I'm not sure if this is the right place for this thread but I figured physical attraction falls in line with the board topic... and also, being a gay man, it's a lot different for me and I'm not sure I can find the answer I'm looking for here.
Recently, I've started losing my hair at a steady pace. At a safe distance, nobody could ever tell. But within a foot of me and under slightly-more-than-subtle lighting it's definitely visible.
I'm a gay man, and I do a lot of online dating. I'm not the type of guy to troll bars or be found dancing shirtless in gay clubs, so sometimes I feel online dating is the best way to go. From what I've seen, gay men place more value on physical attractiveness than most other people. Having gotten out of a relationship a month ago, and starting to date again SLOWLY, I've found a lot of rejection in the short time I've been looking and don't know what to do or make of it.
Yesterday I went on the first date I've been on since breaking up. I thought I saw him looking at my scalp when my head was turned (as I would look back at him, I would see his eyes lowering back to my eyes). Today, he txted me saying that he didn't feel a spark, though I thought we hit it off really well.
Anyway, I suppose I'm kind of just looking for opinions and input. I'm still in a lot of emotional pain, from so many different aspects of love, including the rejection by this guy, the general shallow rejection I face for not being a "perfect twink," and my breakup just after Christmas. I put a lot of weight on love, and I tend to be the foolish hopeless romantic...
How should I feel about my hairloss? I honestly don't know if I could rock the all-shaven bald look. I love(d) my hair. And I'm only 25. Should I bother trying to save it? Should I not care? I honestly don't believe the whole "don't worry about it, you'll find someone" nonsense. I'm starting to believe that I truly may not find what I'm looking for in this life.
I have a prescription for Finasteride (Propecia) 1mg, but I haven't started taking it yet due to the prices, which I can deal with, and some of the potential side effects, which I really don't know if I could deal with. And there's always the possibility of using Rogaine, though that can cause you to shed hair and there's no guarantee that hair will grow back, ironically enough. Again, what do you all think? What would you do, if you were in my shoes? Or what would you do if you were in the shoes of someone whom someone like me was trying to go out with?
Wow, this post was A LOT longer than I initially intended...
