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My girlfriend currently has a yeast infection. She's had it for about 2 weeks (which means no sex for two weeks). She thinks it's fair that I get absolutely nothing (no handjobs, etc.) until she gets better. Do you all think it's fair? I feel like if I were in her situation, I would at least want to please my partner, even if I couldn't be pleased as well.
It isn't fair or unfair. It would be nice of her to "take care" of you, but she has no responsibility to.
While I sometimes do still please my partner during "off times", I would not be down with him EXPECTING to get some during my "off" time. I don't think that's fair to her.
Just 'cause you would doesn't mean she has to.
I never expected her to do it, but I just thought it would've been nice. You're right, she doesn't have any responsibility to do it, but now it feels like I'd take care of her more or something. I don't know.
Its dickish if you make her feel bad or guilty for not wanting to do anything. Be sweet to her and maybe she'll WANT to do something for you.
I've never made her feel guilty for not wanting to do something to me. Like I said before, I never expect her to do anything.
Of course it would be nice- lots of things would be nice. You asked if we think it's fair she doesn't. We do think that it's fair. It is not ideal but it is 'fair'.
Maybe the lack of fairness she's speaking of is that doing stuff for you turns her on, and since you can't help her out, she gets frustrated. Just a guess.
I agree with Spring Haze.
Also, many women, myself included, need to feel sexy in order to enjoy sexy times. When I feel gross, I don't even think about sex, or sex acts. Yeast infections are not hot!
LOL good point flora!
I would agree! When I have blood gushing out of my vag- I'm thinking mostly about how much it sucks to be a woman, second to that on my mind is cramps after that I think about how pissed off I am at just about anything and everything. Then maybe just for a slpit second I might think about how nice it would be of me to blow my bf. After that split second my cramps scream "who gives a shit!".
Okay- so I'm exaggerating, but the idea is- I'm not in the mood to get someone else in the mood.
You need to let go of those feelings. I'm sure there are some women out there that would happily service their man during dry periods, but they're few and far between. The sooner you accept that women have "woman times", the better off you'll be.
What's up with the no sex for 2 weeks? You can treat a yeast infection in just a few days, or so I thought... maybe I am wrong? I haven't had one since I was in my late teens.
No, you're right, it only takes a few days to treat. It's been two weeks because she got it, went to the doctors, got medicine, the medicine didn't fully cure her and the doctors said to wait 5 days before coming back, so she did, and now she has an appointment with them Friday. Yeah, pain in the ass.Quote:
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You don't have to see a doctor to treat a yeast infection. They sell the medication at the grocery store these days.
If I were you I'd wait till she's fully healed from her infection. Maybe it'll be worth the wait? ;)
Depends... if she is not pleasing you because she can't be pleased then thats selfishness.
BUT...
If she isn't doing it because she doesn't/can't feel sexy whilst she is dealing with the infection then she isn't not doing it out of selfishness. Just doesn't feel very nice atm i should imagine.
Either way... 2weeks... sheesh, give me a break!
wow 2 weeks I don't think I would live it off XD
No but seriously, as long as she's not just trying to make things fair for you just because she's not getting some, just use this as an opportunity to be the caring, nice bf ;) Maybe she'll reward you :P
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You can't be serious. Typo? She can't please him and that makes her selfish?
Wouldnt stop be giving head.... but i guess some girls are selfish(jk!!)
I'm with Vash on this. Most yeast infections can be treated with over-the-counter medication, and only takes a few days, at most. My ex had a couple after trips abroad, etc, and they are easy to cure. Are you sure that is what she's got? As far as the sex thing goes, maybe if you were more attentive to her, then she would be more attentive to you.