How to become less hideous? Help appreciated.

Hi Guys,
Some people in this world are born to be very attractive whilst others are born to be less good looking, and some people are born very ugly. Unfortunately for me, I fit into the very ugly category. I've actually come to accept this fact and it's just the cards I've been dealt, however what can I do to try and look less hideous? I know it's very hard to change your looks, but I could really do with some help here. Just some advice really. What feature makes me so ugly? I haven't had a girlfriend in 2 years and I'm very insecure about my looks . Because of this I don't tend to mix with many girls.

I'm not looking for sympathy or pity here, just honest advice.

Here's a recent photo of me. I think it has allot to do with my nose and strange looking eyes:

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Thanks guys!

You made me click on that link thinking I'd see something like this:

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But you look like a normal guy to me.. I'm disappointed.

Hideous??? If that picture is really you, and this is for real, you aren't hideous. You look like a normal teenage guy.

This is coming from someone in their late 30's, though, so I'll admit to being a tad more forgiving than perhaps your normal 14-18 yr old girl.

Confidence is everything when it comes to dating and finding a nice relationship. I know guys who were truly ugly who had tons of girlfriends. I even knew a dwarf who had no trouble finding dates with normal sized women.

As for tips, make sure your grooming and hygiene are above average. Wear nice, clean clothing at all times that reflects your personal style. Be truly interested in the girls you are trying to date. That goes a long way.

Your looks are fine - certainly not hideous. But if you think you're hideous and tend not to mix with girls then you're not going to find a girlfriend. You need to work on your self esteem and confidence. And when you're young 2 years without a girlfriend is not unheard of. Happened to me.

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Originally Posted by cancankant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Hideous??? If that picture is really you, and this is for real, you aren't hideous. You look like a normal teenage guy.

This is coming from someone in their late 30's, though, so I'll admit to being a tad more forgiving than perhaps your normal 14-18 yr old girl.

Confidence is everything when it comes to dating and finding a nice relationship. I know guys who were truly ugly who had tons of girlfriends. I even knew a dwarf who had no trouble find dates with normal sized women.

As for tips, make sure your grooming and hygiene are above average. Wear nice, clean clothing at all times that reflects your personal style. Be truly interested in the girls you are trying to date. That goes a long way.

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I'm 20 years old. Girls never talk to me and I've been told I am ugly by girls. This is honestly serious. I think my eyes are too slanty.

Not ugly bro.
I would try a new hair style.
SMILE! -A woman is a sucker for a great smile.

Exude confidence. I don't mean walk around strutting your *stuff*
just be assertive in what you do and KNOW who you are. If you don't know this yet even better...why?
Discover who you are. Try new things. New experiences=fruitful knowledge you will apply later.

Look at the positive. When there is nothing to lose *since you already feel insecure* go for it!
An attitude adjustment is more like it. Dude, you aren't even a little ugly. Smile, be yourself -and be confident-

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Originally Posted by SelflessnHumble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Not ugly bro.
I would try a new hair style.
SMILE! -A woman is a sucker for a great smile.

Exude confidence. I don't mean walk around strutting your *stuff*
just be assertive in what you do and KNOW who you are. If you don't know this yet even better...why?
Discover who you are. Try new things. New experiences=fruitful knowledge you will apply later.

Look at the positive. When there is nothing to lose *since you already feel insecure* go for it!
An attitude adjustment is more like it. Dude, you aren't even a little ugly. Smile, be yourself -and be confident-

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I've been told I'm ugly in the past. I sat with some girls at Uni the other week and they just ignored me. I don't really mix with girls now.

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Originally Posted by josh44 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I've been told I'm ugly in the past. I sat with some girls at Uni the other week and they just ignored me. I don't really mix with girls now.

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Girls told you you are ugly? What kind of people goes around telling others they are ugly?

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Originally Posted by the_robot [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Girls told you you are ugly? What kind of people goes around telling others they are ugly?

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Harsh people I guess. I've seen ugly girls but I would never tell them I think they are ugly.

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Originally Posted by josh44 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I'm 20 years old. Girls never talk to me and I've been told I am ugly by girls. This is honestly serious. I think my eyes are too slanty.

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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and people like and go for different things. Some people will find you attractive, some won't....we can't please everyone. It's the same for all of us and we won't always get that guy or girl we like, to like us back or be attracted.

You look normal enough to me, so it's more a confidence issue you have.

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Originally Posted by xxazurexx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and people like and go for different things. Some people will find you attractive, some won't....we can't please everyone. It's the same for all of us and we won't always get that guy or girl we like, to like us back or be attracted.

You look normal enough to me, so it's more a confidence issue you have.

