Can't finish

Two nights ago me and my gf were having sex and I could not finish at all. I attributed it to the fact that I had a lot to drink.

But last night I was sober and for some reason I still did not finish. I mean being turned on was not an issue...I was as hard as could be and I'm still kinda hard this morning considering its been several days since I've gotten off.

We tried everything...multiple positions, oral, lingerie (not on me of course)....she finally got tired after about 3 hours though. I mean the only good thing is that she got off multiple times but at the same time I'd like to cum.

Could there be something medically wrong? Cause everything felt amazing.

It sounds like you're focusing too hard on it. Orgasm is a reaction that requires a mental process, and when you focus too hard on that, you're preventing the mental process from occurring.

My bf is the same way when he drinks too much. I would say maybe you kind of let that night of drinking get in your head and its pysching you out now. Just relax, I'm sure its nothing medical other than stress/nervousness.

Yea the other night did kind of bother me, maybe I am over thinking it now.

I just don't want anything in that area to be broken...I really enjoy using it.

Nah man, it the anesthetic qualities of the alcohol at work. No worries.

If you ever want to enhance your orgasm at all, take about 75mg of diphenhydramine (Benadryl) about an hour before you plan to have sex. Trust me, take my word for it. It will make your orgasm 5x harder.

Sounds like you got overstimulated. I suggest taking a break and going back at it after a few minutes.

I want to get drunk with my gf and have sex. If she and I just sat around and got drunk together, that might be kind of fun. I don't normally drink though.

giga, what is overstimulated?

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Rich [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

giga, what is overstimulated?

---

Exactly what dewilliams described. it feels great, but you can't actually finish because the nerves in your penis are overstimulated and have to calm down- kind of like resetting yourself. This happens to my husband sometimes. He makes sure he doesn't cum too fast and then it takes a long time to get there (no complaints from me).

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Exactly what dewilliams described. it feels great, but you can't actually finish because the nerves in your penis are overstimulated and have to calm down- kind of like resetting yourself. This happens to my husband sometimes. He makes sure he doesn't cum too fast and then it takes a long time to get there (no complaints from me).

---

I've never heard of that before....I do always make sure she gets off one way or another even these past two times I've made sure she has gotten off several times....so your saying I shouldn't hold back?...cause I could be done way before her....I could probably be done twice before she is done once honestly.

No, you SHOULD hold back or at least go down on her until she's satisfied, then you can let it go. If you do get overstimulated, you just need a little break. See if she'll blow you after a couple of minutes. I'm told it's awesome.

I don't think thats it cause last night we gave up after awhile but I was still hard and it'd probably been like 10 minutes and she gave me a bj but I still couldn't finish...I mean I really liked it....but she eventually got tired of it....it was still takin me forever.

Yes, but did you take a break last night? To give yourself time to calm down a little?

thanks for the info giga
I'll keep it in mind :)

Do you mean I gotta lose the wood?...is that what you mean by calm down?....if thats the case then now...and I woke up with morning wood....and I pretty much had to sit down a lot today if you catch my drift...she is coming home in an hour and we are doing something about this....I can't be walkin around with a hard-on. I work at a zoo...there are kids running around.

No, I don't think you have to lose the wood. You can even leave it right inside your girlfriend, just stop thrusting for a while.

success!!!!!

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by dewilliams2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I work at a zoo...there are kids running around.

---

Kids at the zoo see elephants, horses etc with hard-ons all the time. You're just a human with a hard-on. Big deal ! :P

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by dono01 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Nah man, it the anesthetic qualities of the alcohol at work. No worries.

If you ever want to enhance your orgasm at all, take about 75mg of diphenhydramine (Benadryl) about an hour before you plan to have sex. Trust me, take my word for it. It will make your orgasm 5x harder.

---

AWESOME! I love when I find a gold nugget amongst all the posts. I gave you a 'Thanks' and contributed to your reputation. YEAH!

I see you had success. Congratulations. Did you have to piss or shit? Holding in either one can cause you to not be able to orgasm. Even if you do orgasm when your bladder is full it won't feel right.

anorgasmia is the word btw

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Incognito [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I see you had success. Congratulations. Did you have to piss or shit? Holding in either one can cause you to not be able to orgasm. Even if you do orgasm when your bladder is full it won't feel right.

---

That wasn't the issue...I know what you mean though...I think it was just a mental block....it still took a long time but when I did it was awesome....like 4 days of built up orgasm after two attempts at release....there will be some tension.

Are you taking any medications, antidepressants, or especially deoncgestants or cougjh suppresents. These can have effect similar to what you are despcribing

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Incognito [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

AWESOME! I love when I find a gold nugget amongst all the posts. I gave you a 'Thanks' and contributed to your reputation. YEAH!

---

Did you actually TRY this? Because if you gave me diphenhydramine, I would lose all interest and fall immediately asleep. In fact, I often give this to patients for sedative purposes.

Actually its still on a 'post it' on my desk. I always forget to bring it home, so no I haven't tried it yet. I think its effects may depend on the individual. Some people become drowsy and some become hyperactive (at least that's what I remember reading on the bottle). Its been years since I've taken it, so I don't really remember which group I fall in to.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Incognito [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Actually its still on a 'post it' on my desk. I always forget to bring it home, so no I haven't tried it yet. I think its effects may depend on the individual. Some people become drowsy and some become hyperactive (at least that's what I remember reading on the bottle). Its been years since I've taken it, so I don't really remember which group I fall in to.

---

Thats if your wife lets you :P

Ha, yeah. I forgot about the actual sex part of the equation. Perhaps that's why I'm in no hurry to take the post it home.

I am VERY interested in the results Incognito :)

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by dewilliams2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Two nights ago me and my gf were having sex and I could not finish at all. I attributed it to the fact that I had a lot to drink.

But last night I was sober and for some reason I still did not finish. I mean being turned on was not an issue...I was as hard as could be and I'm still kinda hard this morning considering its been several days since I've gotten off.

We tried everything...multiple positions, oral, lingerie (not on me of course)....she finally got tired after about 3 hours though. I mean the only good thing is that she got off multiple times but at the same time I'd like to cum.

Could there be something medically wrong? Cause everything felt amazing.

---

Maybe you sensed her skank-ass BF smell on her. :P

haha or she'd been "loosened up" haha.

i know. i'm gross.

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Maybe you sensed her skank-ass BF smell on her. :P

---

Are you saying that she's cheating or that dewilliams "smell" was on her (making him the skank-ass BF)?

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by Incognito [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Are you saying that she's cheating or that dewilliams "smell" was on her (making him the skank-ass BF)?

---

Here:

[url]http://www.loveforum.net/broken-hearts-forum/42082-really-sucks.html[/url]

DAMN! That's what I get for never visiting the 'Broken Hearts Forum'. That sucks. I only read the first page, but will read the rest soon.

Thanks guys...I appreciate the sensitivity towards my situation...luckily I have an amazing sense of humor and can't help but laugh.

Sorry, I wasn't trying to make your situation seem like forum fodder. I just had no idea that it had happened, and frankly am shocked. I want to read the rest of the pages before commenting there because I hate when people jump into a thread asking stupid ass questions that were answered on the second page. I always call them on it, so I try not to be hypocritical.

No worries...like I said I laughed and this has been like 3 weeks ago now.

Try the lingerie on you.

More seriously, I find I can never cum (or I cum way too quickly) if my thoughts are elsewhere, especially if my thoughts are worried about not cuming (or cuming). If I relax, and go slow, and in particular talk about it, it works. Talking helps even if it's embarassing etc because it releases the worry and fret and anxiety.