Just curious guys how long if you're in a relationship would you wait for sex? And also if you're just dating a girl how long would you wait for sex?
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Just curious guys how long if you're in a relationship would you wait for sex? And also if you're just dating a girl how long would you wait for sex?
I would wait until I felt comfortable with the guy. If I'm at all serious about the guy, I will wait. If I don't plan on sticking around long, I'll go for it and see how much fun I can get out of it.
I think it all depends on the girl, relationship and may other things.
Personally I have been in a relationship and it was 3 or 4 months before we first had sex, we had loads of dates and had seen each other a lot. However I have also slept with somebody after only a couple of weeks and a few dates.
Saying that I am not one for just having sex for the sake of having sex and as much as I think it is a big part of any relationship it is not the only thing that matters. I am willing to wait for as long as it takes if I have a connection with somebody and do it when it is right.
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That makes no sense to me what so ever, sorry. you bang some random dude, but a bf you make wait? Someone who actually has shown they care about you and like you, you make wait? Are you single?Quote:
Originally Posted by lahnnabell [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Actually, it is not as backwards as you think. Sex means a lot to me when I truly care about the person. Good sex takes time and the right chemistry. If I was really interested in getting serious with a guy, there is no point in rushing anything. I would love to take my time exploring our sexual relationship, and not ruin it by jumping into it. There are PLENTY of other fun sexual things one can do besides actual intercourse.
If I didn't care about the response I got from the guy I'd bang him and plan on never seeing him again. I don't open up emotionally to guys I simply have a sexual relationship with. Once I do open up emotionally there is a whole other level of sex that I experience, but that is reserved for guys who I plan on keeping around.
Besides, it's not about making him wait. Two people are involved in the act. A real man won't get all bent out of shape just because he doesn't get to bang me right away. If he does, then he can go f*ck himself for all I care.
And I never specified how long I would make someone wait. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and we've began having sex about a month into our relationship. This depends entirely on the chemistry of the relationship, and how the other person feels about the act. If someone wanted to wait a little while, I would respect them for that.
Depends. I dated a devout Christian once and she was very adamant about "no sex." Lots of heavy petting, but the bra never came off nor the panties (an area that I could not touch even thought it was "okay" for her to grind on me (ah, yeah...it was all about her).
Anyway, after 11 months...we got really close to the big event. I stopped her and said, "Hey, I don't want you to break your sexual morays. Let's stop."
Oh, she got all turned on by that...me, the heathen respecting her morality. She said that she really wanted to "****" (a big word for her, never heard her say it except that time). Anyway, she took of the bra and panties and was there all ready for me. I had my dick about an inch from her and she was laying back with her eyes closed with a smile.
That's when I said, "It really sucks to be teased, doesn't it?" And shoved Mr Happy back into my jockey shorts, pulled up my jeans and walked out.
Moral: Don't make him wait too long...and certainly don't tease him with the sex issue. Either yes or no or we wait. Be clear with him; you set the parameters and stick to them. If he doesn't like it, he'll leave. And, no loss if he leaves.
... So so evil..... ._.Quote:
Originally Posted by CAM [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Ah, but it was all worth it. Obviously, my action was that action of someone who wanted to break up with her, right? Guess what she does? She actually shows up at my office the next day, dressed to the nines, and says that "We aren't broken up" until she says so! That she had been mad at first, but realized that I shown myself to be "more Christian" (oh, I hate that phraseology, but there it is...) than she was. She also told me that sex wouldn't be a sin because I had a good heart and she had a good heart and so how could that be a bad thing....Quote:
Originally Posted by TheTooya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I didn't stay around for the rest of her words. I was running as fast as I could!!!
With my GF it was on our 3rd date and I would easily have done it on the first date. With previous partner it was 2nd date. I don't like waiting around as I love having sex.
Not very long. If I don't get laid by the third date I start looking elsewhere. I'm not spending all that money on food and entertainment just for the hell of it. I expect to get my dick wet. If I want someone to hang out with I have plenty of friends who not only pay their own way, but are far more interesting to spend time with.
When I was in college, it was a month or so. I felt I needed to know the girl well enough before we move forward.
Now that I am in my mid-30s, and my GF 3 years older than me, we technically shouldn't have waited as long as we did.
Funny thing was, we both wanted to make sure we're in love before we had sex. So we waited 2.5 months.
Me? Depend on the girl. If I love her very much and care for her deeply, I will wait as long as it takes, even if I should wait until marriage. But if not, then I will ask for it and even demand it. And if I don't get it, I'll look somewhere else. At least, that what I did when I was sooo much younger :)
I had a lot of dates where the chemistry was not there. Most of my dates were just about "how long until sex?". Once your over 21, you want it like everyday. So I decided to date and some girls were very into me. Out of those, some girls I would sleep with but there was no chemistry so the sex sucked. When there was chemistry, I believe on our 2nd date we had sex and it was well agreeable on both of our sides and there was no regrets no matter how the terms ended in our relationship.
So usually time with chemistry will tell.
My current relationship, we had sex on our first date. We are still together, its been about a year and a half.
How long am I willing to wait? Thats a toughy... When I was a virgin, the girl I was with wanted to wait, and so did I.. so we did everything BUT sex, and that lasted for perhaps 6 months. Now... I'd want it much sooner, but it really depends. No point in rushing the sex, is theres definite chemistry going on then sex will come when we are both ready. ;)
@ Lahnabell:
"How long will a guy in a relationship wait for sex? "
Me personally: antything beyond 3 dates starts to look suspicious.
