So upset

first of all hi to everyone :)

Yesterday me and my girlfriend (ex now) broke up after 2 years, she told me that she just doesnt feel the same about me now :(

i am gutted, really loved her to bits, would have done anything for her, now i see her everyday at college, she wants to say mates and so do i but i still feel in love with her, its well hard for me to get over her.

We broke up 3 times in the past, but got back together this time i am pretty sure its over for good, thats the worst bit, i aint showing that i am upset, but can feel it inside, my stomach is always cherning away and i can feel myself holding it back.

How can i stop feeling this way, i want to get over her and stay good mates. She says that i shouldnt care what she does anymore and that she will be fine, but i always find myself hoping that nothing is happening to her.

am finding it really hard at the moment can anyone recommend me and fix for a broken heart??

Thanks
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How can i stop feeling this way, i want to get over her and stay good mates.

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Well, unfortunately, I don't think you can. Maybe in the future, but you feel too deeply for this girl to go straight from being her lover to just a platonic friend. You have no obligation to be "mates" with her and don't let her guilt you into thinking you do. The best cure for your heart is to break off contact, and not extend this painful process by reigniting your feelings everytime you see her. Be cordial, but keep to yourself. You've given her a lot, and now it's time to worry about you.

Check around the site for "No Contact." That is the strategy you should enforce starting now. It's time to be smart, and use your head before your heart. Here's a link to get you started:

[url]http://www.loveforum.net/t6245-much-ado-aboutnothing.html[/url]

Welcome to life. You'll be okay, kid, we're all here for you.

Peace.

not as easy as that though, as i am in one of her classes at college. so see her everyday. the feeling i have for her are stil so strong :( i want to stay friends becuase she is such a great person to talk to.

its hard for me at the moment, but i think its going to get harder, dont think its fully sunk in yet

my mates told me that they think that she has been treating me like shit, i never noticed this :(

dont know weather he is trying to help me get over her or telling me the truth

what you tihnk?

Definitely telling the truth. You're just blind to it because you're used to it. You don't deserve it though. Don't feel guilty!! Feel free. Because you are.

i still want to be with her though, i have tried to aviod her around college the last view days but its not has easy as it sounds :(

she told me that she felt that things where getting to serious and that she only wanted to be friends now. does that mean that she is just worried about commitment or is that a nice way of saying that she dont love me anymore

you're not listening. she broke up with you and that means just that. let some time go by and your feelings will ease up. talk to her all the time and it'll take much more time. believe me, people are reluctant to try the no contact thing, but i swear, and others here will swear too, that it works wonders.

i no it will. but i cant do that its impossible. i am in some classes so see her everyday

Haha, you can't?

Or you won't?

We know you're in classes with her. Is she the only one in that class? Do you take time to meet and greet everyone in that class and feel deeply for everyone there? Is ignoring her physically impossible?

Nope.

So just begin to see her as any other kid you don't talk to. It gets easier.

you do know she probably knows and loves the fact you still love her, and is all cocky about it, you're doing exactly what she wants, she's evil man, EVIL!!!
(ps. I'm deadly serious, don't give her the advantage, don't be a sap:))

a broken heart is the worst and ive been there and done that and sort of going through it again now. the best thing you can do for yourself is to let out all the feelings you are keeping inside, let them all out, you are no lesser of a man if you cry.
there is no common cure for a broken heart except time, so give it time u will grow stronger each and every day,but like the saying goes time takes its time so dont be anxious about the situation.

So, 4 times now you guys have broken up and yet you still are trying to hold onto this piece of shit relationship.

Pray tell - Why?

Fish. Sea. Know the analogy?

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Originally Posted by gutted

my mates told me that they think that she has been treating me like shit, i never noticed this :(

dont know weather he is trying to help me get over her or telling me the truth

what you tihnk?

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you need to pay attention to your friends sometimes. they notice the things in relationships that you dont, just because..you've got a little bit of a bias going. they're standing outside of the relationship and observing.

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you do know she probably knows and loves the fact you still love her, and is all cocky about it, you're doing exactly what she wants, she's evil man, EVIL!!!

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yea, i agree with that. some girls are just messed up like that. i've known a few in my time :bored:

had a row with her today :(

ended up pushing her away :( i aint even a physical person , i dont know what happened, i am so disappointed with myself, i am such a ****ing twat

that wasnt with me trying to get back with her, we was talking as mates

Hi, I'm not one for advice. But I am in a similar situation to you, so I hope it helps in some way. I was with my ex boyfriend for 2 years before he decided "we'd grown apart." We are both at the same college with the same friends and yes I see him every day. I know that feeling, when your stomach churns, or when you pretend you don't care but inside you just want to scream. It's been 3 months since the split and although i'm not over him It is getting better. Sometimes we split for a reason. Even if you think 'theyre the one' whether its age, or whatever things do happen for a purpose. At the time it feels like you'd never want to be with anyone else but sometimes you just have to accept that deep down it's best being over. Believe me at first it hurts and it angers you to see them, but with little contact and keeping yourself busy it begins to get alot easier! I hope I have helped. x :)

sure that will help thanks, i am going to try and aviod her now though, after my HUGE mistake yesterday. i have tried sayinf sorry and that, she just isnt lisening to me now so i am going to give her some time without seeing me and all, that should help me as well

yeh i think that's a good idea. Try and give eachother some space without any contact. At the moment your both angry or frustrated and talking just wouldnt help. Just give it time, I'm sure one day, you and me will find someone alot better! x :)

yea lol

i hope so. need to get rid of these feelings

I still have those feelings. don't choose to ignore them because that'll eat you up! Just try not to think about it too much. Honesty, it does get easier! I'm proof! x x

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Originally Posted by gutted

first of all hi to everyone :)

Yesterday me and my girlfriend (ex now) broke up after 2 years, she told me that she just doesnt feel the same about me now :(

i am gutted, really loved her to bits, would have done anything for her, now i see her everyday at college, she wants to say mates and so do i but i still feel in love with her, its well hard for me to get over her.

We broke up 3 times in the past, but got back together this time i am pretty sure its over for good, thats the worst bit, i aint showing that i am upset, but can feel it inside, my stomach is always cherning away and i can feel myself holding it back.

How can i stop feeling this way, i want to get over her and stay good mates. She says that i shouldnt care what she does anymore and that she will be fine, but i always find myself hoping that nothing is happening to her.

am finding it really hard at the moment can anyone recommend me and fix for a broken heart??

Thanks
:( :sad2:

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Tell your friend to kick you in the balls.

i am reluctant to try this no contact thing, although i have a situation that it would probably work wonders in. but i cant lose them compleatly its sucks, realtions hip sucks arrrrrg!!!! can you tell i didnt have a good day, realtionship wise?

i swear people do not listen. i'm not saying shit anymore. that's it. i try to give advice, 10 other people give you the same advice, and you don't care, you'll just do whatever you're gonna do anyway. i'm going to leave this thread and never come back. see? no contact.

No contact really works, hard at first, but will work, it sucks you have a class with her, but just like someone stated above you can just go listen to the lecture and leave I know it is harder said then done, but it is better then greeting her had messing your self up more, you can be friends with her, but it won't work until you have finished wanting her. Actually I don't think you can, someone once posted about 8-9 out of 10 relationships can't be friends after and I think that is about accurate. Good luck. Remember there are many other people that are going through the same thing you are. It totally sucks but it passes.

i didnt say i wasnt going to try it, is has been impossible to do it over the last week as i have been away on a trip with her did you not read that?