normally a flirtacious guy. I have been spending time with emily often and texting her quite frequently as just a friend. I think that emily has started to think that i like her and that i am starting my move on her! But obviously i dont!!! I dont think that she is interested in me also! She knows that i have a girl friend. Anyways many ppl think that i like her and have asked emily if we are together!

What should i do to clear up with emily that we are just friends without being too awkward? this dilema has been eating me apart...cuz i dont wanna lose a good friend like emily!

-Dr Surgeon

Why would you think that she thinks that?

If you wan't her to think that you're not interested. Talk a lot about your gf!

lol funny post

Emily might think this way because i have been texting her way too much..which i have cut down now! Also i am normally a flirty guy..so i seem that i am interested even though i only think of her as a good friend. I have talked about my girlfriend a lot and now she might think that i am trying to two time...cuz her friends have asked me about emily and my girlfriend...btw my gf is in london for the semester..so emily and her friends are thinking i am trying to two time cuz shes away!! I AM NOT THAT TYPE OF PERSON...u know what i mean?

haha tanks Sanctuary...in a dilema..i cant study with this in my mind! :(

Maybe stop hanging out for a short while? Until you think it's safe again. Or tell her straight ?

Ya, one of you isn't friends. Which one is it?

ever heard of using 'words' they are things that come out of your mouth..tell her straight.

@ Giselle - i kinda wanna tell her straight cuz i dont want her to feel bad that i am not hanging out with her after 4yrs of undergrad and now 3yrs of med schools...how should i start the conversation?

@ Primo - I think we both are good friends to each other but it could be that i am too extroverted with girls...does that make me a bad friend? :( She is an awesome friend though. So if this is anyone's fault..its mine. But i am like this with all girls and I HAVE a gf. Emily is very shy and doesnt like to express her feelings as much as a girl should! haha.

I just want us to return to our normal friendship b4 all this happend..cuz ur friendship is such that we got each other thru undergrad and now we are getting each other thru med school..both are gonna be surgeons..

Wow, life really is like Grey's Anatomy! :D

@ MissAnn...boy do i get that a lot from my fellow surgeons! hahaha...i gotta surgery exam tomorrow but so stressed abut this situation..i cant study w/o talking to her...but how do i start the convo?? HELP! plezzzzzzzzzzzz

It doesn't make you a bad friend, it probably means she likes you as more than a friend.

wait that doesnt make any sense! I DONT THINK EMILY IS INTERESTED IN ME!!! She thinks i am interested in her...and I AM NOT!!! i wanna talk to her abt this cuz lot of other ppl are asking emily if we are together and i think she feels bad when someone asks her this...so how should i start the convo with her?

It looks to me as if you maybe like her more then a friend. If that's the case you should really stop and consider what you want, and if it's fair to your girlfriend that you like another girl. You said that Emily is shy... Then you probably don't now her feelings for you. She could have a secret crush on you. BUT getting into something with a friend can ruin the friendship.. Maybe not worth it?

If that's not the case you could just say to her that you've been having worries about if she's misunderstaning your intentions. (Could even mention the rumours to start with). Laugh it off

Giselle, THANKS!

Before I was in a relationship (5 months ago) i did have a crush on emily...but that was like 3day thing and once i realized that she is my true friend and she is not interested in a relationship..i made up my mind to remain as a good friend!! Not worth it to lose an awesome friend!
I know i am being really stupid. i am worried that if i call or text she might think i am trying to flirt with her or smthng! haha I wanna bring this on her without any awkwardness on her

Good luck :)

hey can i run by you what i am going to say?? i am thinking about calling her in a few minutes!! or should i do this in person??

So you originally wanted her, she didn't want you and you settled for the friend zone. Leave her alone for a bit, even friends want a little space sometimes.

true.. Don't need to rush into this conversation. Don't think about it too much, just do it when it comes naturally when the moment is right.

@ Primo - i dont know what u mean by wanted..but what i was trying to say was..i felt a bit more than a friend for those 3 days..but over some good sleep i realized her saying that she was not interested in any relationship with anyone (said it b4 i liked her). I dont think that she wants space...i hope not..cuz i dont haha. but anyways...shes been acting normal with me..but i feel a bit embarrased/guilty that she thinks i am trying to start a relationship with her...even though i have NO intentions.

@ Giselle...this has been eating away at me past few days and i cant take it!!! thats why i resorted to forums haha! we are at a crucial pt where we need each other academically and as a friend...

Well, with every post you're convincing me more and more that you're in love with Emily.

why do u say that?...i am trying to convince u that i dont love emily!!! but love her as a friend!!!!

Is she nice looking? Does she have a boyfriend?

she is a good looking girl (what else am i supposed to say abt my friend...ugly?) :)..and she doesnt have a bf...but i know for a fact that both of us are not interested in each other!!!

so liking each other is completely out of the picture! haha :)

sorry abt the crazy posts...i am just worried and stressed haha

Liking each other is simple, being close friends isn't. I think I'm going to have to side with Emily on this one, even though she's not here. You would take more if she would give it.

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sorry abt the crazy posts...i am just worried and stressed haha

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Forget about it ! :) Everyone on this board is crazy as fu*k !! :lol:

hmmm...maybe sometime ago..but NOT now! i am crazy in love with my darling Tamana who is abroad right now! i HONESTLY cant see anyone else i would start a life with other my Tamana.....

So if this ur case and u NEED to clarify shit asap!!! what would u do? how would u say u wanna meet up and talk? and what would u say when you met up?

Primo, I must thank you for constant replies to my absurd and worried posts! :)

These are quiet normal posts :lol:

If I "really" wasn't secretly in love with her, I'd say: Listen you crazy bitch, I have absolutely zero interest in you as a woman. Stop flattering yourself and give it a rest, let me know when you're over it, ok?

haha dude! i wish its as simple as that bro!! but seriously..if i was emily and u were me what would u do/ say? - i know this is whacked up full of shit..but i am relying on u! :)

theres no point in p'ming me or others. Its pretty simple and has been covered here. any regulars with any advice will write it here rather than in pm

oh, and i think primo was being serious (just miss out the 'crazy bitch part)

Yes I would have to agree with Primo - if you guys don't like each other, it's safe to tell Emily that you have zilch feelings for her. Just don't get all vulgar like Primo's post and I guess you'll be fine, lol.