I've been dating a girl for about 2 months and she won't kiss me. Last night I talked to her about it and she says kissing is disgusting. What am I to do, is it wrong to say i'm unsure if I can be with someone that won't even kiss me?
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I've been dating a girl for about 2 months and she won't kiss me. Last night I talked to her about it and she says kissing is disgusting. What am I to do, is it wrong to say i'm unsure if I can be with someone that won't even kiss me?
She sounds an idiot (sorry thats my take)
You can't live half a life with someone mate, kissing is a huge part of connection with someone. I'd get rid of her ASAP unless she decides to kiss.
I was seeing a girl once who wouldn't use tongues....It was just pointless trying to be with her.
Kissing, disgusting.....WTF !!! :)
If not kissing is a deal breaker for you then you have every right to break up with her. If she thinks kissing is "disgusting" what ever must she think about sex in general? I suggest you break it off now before she gets too attached to you.
Is she (and you) quite young?
I am 27 and she is 24
Has she had relationships before? Has she kissed guys before? Is she a virgin?Quote:
Originally Posted by Lookingforlove [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Op, Dude... You say in your other thread that she says she hasn't allowed you to kiss her anywhere but the cheek because she likes to tease you. So which is it. She finds it disgusting (which is (or could be) a huge sexual issue) or, is it she is just not ready to kiss you which is another thing all together and far less ominous in nature.
How long have you been gf/bf?
Sorry about the mix up, I am not in the best state of mind right now. She will kiss me on the lips but its more of a peck, at first she would say thats all she was giving me because she liked to tease me. But then I talked to her about it then she said she think kissing is disgusting. She has been in relationships before, I don't know how many but she is not a virgin and we have had sex. Its been a little over 2 months since we started to see each other.
The movie "Pretty Woman" comes to mind.
If you can't live without kissing (I know I couldn't) then speak candidly with her and tell her that it's a deal breaker for you and that you both need to come up with a way to do it so that she's not disgusted or you'll have to leave. Don't settle for not getting kissed because sooner or later you will crave it and you will be looking elsewhere to get it which (if it gets to that point) is not fair to either of you. Ask her why it disgusts her. Just how well do you know her and of her past?
Your GF is seriously wierd - OK to have sex but she finds kissing disgusting? She needs therapy.
:emot15: I like her. She's cool.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lookingforlove [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Is there a chance she's in the closet..?Quote:
Originally Posted by Lookingforlove [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Rude. Not everyone has to like the same things.
My boyfriend had a cold sore recently so I wasnt alloud to kiss him for a week- hardest week of my life, the involuntary leaning in to do it was awful!!!
If you can't live without kissing you obviously can't live with being with her
Also beein in the "no tongue" thing once a while ago. Its tough when you like it one way and they like it another.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ugly_Idiot [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
FACT: Kissing is not disgusting
Sure, the mouth probably has more germs than the average persons genitals, but hey, a kiss wont kill you (unless you contract meningitis, which is very uncommon by the way ...)
But disgusting? Never. Not a chance.
Kisses can be the most intense and passionate exchange between two people. Or, the sweetest, caring, and most gentle ...
Sex is one thing, but a kiss says so many things.
I couldn't be in a relationship with someone who thought that these things were disgusting.
You need to work out whether you can be in a relationship such a person.
Frankly, she sounds unusual, immature, and if kissing freaks her out it wouldn't surprise me if she had a long list of other, perhaps more worrying, neuroticisms.
She's a liar....that's my opinion. Who has sex but won't kiss? An idiot maybe. I would take it as disrespect personally. You can stick your penis in her vagina, but you can't kiss? What kinda since does that make?
good advice is you need to wait for a time. might she is not able to build trust on you. give her time and happiness than surely you will get a bundle of kissis...
you didn't even read the above post did you? They've had sex.........surely sex would come after kissingQuote:
Originally Posted by trishabcarson [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Somehow I think there must be a deeper psychological reason. She might have been forced to kiss someone, or maybe she did contract a painful or shameful mouth disease in the past. Either way I think she needs professional counseling.
But even if you get the issue resolved, I doubt she'll change enough to kiss you on regular bases. Deal with it or jump ship while you can. Sorry...
Your girlfriend sounds like she is a prostitute. That's the only situation I've ever heard of this occurring in.
Why is this being discussed?
Does she give blowjobs?
Probably wasn't kissed much growing up, poor thing. Must have had a cold set of parents. Since kissing is such a normal thing she should be making an effort for your sake. Sounds kind of selfish.
Or maybe she loves kissing and you just have bad breath. When's the last time you went to the dentist?
If kissing is what you want, but she won't do it, perhaps it is time to move on. She doesn't have to kiss you, and you don't have to date her. What about other aspects of the relationship? Do you get along well? Do you fight? About what? How often do you fight? How's the sex? Does she meet your needs? Do you meet hers?
Kissing is an intimate thing. Scientists have a theory that says when we kiss, we exchange pheromones of some type which indicate if a person is a good mate. A "good kisser" is someone who is a good mate, not just someone who has good technique.
Deal breaker just end it.
Nah, I wouldn't say it's wrong to be unsure whether you can be with someone who wont kiss you at all.
Talk about it with her and try to help her get past it. I've never heard of a girl in her twenties not wanting to passionately kiss her boyfriend. Especially since you've already had sex. Did you not kiss at during sex? That's very weird.
Maybe she has some issues that you could work with her on and maybe get rid of completely. It might actually be a good thing because you'll be closer because of it. Bring it up very gently though.
You need to tell her whats on your mind. I mean how can someone have sex with you but is fine with that but not want to kiss. My boyfriend and I never really make out only during sex but I get kisses from him... but someone who is disgusted by it. Thats the most intense passionate thing you can have between a person.
Maybe she likes to kiss, but she sees something wrong with your mouth. Do you chew or smoke? You have messed up teeth? Small lips, fat lips? Do you always brush your teeth? Do you have bad breath all the time? I think there is more to it, then her saying kissing is disgusting. There are other issues at play here. If what I mention does not apply to you, then she has had a bad memory of kissing someone, and or has other mental issues. If shes crazy, then you know. Crazy women are good in bed and that's about it.
I think there's more to it than she's saying. The only time I've never wanted to kiss someone I was dating is when I didn't feel very strongly for them. I'm gonna venture a guess and say that it's always you who initiates sex, and she goes along with it. If that's the case, then she's not very attracted to you. I ALWAYS want to kiss a guy that I'm attracted to.
She's 24 and she is thinking that kissing is disgusting? Is she joking? Ask her.
may be this girl is a lesbian! or she wears a chastity ring!
you should make it sure that she really loves you or not.I dont think if she loves you,she will find disgusting kissing you.