Ideal Apology

So Ladies, I recently had a huge fight with my friend/friend-with-benefits-but-it-was-very-complicated and out of rage I broke it off completely with her, to the point where we aren't even friends now. This was because she was being super flirty with her ex (same clique) and I told her that it really, really hurt. One thing led to another, since we had this fight before, and it wasn't long before I started talking like a sailor, if you know what I mean.

Boy do I regret it now.

Its been nearly a week and I miss her, a lot, maybe too much. There wasn't a day since the fight where I haven't thought about her. It was a slow, dreadful week of sadness.

Being women yourselves, what would be the perfect apology for you? If it involves a making out session at the end it would be amazing. :D

I plan to text her with something like "I miss you," (should I include a few kisses?) then according to the reply I'll tell her "Wanna meet up and talk it out?" Then we'll meet at a peaceful area. Simple plan up till now.

What will make me come out as this sweet and awesome guy that she would like to date again?

Thanks =]

she ain't no friend with benefits....you lurrrve her

Nah...at least I don't think so....am I? 0.o
I'm pretty sure she doesn't feel that way, especially after the fight. I would really like to know if she misses me though.

sounds like your in love with her if so flowers always work
friends with benefits my butt lol

Well okay I admit I MAY be going down that road, it feels good too..

However its not the point, I still need advice about how to apologise romantically and stuff. Flowers won't work, don't want to come out as too needy/desperate. Besides I'm sure she doesn't feel the same way. Her feelings are divided between me, her stupid ex, and her desire to experiment with other women (which breaks my heart just thinking about it.)

It IS the point. You don't apologize romantically to a friends with benefits. You lurvvvve her. :)

I'm going with my gut and saying she DOES feel the same way and is waiting for your stupid ass to make a move so she stops feeling like you only want her for sex.

You know what you need to do? Grovel. That's the plan of action. Call her or if you're too chicken text her "Please let me take you to dinner to make up for being such a jerk. You don't even have to talk to me, I just want to see you." and bring flowers. EXPENSIVE, GOOD FLOWERS.

And then she'll lurvvvvve you again. Guaranteed to work.

Well I can forget everything, the whore only wants to talk on msn, so the plan is useless now. Most probably shes afraid that something romantic would happen between us, and she told me that she only wants to be friends now, nothing more. Dammit I shouldn't have broken up with her.

The word sorry- when it is genuine is usually enough for me.

First of all dipshit stop referring to her as a whore.

Second yes, flowers and I'm sorry is an apology "I miss you" is NOT. I miss you is saying it wasn't my fault but whatever let's get over it.

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Originally Posted by girl68 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

First of all dipshit stop referring to her as a whore.

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Ah if only you knew. ;)

You're being a little biased though with the flowers. You're assuming that it was actually my fault, but in reality we're both guilty; she jsut doesn't want to accept her own guilt.

Whatever the case, I'm going to give up on her. Might as well remain friends as she wants.

I'm not assuming it's not her fault. I'm telling you how to apologize. As YOU asked. If she asked me what SHE should do to apologize to you I'd advise her to do something similar though not with flowers. I am not biased AT ALL.

Lol relax girl, don't worry. Thanks for the advice though, appreciate all the help I got. :)

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Originally Posted by ecojeanne [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

she ain't no friend with benefits....you lurrrve her

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I agree its love dont forget flowers i always say that lol

Flowers help lots

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Originally Posted by Terpy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You're assuming that it was actually my fault

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Actually, from what you wrote, it does sound like this was your fault. I'm sure there's more to the story, but you acted like a jerk. You flew into a rage because she was being flirty with another guy and started "talking like a sailor." She's not even your girlfriend. You have no right to dictate how she acts or who she talks to. And you probably said some hurtful things before YOU broke up with HER. Now you're calling her a whore because she doesn't want to see you. Good for her for not taking any more of your bullshit.

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Originally Posted by MerryH [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Actually, from what you wrote, it does sound like this was your fault. I'm sure there's more to the story, but you acted like a jerk. You flew into a rage because she was being flirty with another guy and started "talking like a sailor." She's not even your girlfriend. You have no right to dictate how she acts or who she talks to. And you probably said some hurtful things before YOU broke up with HER. Now you're calling her a whore because she doesn't want to see you. Good for her for not taking any more of your bullshit.

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I get the jerk thing a lot actually lol.

Allow me to give you a little more detail then. Because she flipped out after seeing me in the same room with my own ex a few months back, yes you read correctly (I didnt even talk to my ex because I didn't want to hurt her), I felt really bad about it even though I didn't do anything. Wanting something to happen between us, I told her that I was sorry, and we both agreed to be exclusive. We would have gone into a relationship but thats another story.

In the mean time she was already hitting on her ex, but I didn't say anything at the time since we were just friends with benefits. As time passed, feelings naturally developed, we both knew it, but still didn't want a relationship (long story), so we stayed friends with benefits. One night she completely ignored me and stayed with her ex. When I confronted her she told me that she ignored me intentionnally because her ex was feeling hurt and ignored.. WTF. I felt used. We had an argument, but I forgave her and continued our "relationship." So much for being exclusive and feelings. Oh yea her ex is still mad about her.

Which leads us to this break up, she pulled another "ignore Terpy so ex doesn't get hurt." I was shattered, so I excused myself and went home. She later accused me of ditching her. I couldn't take it anymore so I snapped.

Yeah, I'm sure she wasn't perfect, but that doesn't excuse you from acting like a jerk.

Sounds like someone needs to work on their personality.

Next time you get caught up in a situation like this, take a step back and laugh instead of getting angry. These kind of predicaments are beyond ridiculous and it's not worth investing any emotions. Your apology is going to come off as "Doh! I shot myself in the foot and it hurts! Please keep sleeping with me, I need your puss." It's best to just keep your dignity and forget about her. Do you really wanna screw the loony slut who likes love triangles and double penetration? You have to keep little Mr. Terpy in check... don't want any STDs, do you?

You can't exactly laugh it off, just seeing her cuddling up with him breaks my heart, and literally feel my energy being taken away. Thats when my desire for extremely long walks kicks in.

Being a jerk is not a bad thing however, I'm not saying that I'm proud of it. But if I weren't, she would have been walking all over me and my feelings this whole time. Though I do regret me losing my temper since thats a completely different level of jerkness.

After some thinking I've decided that shes not worth it after all, its too complicated. I'll slowly and politely phase her out of my life. I will not change my personality for any girl. I accepted her for her pros and cons, so I expect to be accepted in the same way.