I know it's kind of funny, being a male posting on the "Ask a Male" forum, but I'm doing it, anyways.
I've usually had a very bad relationship with my sister. She has always had self-esteem issues, but they manifested in anger management problems, which she took out on me and my family. It was always hard to care about her problems when she expressed them by throwing heavy objects at my face. (At least I'm a good catcher, now! And good luck getting a kick anywhere near my groin.)
Recently, though, she's been getting better, so I've been trying to get closer to her. A problem remains, though, in that my sister is a total whore. She does not value her body in the sense that it should only be given to guys that respect her mind and person; she will suck a cock if the owner is hot or cool enough.
I've gotten used to that, though. Rumors about that don't bother me, anymore. Recently, however, she started inviting me to her parties. I thought she was just trying to introduce me to new people since she's been in Vancouver for a year longer than I, but she had an ulterior motive. On the way to the first party, she instructed me to interrupt the conversation if she ever got into a one-on-one talk with one of two people: a girl, whose "boyfriend" (he sees the girl as a ****-buddy) likes my sister more than her, and a guy, who wants to get with my sister, and either doesn't register or doesn't respect her hints that she doesn't like him.
The guy concerns me more. Tonight was pub night, and she visited me in the morning to pick up her mail. And finally, this morning she confessed to me her greatest concern about the dude. One night, while my sister was totally ****ing wasted, this dude followed her back to her room. She inquired as to why, and he said, "I want to see where you live." She did chores nervously about the house as to avoid serious conversation, when all of the sudden, this guy grabs her by the arm and practically forces a make-out session upon her. Date rape, by normal standards, I think.
As the pub was reaching its party point, I asked my sister what she was doing, and she agreed to go to the pub with me, rather than by herself. I know what pub night is like, here. On the way to the pub, she says, "Look, Scott" (the dude) "is likely to be here, please don't let him know I told you anything."
So I say, "Okay, we'll have a man-to-man talk about a rumor I heard."
She says, "No, don't do that, either."
I say, "Okay, I'll just punch him in the face and pretend I did it because I was drunk."
At first, she laughs. But then she stops laughing, and says, "no... don't do that, either."
I already have a criminal record in the United States... I imagine she might be concerned (as am I, more so!) that I might ruin my chances at life by getting one in Canada, too.
It's not like I would kill the dude. I don't carry knives or guns or any of that kind of stuff. I almost never get in fights; it's just that when I do, I go a little nuts. I use to have anger management problems, but I got over them years ago. But even though I can be a hard ass in a lot of situations, I have a sense of respect for girls that means I would never be aggressive in an intoxicated situation. Still, I've been to frat parties in the US and watched things like this in the making, but something about it being my sister... that strikes a nerve.
Thankfully, he was not at the pub, tonight. I stayed with her for hours, and to be honest, doing so made me pretty smashed. I drank three pitchers and a special shot invented by the bartender himself. Still, I need a way to resolve this. Not only without going to jail, but without alienating my sister, as well.
