Is it too soon for someone to be in love and actually truely mean it after two months??
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Is it too soon for someone to be in love and actually truely mean it after two months??
that all depends on the person and the type of relationship that a person is in. usually after you've experienced a few relationships, you more so know what you're looking for in a partnar and thus, it makes it easier to fall inlove. yet i still feel that two months is still too early. raverboy
So u think it might just be lust??Quote:
Originally Posted by Illusional
it's really hard to tell.. some people quickly fall in love while others take months to say the l word. i'm not sure if it's either you or the peron that you're worried about saying i love you too early but for the most part, i would wait it out. if you feel that the other person is falling too quickly for you, then you can certainly speak your mind, but i'm guessing that it's the other way around. take a deep breath and take things slow. you're trying to rush your life, so why rush a relationship?? you have the entire life ahead in your path so what is a few more months??
raverboy
It depends what you mean by two months. Did you get together two months ago? Did you meet two months ago?
I knew I loved my partner after four days but we had been very close for the past year so it wasnt like we'd only just met or anything.
Four days after we got together, I mean
I just met someone who is about to be proposed to after only 3 months, and she is going to say yes :astonish:
Yipes if someone proposed to me that soon I'd run for the hills!!!
If you've only just met then it's likely to be lust - doesn't it take about 6 months to a year for the hormones to settle down? If you've known them for longer then it could be love.
So you have to wait at least six months to know whether someone truely means that they love you??Quote:
Originally Posted by cbee
What if you push them all the time and they are still there?? Emotionally that is, with worries??Quote:
Originally Posted by jakki2903
I don't know if it takes 6 months, all I know is that in general biologists say that other things such as friendship, having things in common etc... become important. Before that it's more of an "is that a person of the opposite sex I see and am attracted to? Right lets go grab him!" reaction. You don't think about it as much.
If you've been friends before you got together then it's more likely that when that hormonal surge dies down that love will be there.
Is this to do with your other post? DO you think you are pushing your b/friend too hard about that texting thing?Quote:
Originally Posted by jakki2903
love takes years to develop
Love isn't biology or statistics.. you KNOW when youre in love... dont let anybody tell you...
It can happen after a few minutes... or a few years, there's no set time period.
But if you have to ask that kind of thing on a forum, then if youre questining it, you're not...
Give it time,
Nick
I do love him, and now don't question his love. I thank you for your response, it's the most truest description of the way I see it too.Quote:
Originally Posted by crEA-tEch
I've just been told in the past those three little words after a few weeks then after a few more weeks, that's it, it's all over. He says I am the one for him and that he's been waiting all his life for me. He introduced me to his family this weekend. I am a bit more sceptical about him meeting mine, because I feel it would be too soon. He's a great bloke.
I know someone who proposed after six days. She said yes.Quote:
Originally Posted by LucidDream
They never got married in the end though - he wanted to wait awhile and she wanted to get married straight away so they split.
Jakki, with no disrespect intended, if you genuinely loved your partner you wouldn't be asking these types of questions. Having doubts about a relationship is normal, however continually second-guessing your relationship when there is obviously a lack of trust and commitment should be worth raising a warning flag.
To answer your question, there is no preset timeline that determines when you should be falling in love with someone, you simply know when it's happening; that doesn't mean that both partners shouldn't proceed with caution if they aren't well familiar with each other.
Nobody believes in love at first sight then?
Omg and I thought 3 months was too soon!
Well technically if you met your partner online then you could fall in love with them on first sight.Quote:
Originally Posted by LucidDream
haha..things are never the way that they seem. never fall in love with someone until you have met them. raverboy
well, 2 months mite b alittle short. But when love comes, it comes. here is some senario that may help u by bit
1) my friend T (aged 18) know this guy who works at the food court, W (aged 25) and the next day, they confessed to each other. Then, in one month, they were married. <last week to b exact, i was the flower girl XP>
2) another friend of mine meet this guy and 4 months later they were married. They lived happily ever afetr. Both will do ANYTHING and i mean ANYTHING for each other. n it's been 12 years since they got married
3) last is a bad one, knoweach other for one month, got too deep, now canot run away from each other as they are forced to b with each other (they had a baby, that's y) u c them screaming at each other
Hi, thanks for the three scenarios!Quote:
Originally Posted by kanzaki
We've been together just over 2 months now and he's been saying he wants to marry me. He's 28 and he says that I am the woman of his dreams and that I am 'the one'. I feel the same way as he does. Should I be cautious??
man i would run for this hills to if someone proposed to me that quickly. i'm not denying that you could fall in love that amount of time, but still i think you should stick it out longer than that to make sure b4 you get engaged. you may be in love, or you may just be falling in love with him. it doesn't always have to just be love or lust. unless you've truely been in love b4 i think it's hard to distinguish between love and falling in love. especially when ur young.
The fact that you are even asking that suggests you already are.Quote:
Originally Posted by jakki2903