Straight Up: Am I Ugly?

That's all I really want to know. I have no skill with women. I never have. I stayed so attached to my wife even after the end of the marriage simply for the fact I don't honestly believe it is possible for me to find anyone else. So I'm providing a link to my okcupid.com profile that has some pictures of me and any women out there I'd like your honest opinions on what I look like and if you think I am in any way, shape or form an attractive man. Just lay it to me straight, don't sugar coat.

By the way, I was inspired to do this by some other guy's thread who posted some pictures of himself and the replies seemed honest enough to give me confidence I'll get real opinions here and no trolling or deliberately nasty comments. Of course, if I really am as butt ass ugly as I suspect, that honesty could very well appear as trolling. But we'll see what happens.

So have at me!

Ok we'll try this, a photobucket link to me in my tux on my wedding day.

[url]http://s357.photobucket.com/albums/oo15/TavardeWoW/?action=view&current=5329_1210403222740_1308521283 _30608.jpg[/url]

no you're not ugly but you do need to lose a bit of weight

I'd say just get rid of the hair all together, or keep it really really short.

Weight is the only problem here.

Lose some weight, get a hair piece. Do you have money? That helps.

You're not ugly in the least, but I can't say you're attractive [to me], either.

I don' t think you are ugly.

I disagree about the hair piece. I can always tell when men are wearing them and I think it makes them look insecure. I have no problem with bald and confident.

Are you using wedding pictures in your dating profile? That seems like it could be bad mojo, or open up a can or worms if someone you have just started talking to online asks where your picture is from.

You do need to lose some weight buddy. Your whole face will slim down if you do, which will very definitely change your physical appearance. Plus a shaved head will look better on a muscular body.

To address some of the things said:

No, not using that photo or any wedding photos on dating profiles.

I've always been a bit heavy but since that picture was taken I've lost about 20 pounds and slimmed down slightly.

Yea I keep my hair short most of the time, but I would rather not shave it all off completely, that look doesn't work well for me at all.

And thank you for the honest replies.

Yes go for the altogether bald look!
Lose a bit of weight!
Dress trendy and sexy. Even if it needs injecting a bit of money in a wardrobe make over. Call a profesionnal image adviser. This could change your life.

Women like a man who dresses well.

Your best features. You have got beautiful skin and fine face features.
Losing weight/ working out/maybe some trendy glasses and you will catch our eye!!!

How old are you?

I am 30, will be 31 in a few weeks. And thanks for the compliments :)

Take care of your spirit and everything else will come naturally. Don't worry.
And hey, lose weight only if you want and/or it is doing something to your health.
Every other reason is superficial and is not worth your time.

Have fun, life is beautiful.

Take down the World of Warcraft pictures too. You've been cutting back on gameplay logged haven't you?

Oh yea, those pictures on photobucket are almost all very old and I hardly play anymore. I didn't even think they would be accessible through the link lol.

I say go bald.

I don't think you're ugly. I'm way too young to say I could be attracted to you though. Yeah I agree with most of the people here about the hair... but if it's like you say and bald just doesn't suit you then that's too bad. Show a recent picture because you're making us judge a picture where you are heavier than you really are right? I think losing a bit of weight would make your face better, personally I don't care that much about the body as long as the face is good but in this case your face is a bit bloated. Anyway you're not ugly, just too old for my taste :P

You definitely aren't ugly. I would date you, especially given you have a good personality and seem intelligent.

You asked for honest answers from an anonymous internet forum and you got them. Keep up with the exercise/weight loss. All bald isn't bad either, its all how you carry it.

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You do need to lose some weight buddy. Your whole face will slim down if you do, which will very definitely change your physical appearance. Plus a shaved head will look better on a muscular body.

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That said though, you need to work on your self-esteem, you are clingy because you fear the way people will respond to you, and you don't go out and meet any women. I'll be honest with you, you're not good looking, you're about average. And so are a lot of guys. You could improve your looks by working out, but you won't turn any women's heads right now.

Despite that though, the reason you don't get any women is your self-esteem. The much more negative result of your looks isn't the way women respond to you but the way you view yourself. If you act like you think you're going to be shot down, you're going to be shot down. If you don't go out and talk to girls, you won't meet them. And when you try online dating on a photo driven site, you'll barely even have a chance to connect with women since they will look at 20 something guys sending them messages and they tend to filter out by photo first.

Your best odds are out in the real world. Its scarier. But dude, you're 30-something, its high time you get over social phobias and start learning.

You're not ugly, but I personally am more attracted to men with a full head of hair. How about investing in a natural looking hair piece? If I was dating a man who was losing his hair, for sure I would want him to wear a hair piece.

To add on to what I wrote, be sure to pick up some self-help books. Joel Osteen's books are really good. Give 'em a try! You'll see your destiny in a whole different light.