Lasting longer - or not

Ok, at this rate I'm going to be famous because of my silly doubts, but I don't give a shit about people thinking me stupid. :)

I was reading another thread, and it reminded me of something that has been worrying me for some time... the "time" variable during sex. I've been worried that I'd last too little for quite a while, so is there any way to last longer?

I've heard some people say "thinking of other stuff" helps, but I think that's stupid and you wouldn't enjoy it if you do that..

Oh, also.. how long would be considered "normal"?

Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual dysfunction among males. Many people experience it, and it depends on age, level of fitness, time since last intercourse.
People claim that it's all psychological and it can be remedied through techniques. Phooey! That can't be true.
Just talk about it with your partner, and maybe she can give you oral sex so you can unload your first pop quickly.
Then you will last much longer when you have intercourse for your 2nd pop.

Caution: if you are a 1-pop man, and you have premature ejac, then you need to seek help because this can destroy a relationship.

Amongst other things, you can prolong the length of time you can last by wearing a thick condom or using one of those creams that numb the penis. (I don't know what it's called - I have never used it.)

I think it is much stupider to cum too quickly than it is to think about other things so you can last longer. Your woman's satisfaction is important. It is really vital you remember this if you want her to keep having sex with you.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Amongst other things, you can prolong the length of time you can last by wearing a thick condom or using one of those creams that numb the penis. (I don't know what it's called - I have never used it.)

I think it is much stupider to cum too quickly than it is to think about other things so you can last longer. Your woman's satisfaction is important. It is really vital you remember this if you want her to keep having sex with you.

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yeah benzocaine condoms.

Lasting a long time isn't always ideal either. My first two serious girlfriends both complained if the sex went on for too long. Both of them got very sensitive after having an orgasm, and didn't appreciate me continuing to pound away for a while after that. But if you do want to last longer, yeah, a condom helps, and you might want to look into using a cock ring. Or maybe one of those Trojan vibrating cock rings, to delay your pleasure and speed up her pleasure. I haven't tried that, because they are kind of expensive for a one-shot use.

Just be sure you don't put it on inside out and end up numbing her vagina! :D

Umm.. I may be wrong, but premature ejaculation is like lasting seconds, isn't it?

And those options are good, they'd imply knowing if they are needed or not though... I was thinking of something more "on the fly", I wouldn't like my first time having a bad label.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I think it is much stupider to cum too quickly than it is to think about other things so you can last longer. Your woman's satisfaction is important.

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I agree, but wouldn't a woman notice it if the guys was thinking of other thing?

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Originally Posted by VincenzoG91 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Lasting a long time isn't always ideal either. My first two serious girlfriends both complained if the sex went on for too long. Both of them got very sensitive after having an orgasm, and didn't appreciate me continuing to pound away for a while after that.

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That makes it even more complicated.. it can't be too short nor too long? damn!

No offense, sweety, but your first time WILL suck. Skill comes with experience. If you are a virgin, why don't you just enjoy the first time as organically as possible, and wait until there IS a problem before you go trying to fix yourself.

Fortunately for you, if she is also a virgin, she will probably be happy to have it over with as quickly as possible.

BTW - premature ejaculation is when the male cannot control himself long enough to ensure his partner enjoys the act, regardless of how long that is. It's about lack of control - not length of time.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

No offense, sweety, but your first time WILL suck. Skill comes with experience. If you are a virgin, why don't you just enjoy the first time as organically as possible, and wait until there IS a problem before you go trying to fix yourself.

BTW - premature ejaculation is when the male cannot control himself long enough to ensure his partner enjoys the act, regardless of how long that is. It's about lack of control - not length of time.

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Prevention is... good.. does it always have to suck? I think I'd get demotivated if that happened...

And thanks, I thought it was like those guys who last just seconds... Is control what worries me...

If you are both virgins, you won't realize how much it sucked until you gain experience, and then look backwards.

Stop worrying about what isn't even a problem. It will effect your ability to pop a boner.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

If you are both virgins, you won't realize how much it sucked until you gain experience, and then look backwards.

Stop worrying about what isn't even a problem. It will effect your ability to pop a boner.