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Thanks! So not too ugly to get an average looking girl?

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Originally Posted by josh44 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Thanks! So not too ugly to get an average looking girl?

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Yes, if you work on your confidence and stop calling yourself ugly. Unless you make a joke out of it.

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Originally Posted by josh44 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Thanks! So not too ugly to get an average looking girl?

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With confidence, not just your average girl. My ex was average looking and people would ask what I saw in him. But he had confidence, made me laugh and we got along great. He appealed to ME and that is all that mattered.

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Originally Posted by xxazurexx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

With confidence, not just your average girl. My ex was average looking and people would ask what I saw in him. But he had confidence, made me laugh and we got along great. He appealed to ME and that is all that mattered.

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You honestly think I could get better than average? Now I'm on a course of SRRI's I don feel alot more confident in myself. I go out more and stuff now, but still very insecure about my looks as girls have called me baby face other insults.

I don't honestly see what you're on about. I don't see any ugly.

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Originally Posted by josh44 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You honestly think I could get better than average? Now I'm on a course of SRRI's I don feel alot more confident in myself. I go out more and stuff now, but still very insecure about my looks as girls have called me baby face other insults.

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Babyface is a compliment dude, not an insult.
2nd, she's right. I'm 100% certain you can get a great girl.
However if looks are the only basis for being "accepted" by your peers you may never be fully satisfied with whoever you get
OR you will continue to put yourself down -which repulses a girl. A girl doesn't want competition when she gets down, ya know?

You've been presented with solutions.
What will you choose to do with them?

LOL, well I've fallen for baby faced guys...those who possess that 'little boy lost' look.

Maybe they are calling you names and to get your attention and because they do have a secret crush.

I know I would tease guys when I was younger and more so if it was a guy I liked.

Calling names is supposedly one of the first signs of lurrrrve, so it's said.

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Originally Posted by SelflessnHumble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Babyface is a compliment dude, not an insult.

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Thats true. Not many females aint a sucker for a 'baby face'.

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OR you will continue to put yourself down -which repulses a girl.

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True again. One of the biggest turn offs for me, is a guy who will put himself down. If he doesn't think he is good enough, then why should I think he's good enough??
Never put yourself down and in front of the opposite sex.

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Originally Posted by xxazurexx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Thats true. Not many females aint a sucker for a 'baby face'.



True again. One of the biggest turn offs for me, is a guy who will put himself down. If he doesn't think he is good enough, then why should I think he's good enough??
Never put yourself down and in front of the opposite sex.

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Is my face a baby face? My mate said I'm baby faced and that girls don't go for that, but he looks a bit like DJ Qualls lol

Course some girls go for baby faces....

A baby faced guy who springs to my mind was the late Stephen Gately from Boyzone, who had a following of thousands and thousands of teenage girls. A guy can't get anymore babyfaced than he was, lol....so yes, we do like baby faces. Your mate is probably just jealous.

I dunno if you are baby faced, hard to tell on that pic.

Regardless, its your confidence that needs working on and then the world is your oyster....OK!!!

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Originally Posted by xxazurexx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Course some girls go for baby faces....

A baby faced guy who springs to my mind was the late Stephen Gately from Boyzone, who had a following of thousands and thousands of teenage girls. A guy can't get anymore babyfaced than he was, lol....so yes, we do like baby faces. Your mate is probably just jealous.

I dunno if you are baby faced, hard to tell on that pic.

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But not hideous? Aslong as I have a chance with some girls I'm happy.

Hey u re not hideous! But u could make some changes for the best. For example learn how to fix your hair with some gel or sth. And as for the acne, i had it too once!The best way to get rid of it is to go to a dermatologist. I remember how i was testing various acne products and nothing helped until i went to a doc. and he subscribed me just the right cream. My skin was clean and clear after about 3-4 months of use.
Oh and your face will change a lot after 17-19 for the best!
Be confident :)

Oh oh and one last thing. Lovely eyes!!!

And one more thing...i think i d like long hair on u. Maybe u should try this look if it goes right with your style.

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Originally Posted by Immortality [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Oh oh and one last thing. Lovely eyes!!!

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Do you really mean that? I think they look strange!

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Originally Posted by josh44 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

But not hideous? Aslong as I have a chance with some girls I'm happy.

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No not hideous...!!!! Are you deaf??? lol

Yes, I reckon you could get girls....but MORE GIRLS with confidence.

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Originally Posted by xxazurexx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

No not hideous...!!!! Are you deaf??? lol

Yes, I reckon you could get girls....but MORE GIRLS with confidence.

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Thanks. I feel better now.

