Need opinions about whether this is a good idea or not.

So there's this girl I like that I'm going to be hanging out with soon. We were supposed to hang out during spring break but neither of us drive, so I'm working on getting my license so we can do something over the summer. What I'm thinking about doing is going to the mall, then bowling, then see a movie. I'm going to generalize a bit right here -- since she's a teenage girl she most likely wants to watch Twilight (barf) so I'll jokingly say "Fine but next time I get to choose :)" thus setting up another opportunity to hang out. Also going to flirt a bit (lightly touching her arms, back, etc) and see how she responds.

Is this too much? I kind of want to get in a relationship with her but I know not to tell her that flat-out.


I don't really know her that well. I know she likes art (we took the same class together last year), likes spongebob, and wants to be a game designer. I've known her about a couple of years but we never talked much except joking around in class; I've never hung out with her before. I graduated from high school last year, she graduates this summer. I've talked to her a few times on FB and over the phone.

Sounds like a good idea to me. You seem like a really nice guy, and I'm sure this will work for you if she has feelings for you aswell :)

Just be careful not to vomit on her halfway through Twilight ;)

lol, hopefully she will not want to watch Twilight. Providing that there's no good movies playing when we hang out, would it be creepy to suggest going to her house to watch a DVD?

Yes, it would be creepy.

I'm not a big fan of movie dates, though. What's the point in going on a date where you can't talk to each other?

yeah, going to her place might be a little strange off the bat. if there aren't any movies playing why not go somewhere and grab a bite to eat? a nice casual place where you guys can enjoy some good food and talk to get to know each other. maybe do mall, dinner, and then bowling (to let go of all that stress buildup over the course of the beginning of the date and dinner and just have some FUN). ending the date with fun will most likely get her intrigued for another date.

i remember dating in high school...some of the most nerve-racking, but memorable, moments. girls, especially in high school, want the guys to think well of them and get overly nervous about what the guy is going to think of her. as long as you act relaxed and courteous, and try to help her feel comfortable with you, the date will go well. show her that you aren't some jerk-off trying to get in her pants, that you actually like her as a person, and many dates will come. wish you the best of luck! you sound like a really good catch!

How about doing the 1st date to get to know each other. Like going out to eat than find like an arcade place or go carts place doing something fun where you can talk and laugh and have a good time instead of sitting in a theater and getting in trouble for talking. lol. God the good ole days. See im 24 soon to be 25 I had a guy who is 27 take me out on a date we went to go eat after that we went and rode go carts. loll. God I sound lame but it was fun and very entertaining. We really got to know each other on the 1st date. Hope you decide something great.

Make sure it's clearly a date and not just hanging out as friends. You could get Friendzoned and that would suck.

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Originally Posted by sehvral [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yes, it would be creepy.

I'm not a big fan of movie dates, though. What's the point in going on a date where you can't talk to each other?

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Yeah I thought it was kind of creepy too. Well, we're going to be talking to each other at the mall and when bowling, so seeing a movie isn't too bad, imo.

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Originally Posted by RdHrshyKss [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

yeah, going to her place might be a little strange off the bat. if there aren't any movies playing why not go somewhere and grab a bite to eat? a nice casual place where you guys can enjoy some good food and talk to get to know each other. maybe do mall, dinner, and then bowling (to let go of all that stress buildup over the course of the beginning of the date and dinner and just have some FUN). ending the date with fun will most likely get her intrigued for another date.

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What I'm thinking of is first the mall, then something to eat (like Pizza Hut or something), then see a movie, then bowling. I'm trying to think of it as a date.

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Make sure it's clearly a date and not just hanging out as friends. You could get Friendzoned and that would suck.

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When I talked to her we agreed it would just be hanging out, so saying that it's a date would probably freak her out. When we do hang out I'm going to flirt with her and see how she responds. If we hang out a second time, then we could talk about going on a "real date" I guess.

Sorry, I'm sure you're all nice and good.... but anyone who names themselves after a thug organization gets my spittle..

hocks up loogie

(Can't you change just one initial in the TSA bit?)

expels loogie across TSA09's face

- Suffer, mall cop!

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Originally Posted by Doc Durian [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Sorry, I'm sure you're all nice and good.... but anyone who names themselves after a thug organization gets my spittle..

hocks up loogie

(Can't you change just one initial in the TSA bit?)

expels loogie across TSA09's face

- Suffer, mall cop!

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Uhhm, my name is just my initials backwards, not named after some organization or whatever. :/

Sounds like a plan!

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Originally Posted by TSA09 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Uhhm, my name is just my initials backwards, not named after some organization or whatever. :/

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I apologize and hope you'll take the sincerity of that apology as intentioned.

Peace, TSA09

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I apologize and hope you'll take the sincerity of that apology as intentioned.

Peace, TSA09

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It's okay. :)


So, I'm not going to interact with her at all until I call her to hang out. I feel like I've been a bit -- what's the word, suffocating her? -- so, I'm not going to send her any messages, write on her wall, or anything like that.

So today I went to the mall (dad drove me) to get my hair cut, and I saw that the bowling alley had shut down, so there goes the bowling idea. There are basically two malls where I live -- one mega mall that takes around 40 minutes to get to, and one crappy mall that takes 20 minutes to get to; gonna have to go to the mega mall. I found this place that has a bunch of different kinds of activities (laser tag, mini-golf, arcade) and it's only like ten minutes away from the mall. Kind of a problem, though -- she had some kind of concert or something at that same place last week, so I feel it would be weird to ask her to go there with me, as I have never been there before. So how can I bring this up casually, without making her feel creeped out? (sorry for being socially dumbass-ed. :/)

Ok, so I don't exactly know when we are going to hang out. I'm trying to save up money to get a car, and I still have to get my license. But anyway, would it be alright to invite her to bring along a friend when we do hang out? My reason for this is, we are both kind of shy, especially me, so having another person there with us would make it be not-so awkward. Advice, please?

sounds good to me, as long as you bring a friend of yours as well. a guy and two girls might just be weird, but two guys and two girls could be a double date situation and might make it more comfortable for everyone involved to have that friend there. just a suggestion...

as for the location, girls like the mall so i don't see her having an issue with going there again lol, especially if she'll have a friend of hers there with her. the whole laser tag thing sounds like fun ;)

Ugh. Just found out that she's going out-of-state for college, so the summer is the only time I can do something with her. Unless she decides to leave before the fall, in which case I'm out of luck. This sucks.

I'm most likely going to go with the friend idea, and if things go all right there, I'll ask her to do the mini-golf thing some other time with just me and her. Does this sound good?

sounds good to me...