1. She is stringing me along for a reason I do not know - I lose interest.
2. She has low self esteem - tries to build her value by making me wait, in accordance with the principle that whatever you work for to attain, you value. She backwards rationalises that if she wants me to value her (casue she doesn't herself) she needs to "make me work/wait" for it. I lose interest...
All my long-term relationships started with sex happening relatively quickly...
As my friend put it, "if a woman meets the man's relationship criteria, then whether she puts out on the first date or the tenth, is irrelevant. If she doesn't do so soon enough, the guy reckons she isn't interested and bails."
It depends. If my girlfriend told me she was a virgin and wanted to wait, is willing to give me hand jobs and blow jobs in the meantime, I would be willing to wait.Quote:
Originally Posted by sweetpea10 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
But damn, it would be hard ! (pun intended) :)
I usually have sex with a girl either on the first or second date. I once broke up with a girl cause we dated for 2 weeks and she would not have sex with me. She said she thinks 2 weeks is too soon and once she made a guy wait 3 month. I wasn't going to wait 3 month so i ended it. In all honesty i wasn't that in to her anyways. I think if it was a girl i really really liked... i might be able to wait a couple of weeks or even a month.. but any more then that,i would think there is something wrong with her. It might not be the right way to think,it is just how i think.
I respect it if a girl makes me wait. That whole courting period before you have sex is actually pretty fun.
Is sex is important to a girl ? curious
Is this a serious question? ^
It probably is, I've heard a lot of guys say they think females don't like or need sex at all..Quote:
Originally Posted by girl68 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I guess you're right. Well here on this forum the female posters LOVE sex, would divroce without it. It is urber important and we will never go without it. Women who don't liky sex are a MYTH (or at least they are not the majority).
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Originally Posted by Sixpacj [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
As a guy, I would probably wait about 2~3 months if I was really liking the girl, and there was at least some form of passionate exchange (I can understand no sex, but if you can't enjoy a massage or some sensual kissing after 2 months then I'm out). If the girl was just stone-cold absolutely hands-off no touchy at all after a few weeks then I would explain that I am an extremely sexually passionate person and you seem to be lacking said passion so SEE YA!.
If I was head over heels in love, I would probably wait indefinitely, as long as there was SOME sort of intimate sexual contact after a month or two.
I could hang out with a woman and do things together like friends do, not everything has to be sex. You should probably define what type of relationship you expect from a person before getting too carried away. If you just want to be friends with a guy thats cool but you should let him know that you only want to be friends and nothing else
urm., is it? man, which is mean, a guy should be more 'expert' in bed ?, urgh I can't do it to my gf, hell yeah I want it, but it's almost my marriage, guess I'l just hav to endure itQuote:
Originally Posted by girl68 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
After some frustrating sexless relationships when I was younger, I have usually followed the third date rule. If I didn't get laid by the third date, I moved on. But I made an exception for my current girlfriend, because we had great chemistry together right from the start, but she needed a long time together before she was ready to have sex. So I waited over six months, and she was worth the wait. Still, I regret those lost months when we could have had sex sooner.
Depends on the girl. But I'd wait a month and not any longer.
I've been waiting 8+ months.....can't take it anymore...
Ok this may sound weird but I waited a long time in my current relationship. It doesn't make it worse in fact it was more enjoyable because we waited until we were both comfortable , no one forced it upon anyone. And it meant alot more to both of us. I can honestly say I've never felt like this and I will remember that night forever.
Depends on the people invlolved. Don't make your choice because of the other person.
If they become impatient and push it, or dump someone over it, then good riddance. (Well, maybe not good, but is the goal sexual relationships, or deeper ones?)
While, I personally believe, it's ok to be selfish about what you want, I don't think it's always right to be pushy, or pushed for it. There should be some level of respect for your (perspective) partner.
Just starting out? As long as we both need to feel comfortable about hitting the sack together. There is no way to predict how much time that will take--it could be as long as three months or as short as three hours (though in practice, it's typically a little more than a month).Quote:
Originally Posted by sweetpea10 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
If it didn't happen about two months in, however, I'd gently ask her what her intents were about our developing relationship. Maybe there's something wrong, and it needs to be cleared up before the first sex. Or maybe she's just interested in being friends.
Varies with every person. Not everyone can wait and have all the patience in the world. All you need to know is how comfortable you are in doing it. Sex is an intimate act, so for me I try to get to know the person first. Also know his health condition... you dont want to end up getting some STD's.
2 weeks then im a gonna lol
Make sure she is safe before you have sex. That's the rule I go by. It's best to be safe and you should both get tested for STDs before you have vaginal intercourse. That's the rule I go by.
The first date I had with my ex-boyfriend, I made it clear that I wanna stay virgin until we're married, and he accepted and told me that he's religious as well. During our 8th monthsary, we was all touchy and everything and I reminded him of the boundary we had set between us and he was just like, "That's enough, I can't take it anymore... just once." And so I broke up with him. I don't want guys who can't respect my beliefs and will.
So for me, 8 months.
I could wait forever as far as I'm concerned, but if a girl told me that, it would last until the moment she told me that. :DQuote:
Originally Posted by silentmirror [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Sounds like the last thing you're an expert at is sex.Quote:
Originally Posted by loyalover [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]