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If I ever find a girl willing, it's highly unlikely that she'll be a virgin.. I don't know a single 21 year old virgin here, and the chances are anyone I might like will be older than that...

But yeah, I guess I'll have to stop worrying until I figure out if there's a problem or not.

Don't worry about it...your first time doesn't have to suck...mine didn't...but thats because I wasn't worried about it and you'd be surprised how natural it is....just relax and go with it.

when my boyfriend cums to quick he says its because im too sexy and i turn him on too much, try that if it happens, it turns an unsatisfied woman into a flattered one, ha.

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Originally Posted by kisswithafist [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

when my boyfriend cums to quick he says its because im too sexy and i turn him on too much, try that if it happens, it turns an unsatisfied woman into a flattered one, ha.

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haha, that's smart.

^^^yea that does help...but it really does happen if its been a while...I mean you just can't help it...but usually that also means the guy is so horny he is ready to go again in like a minute....at least I am and then I can last a lot longer.

ha, it works, then afterwards when i've had time to think about it, im like oh my god he so got away with that. ha

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Originally Posted by kisswithafist [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

ha, it works, then afterwards when i've had time to think about it, im like oh my god he so got away with that. ha

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Well, hopefully he makes it up for you afterwards..

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Originally Posted by the_robot [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Well, hopefully he makes it up for you afterwards..

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he does.ha

but sometimes cuming too quickly just happens, its one of them things that happens every now again, and a women will know that, dont put to much pressure on yourself.

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Originally Posted by kisswithafist [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

he does.ha

but sometimes cuming too quickly just happens, its one of them things that happens every now again, and a women will know that, dont put to much pressure on yourself.

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Well.. it's about pleasing the lady, I guess we just have to learn to do "other things" as a failsafe.

I really don't think there should ever be a reason where you can't control yourself from cumming, I mean I'm sure you masturbate if not you already have problems we can't fix, you know what it feels like when you are about to cum, so either A. when you start to cum slow down a lot or B. get as deep in her as you can and stop and then just focus on kissing her - it will feel really good for her both have always worked for me.

And at what someone said earlier about lasting too long and their girlfriends not liking it bc after they orgasm they get really sensitive. Okay well then all that needs to happen is them communicating with you and telling you to stop or just stop for a second until it's not so sensitive. If not you are the only one who is going to get off during sex. I can only remember one girl that I've been with that couldn't have multiple orgasms.

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Originally Posted by nesossin [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I really don't think there should ever be a reason where you can't control yourself from cumming, I mean I'm sure you masturbate if not you already have problems we can't fix, you know what it feels like when you are about to cum, so either A. when you start to cum slow down a lot or B. get as deep in her as you can and stop and then just focus on kissing her - it will feel really good for her both have always worked for me.

And at what someone said earlier about lasting too long and their girlfriends not liking it bc after they orgasm they get really sensitive. Okay well then all that needs to happen is them communicating with you and telling you to stop or just stop for a second until it's not so sensitive. If not you are the only one who is going to get off during sex. I can only remember one girl that I've been with that couldn't have multiple orgasms.

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Yeah, I do masturbate once in a while.. That advice is good and no one mentioned it, so thanks.
And I thought all of them could have multiple ogasms..

I think a lot of men come quickly if it has been a long while since last sex experience.
If I happen to come too quickly, I follow it up with oral sex so she gets uninterrupted pleasure.
After a good 15 minutes of tongue-lashing, I am ready to enter again. My woman seems
very pleased with this protocol, which makes me happy.

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Originally Posted by Kaius [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I think a lot of men come quickly if it has been a long while since last sex experience.
If I happen to come too quickly, I follow it up with oral sex so she gets uninterrupted pleasure.
After a good 15 minutes of tongue-lashing, I am ready to enter again. My woman seems
very pleased with this protocol, which makes me happy.

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haha that's what I meant by "other things" :)

Many women are used to men cumming too quickly the first few times. Its not really a big issue.

But you can turn her on in other ways. Go down on her like you can't breath without it. She'll forget about you cumming in no time. You'll get hard and could have sex again very quickly. Win win.