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Ok I am not going to comment yes their good and yes they work or no their bad and no stop wasting your time on a long distance relationship.
So my honest question here, is whats your view on a long distance relationship and would you have one. Assume if you were living in the USA and had a woman back here in Australia or Hong Kong what ever, do you believe in them.
They are fun and exciting at the start but they have a short shelf life. The next level in a relationship is to be physically together....so when you can't the relationship cannot progress. When it becomes apparent that you won't be seeing each other it can be very heartbreaking. Another issue is that they may seem to be the love of your life, but when you see them in real life it gets be a disappointment. I've talk to a woman that left her country to be with a man, had his child and, it turned out he was a cheater and abusive. She didn't have any money or means to get home and she feared he would take the child away from her....very sad. Others find out their bf/gf are married.
So LDR's are great if you are looking for the short term. If you are looking for someone to be a part of your life date locally.
No. How can a 'relationship' work when you cannot physically be with the other person. No way, no chance.
I believe that LDR-s can work for a while (shorter or longer), until both partners decide what they are going to do so they can be together. I don't think a LDR could last for an eternity - and actually, this seems both sadistic & masochistic. I also believe that a LDR won't work if one of the partners is less involved than the other one - there must be a compatibility between their levels of commitment and involvement.
If I would ever have one? Yes; actually I already have had. If I believe in them? Yes, as long as this situation is a temporary one.
To me, long-distance relationships are like leprechauns. I've heard of them, and I even have an idea of what they look like. But I don't believe in them, and want nothing to do with them. If there was a short-term goal involved, I guess I would give it a try, but in the long-term one person or the other needs to move so they can be together.
Ok reason I asked this question. I know this girl, she met this guy on FB/facebook and bang it was love at first sight !!. She's never met him in person, he lives in USA, is divorced etc, she is also divorced has 2 kids etc.And she told me he might fly over to Australia to come and visit her.
Now here's the other scenario. Both her daughters are at school here in Australia, their settlled here very well, hve their close friends here etc i.e school friends, she has a good paid job here as well. He's coming over from USA to see her etc. First off I dont think she will pack up and move to USA and might be hard for her to get green card to go to the US and live, I dont think its as easy as it sounds and 2ndly I dont think her daughters will be happy to do this.
And will he be willing to pack up and leave the US to come here to live, not sure, this means leave his job etc etc.
Kind of a catch 22 situation here.
Why is this your business? They are both mature and they'll find a way to be together if that's what they want and what makes them happy. Meeting is the normal next step in a LDR. They meet, see how they get along in real life, see if they want to meet again and if everything goes well, they'll work on solutions for being together (in real life).
I like to have a relationship and if it is distant I will feel excited. Of course we can chat a lot on line and use webcam even to show ourselves and our sexual organs too and we can masturbate online. And we can do it for years and if we can arrange to meet after a long time and the meeting will be really fabulous.Quote:
Originally Posted by Albinoni [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I like this idea of having a distant relationship so much and this will be more romantic than the one we do locally
Distant ****ing is really exciting and I look forward to it desperately.
In this life I want to experience everything and am ready for flirting with women and do not care whether this is unethical
I class my relationship as long distance..he lives a 3 hour drive away. I wouldnt and couldnt do anything further away than that. It is extremely hard and requires a lot of effort on both our parts. Were lucky enough to see each other almost every week for a couple of days, i cant imagine how anyone could manage with living in another country from their OH (unless maybe you were together first and its a temporary thing)
Love at first sight - without actually physically seeing and being with the other person? They must be bloody desperate. And if you seem to 'get on' when you do actually see each other it's a hell or a risk to move to the other side of the planet cos chances are it won't work anyway. You have to spend serious time with someone to really know if being together all the time will work. And even then there are no guarantees.
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Originally Posted by Kama [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I didnt say it was, but she speaks to me about it all the time and sometimes she sounds like she's not 100% sure on it, she has never met him in person either and only on FB.Quote:
Originally Posted by ammi00 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
That's the whole point of meeting each other. He'll visit her and they'll decide what to do next.Quote:
Originally Posted by Albinoni [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Sorry are you being psycastic here ?Quote:
Originally Posted by Kama [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
This is your nonsensical judgment and proves you are from a very narrow world of prejudicesQuote:
Originally Posted by Albinoni [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Wrong i'm not prejudice at all myy friends all come from different backgrounds and religion, thank uQuote:
Originally Posted by Kama [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Wouldn't it just be easier for you to fall in love with your favorite anime character?Quote:
Originally Posted by Kama [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Wrong i'm not prejudice at all myy friends all come from different backgrounds and religion, than uQuote:
Originally Posted by Kama [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I can understand itQuote:
Originally Posted by Albinoni [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It was just in your reply you were being psychastic as if to say "yeah right LDR's are a waste of time" bbut being funny bout itQuote:
Originally Posted by Kama [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Fine. But you have to spend serious time with somebody to know how you really feel about them. How on earth can they do this? They can't. So it will NOT work. It's not rocket science. Why on earth can't they find somebody closer to home? When I was looking for a GF on the internet I limited my search to within a reasonable distance of where I lived and guess what? My girlfriend is not on the other side of the freaking planet.Quote:
Originally Posted by ammi00 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
When two people reach out to each other across such a tremendous distance, I feel like at least one of them is doing this to avoid a real relationship.
It depends on several things. I don't believe in LDR when the people have never met yet. How can you love someone all the way when you've never met? Doesn't work for me, and honestly I think anyone who says otherwise is kidding themselves.
I have been in a LDR of two years.. we met via a friend of mine, she knew him, he lived in the UK, we in the Netherlands. I went with her to meet him one time.. we stayed at his place. Previously we had been chatting, and we liked each other a lot, but I didn't think much of it because of above reasons. We met, we fell in love. I broke up with him recently, because I couldn't stand it anymore. Seeign eachother a couple times a year, in total a few weeks a year. Online and phone things are not the same. I became more and more aware of not being able to move there for him, I love living in my country, and couldn't miss my family.. and he, well I am fluent in english, he speaks two words or so dutch, plus he's recently bought a house etc. Couldn't see him moving to me.
So, LDR can work.. if there's future plans to be together, if one's willing to move. And if you know each other beforehand. Don't believe in them otherwise.
Nope, not for me. If I had to maybe temporarily but no, they won't fly for me. I need affection, and that can't be given via web cam; it's as simple as that.
I was in one LDR, and it sucked. It absolutely sucked. I'll never ever get myself involved with a girl like that again.
LDR's prove one fundamental flaw in the relationship.
Distance.
Well let me say something here on LDR's. A long time ago I was having a LDR with a woman from the other side of Australia, I was living in Perth and she was in Melbourne, we rang each other all the time say 3 times a week, had great chats etc etc. We only spend time togteher about 5 to 8 times, meaning physically being with each other. Than after that I had to fly back to Perth, while she stayed in her own town of Melb.
Anyhow to cut a long story short, honestly speaking it lasted lets say between 2 to 3 months or so, might of been a touch more. I finally got a long letter from her one day explaning to me the facts that its not working out and we just remain friends, and that was it.
Well it all faded away in the mist and even today I have not heard from her at all, like it came and went.