I am a women who fantasizes about being taken. Am I the only one?
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I am a women who fantasizes about being taken. Am I the only one?
I do too its sort of fun and aggressive, but id never actually want it to really happen. I'm open to role play though... ;P
i cannot understand this. by definition, it is against your will.
so. think of the most repulsive person that you'll never want to have sex with.
and you are saying that you fantasize about being taken by this person ??
or you are talking about some handsome stranger that crawls thru your window at night ?? not sure if that is really rape ...
It could be anyone, its not about what they look like its about it being done against our will. Forceful and mean. That someone is horny enough to go to a crazy extent for your pussy. Have you never had forceful sex before? It's fun!
My gf has a thing for this, the fantasy of being forced really does it for her. I think actual rape would be a whole different thing though, but like a lot of fantasies, the reality is no where near as good.
She enjoys the being dominated part, restrained, hair pulled, slapped and rough sex. I think its quite a common fantasy as two of my ex's also were in to it a bit.
Any fantasies I have like this are where some guy I find totally desirable finds ME so desirable that he won't take no for an answer and has his way with me despite my reticence. But of course in my fantasy, I always want the guy and totally enjoy the sex. So, not really realistic - and nothing I'd really want to happen anyway.
yes, this i can understand. probably more of a case where the guy is desirable but morally it would be wrong so you fantasize about being taken by force so it can be enjoyed without guilt :)Quote:
Originally Posted by tremolo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
of course not. i cannot force them when they are begging for it !! ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by bloodtippedrose [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
"Rape" is different from "being forced" which is different from "being taken". Rape is usually by a stranger, or someone acting as a stranger, and can get violent and abusive. "Being taken" is simply a man being very assertive, maybe a little rough. I think you want "being taken". Sometimes it's fun to put up a little fight too. Just make sure it's with someone you know well, not a stranger. Be safe and have a safe word.
^fantasizing about an unbalanced stranger IS what makes rape fantasies fun. Many people use "rape" as a general term for aggressive sex as you've pointed out though. Some do genuinely fantasize about rape, and some just like forceful sex with the person they love. I say its fine as long as the person isnt acting on thier fantaisies by putting themselves stupidly in a position that could be fatal. Many people are turned on by different forms of danger.
Why did we give you people the vote.....
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Originally Posted by asdfg789 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
These aren't the same thing at all. Real rape is about fear and control, not desire. I guess there might be some twisted folks that are so messed up about sex they need to feel fear to get off, but I would be inclined to send them person to a shrink. Messed up childhood, etc. No thanks.Quote:
Originally Posted by bloodtippedrose [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Not at all, I like the idea of my boyfriend 'raping' me, being rough and dominating me.. rrr... it's different though, rape is forced.
This is just role play, any kind of role play is exciting and interesting to try.
^yep. I was trying to differentiate between forced sex with an ugly stranger ("rape") vs. dominating and forceful sex with someone you care about. A little role playing with your partner, whom you know, can be fun.
Most people misunderstand role playing in the bedroom, BDSM and stuff like that, including me. Then when I read more details about them, I understood all the safety preperations behind them, the detailed conversations about what is allowed or not by a particular submissive, etc. It's all about communication for a good experience.
I like rough sex once in a while, especially when it's unexpected., But I've only experienced this with a couple of guys who I had long term relationships with and trusted.
Actually, I think it has more to do with my desire to be dominated. It's been way too long since I've had a really dominant partner...Quote:
Originally Posted by asdfg789 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
women want to be dominated at times, it's only natural.
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I had a girlfriend who liked the idea of being raped by multiple men. For a guy though, this is dangerous territory, especially in this age where rape is so easily proscribed. I'm not the kind of guy who can do the whole force thing, not even for role play but it's a fine liine for those who can and whose to say wha tit is if a guy thinks the girl likes this and it tuens out she doesn't. After all, the kind of girl who likes this will probably play out the role of being unwilling so how can a guy tell the difference.
I tend to think about that too. I like being completly dominated especially by a sexy stanger. Sometimes during sex I ask who ever I'm doing it with to "do it like he's raping me". Some guys have been suprised but are completly willing to play it out for me!
But I trust these guys and would never actually want to get raped.
OK, i'll remember to bring hand-cuffs, whips and chains next time ... :DQuote:
Originally Posted by tremolo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I've had all sorts of fantasies, a lot involving domination, but rape fantasies do nothing for me. Have someone do stuff to you you don't want and then have a rape fantasy, it's not gonna happen.
Having said that, I completely freaked out my husband when I told him I had been fantasising about blood letting and knife play (not being penetrated with a knife, just being cut during sex). He even gave me permission to seek someone else to fulfill that fantasy. I never did that and we managed to find a happy medium.
I actually dumped a chick who was obsessed with this shit, so much so that after a while she stopped wanting normal sex, and wanted everything on her fantasy terms, so much so that I felt it was dangerous to her health to sleep with her. I was really young at the time, well about 19ish, and at that stage you really want affection from the girl you're boning. Very weird girl.
What was the happy medium?Quote:
Originally Posted by MaidenMinx [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
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Originally Posted by cathy22 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Hmmm... I dunno. The girl I was with ended up wanting it all the time like that, and I found it very off putting. She was into the whole abused while sleeping senario, and it got to the stage where she didn't want regular sex, she wanted ****ed while she slept, which I was really not I into as I get no satisfaction ****ing a corpse or having sex where I get no response or attention. She used to get pills from the doctor after lying that she had problems sleeping, and take a huge dose so she wouldn't waken and wanted me to screw her while she slept so she wakened up with my cum in her pussy knowing shed been used. But it really put me off her and caused huge rows when I refused, or tried to talk her out of taking so many sleeping pills as I was worried about how it effected her health. I was young at the time, and from what I remember it was pretty cold, like ****ing a dead body, and I like to at least have the woman giving me her attention during it, and sex to be intimate where both people take part.Quote:
Originally Posted by Alex9532 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Auto-masochism. I was allowed to have a small blade and cut myself, but not deep. Did it twice and the fascination was over. I'm weird like that. I can fantasize about something for ages, then experience it once and never want it again.Quote:
Originally Posted by rafterman [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
rape...you wont be thinking about it if it really happen to you..or just to someone close to you...
...its the absolutely worst thing that can happen to a woman...worse then death...and people who did that or want to do that shouldnt be alive...no...even death is too good for them
Thats why we are talking about the fantasy of it, which is far removed from criminal rape.
Now get over yourself, this thread isn't for the moral crusade against it.
and thats it...if anyone of you really faced it,you wont be having any fantasies of it...
and its not meant as a crusade...just,when you are dreaming about something too often,it might happen...and with even bigger possiblity,when its a bad thing.
Rape, no. Domination yes.....but the difference being I'd be into it.