My advice is to comb your hair and learn how to smile. Unless people are cowering in disgust after looking in your direction in the street, I'd say you're not ugly.

Also, insecurity and lack of confidence are unattractive to women. If you learn to just accept yourself and enjoy a carefree life, you'll find that girls will like being around you and you'll have more luck dating.

Josh I swear I'm going to kill you if you keep fishing for compliments!!!! (j/k)
You look better than average looking but pouting in a picture is like saying you want
some girl to notice you while at the same time farting as loud as you possibly can in front of her.

A girl could be interested in you right now, but then your insecurity projects outward and BAM
she will walk right past you. Leave the insecurity for a girl, so she can feel secure with you!

It does not work the other way around, Josh.

thanks for the advice guys. i'm going to make a real effort to be more confident.

I'm guessing you are having physical attraction problems because of the way you carry yourself. You hair needs to be combed. Get some acne cream to get rid of your acne. These two can easily be fixed.

How about you provide us with a body photo? It's hard to tell what all of your potential problems are with just your face.

you aren't ugly, but you have no self confidence, and that isn't attractive! you need to be confident. you have good qualities, show them off! be more outgoing, tell jokes around girls, they always like a guy who can make them laugh. don't be so down on yourself, girls like guys who are confident with themselves! nothing turns me off more than a guy who talks badly of himself, or isn't strong with how he feels about himself, it makes me feel very uncomfortable and immediately dislike them

I am going to be honest with you. You are not handsome but I would say you could be cute if you change hair styles and was more confident. You will find a girlfriend! who cares what she looks like? average or not. You are too hard on yourself, so you been called ugly! you are not the only person in the world to be called something they are not.

I definitely don't think you're ugly. You could definitely do with making your hair look more presentable and wearing more complementing clothes. Confidence is from within though. You need to find inner confidence/face your insecurities before you'll truly feel better about yourself.

you aren't the worst - looking guy i've seen, though some work definitely needs to be done [no offense.. i don't mean to be superficial].
So let me tell you what you need to do:

1. grow some facial hair
2. cut your hair OR grow it

no offense but your hair really isn't doing a lot for you... i really needs to be changed.

your not ugly but avg looking. there are some butt ugly guys with drop dead gorgeous girls. either they have money or a silver tongue. generally having a silver tongue helps the most since girls goes for "the feel" rather then logic.
there are dumb ass girls out there who rely solely on feelings rather then anything else. generally older experienced ugly males even losers can steal their hearts. that's what happened to me..even if your Mr right who has everything and ready to commit. those girls might go for Mr wrong.

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Originally Posted by GK001 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

your not ugly but avg looking. there are some butt ugly guys with drop dead gorgeous girls. either they have money or a silver tongue. generally having a silver tongue helps the most since girls goes for "the feel" rather then logic.
there are dumb ass girls out there who rely solely on feelings rather then anything else. generally older experienced ugly males even losers can steal their hearts. that's what happened to me..even if your Mr right who has everything and ready to commit. those girls might go for Mr wrong.

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Isn't that why people fall in love? They develop these feelings...

Women more so are motivated by 'feelings' - we for the majority need the emotional and to be with a man.
Asides from the 'gold diggers' you mention in your posting. These women tend to be out for personal gain.

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generally older experienced ugly males even losers can steal their hearts. that's what happened to me..even if your Mr right who has everything and ready to commit. those girls might go for Mr wrong.

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The man who steals our hearts, is the man we fall in love with usually.

You contradict yourself in your post. First you say that females go for the butt ugly guys because they have money or a silver tongue.
Then you said that females drop a man with everything and for some butt ugly guy they have feelings for

LOL

You are either 1. Young 2, Daft 3, Daft 4 Daft

I will settle for all 4.

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Originally Posted by xxazurexx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Isn't that why people fall in love? They develop these feelings...

The man who steals our hearts, is the man we fall in love with usually.

You contradict yourself in your post. First you say that females go for the butt ugly guys because they have money or a silver tongue.
Then you said that females drop a man with everything and for some butt ugly guy they have feelings for

LOL

You are either 1. Young 2, Daft 3, Daft 4 Daft

I will settle for all 4.

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how do i contradict my self? having a silver tongue is the major aspect of stealing a female heart to create a illusion, it makes up for lack of physical/fiscal qualities one might have. no?
once its stolen even Mr right cant change anything with females who rely solely on feeling. thus many females stay in abusive relationships with controlling older males under the illusion of love.

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Originally Posted by red_sparrow [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

no offense but your hair really isn't doing a lot for you... i really needs to be changed.

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I know lol. I really do need to get it cut!