No Contact ! I feel so great right now ! :) Hope this helps !
Hello Everyone !
Something amazing has happened.....I No longer have any feelings for my ex, And i can honestly say right now that i am absolutely 100% over her.
Firstly, I will not, And can not physically stress to you guys how important no contact is ! This has been the absolute backbone to my recovery.
When she broke up with me 2 weeks ago after a 16 month + relationship, I can honestly say that i was a mess, I was heartbroken, I was hurting so bad beyond what i thought was humanly possible, Everything remind me of her. I couldn't eat, I couldn't drink, I was so depressed, In fact i even cried.
I did the ultimate no no, I begged her to come back, In the first 5 days of the break, I was constantly phoning her, Texting her, Telling her i would change....You know how it goes, The self blame game, Which, Didn't work ! Instead i probably made a right old jackass of myself.
Firstly, Let me tell you one thing, EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OKAY !
You don't have to cry anymore, You don't have to hurt, Trust me, You are torturing yourself for something that you are not to blame for ! Women can be manipulative, In fact my ex was apparently hurting aswell, Giving me the ole 'I still love you' But i cant be with you speech, You know the one.....Basically, Shes either fallen out of love with you, Moved on to different things, Or theres someone else on the scene. Either way, What ever you say is not going to bring her back, Her decision is made ! I know this is not what you want to hear, But its the truth.
I would love to sit here and tell you about some quick fix scheme that will get her back ! But they don't exist !
Right. Now heres the action plan of what you need to do !
No Contact ! No Contact ! No Contact ! I can not stress how important it is not to contact her ! Why ? well lets go into this....
- No contact is the best way to allow your self time to recover! Remember, You've just been hit by what feels like a tonne of bricks to the heart and stomach. Think of it as an addiction ! Time away from the problem heals and gives you chance to recover! Much like a smoker who wants to give up smoking, The first few days is the hardest, You want to reach in and grab a smoke, But you know if you do then you're back to square one, Well its the same with no contact, You have to find a way not to contact her, Mine was simple, Everytime i had an urge to text her, I would think of a reason, Something she's done to hurt me, Which was enough for me to stay on track. I can honestly say this as a skeptic to the whole 'No Contact' that it works, And it works well. I've gone almost a week without any form of contact with her, And to be honest, I feel so god dam amazing right now ! Although i know she will text me in a few weeks with her stupid sob stories, I now have the strength to ignore her, And i've moved on.
Be warned, No Contact isn't easy, Much like smoking, If you end up contacting her, you will get hurt, And you will be back to square one again. You have to have the will power to say no ! Because you are so much better then that, You are a unique human being who has so much more self worth then to feel upset about someone whos broke your heart. Don't blame your self.
Focus ! This is important, Focus is the key to moving on, You have to focus on yourself now, Remember you are number one ! Look after this amazing body and mind you where given ! Smile ! Go out with your friends ! Talk to your family, Do them things you are interested in doing ! Get out there ! I can honestly tell you the amount of single women out there who would love someone like you to give them love is amazing ! There are so many fish in the sea, And you will find your perfect catch.
Patience ! It isn't a quick fix, Be prepared to hurt for as long as it takes, Be pre pared to have those bad days where you feel like the world is against you, I had them, But i always remember one golden rule. No Contact ! I remember what she's done to me, Why the hell should i be chasing her ? It takes time to heal a broken heart, Some people it can take days, Some months, Some even years ! Vent your anger on something positive ! Like hitting the gym and blowing all that steam off !
Grieve ! Sounds silly doesn't it ? We always relate grieving to the passing of a loved one, But you have to grieve, take 10 minutes, Go find somewhere quiet and private, And cry ! A good cry can do you the world of good, Because you are letting out that climax of emotions, You will feel alot better afterwards !
Don't chase her, Don't contact her, Don't beg her, Don't plead with her ! - You are worth so much more !
Any questions i'll be happy to answer.
Best of luck with your recovery, Take care of your self, Head up ! Smile ! There are people going through things 10 times worse then you right now.
God bless.
