Been rejected left, right and centre. What's acceptable?

Recently I did myself a big favour, I got out of my shyness cocoon and truly started to make attempts to hit on chicks. The result was as expected, the terrible R word starting to hit me and really starting to take a toll on my confidence. I know this has been discussed many times before and I apologise to everyone for making them answer the boring question over again but I am a new comer to the dating game and would appreciate very much any good advice. Now i just want to know how many girls you have to talk to before one doesn't reject you and you can develop things further from there?

How selective are you with the girls you've asked? Maybe you've been asking out people out of your league?

Also, realize that some people say 'no' because they're already in a relationship, not because they don't want to give you a chance.

Uhh? I'm confused, I'm in high school so obviously nobody is seriously in a relationship, and aren't you supposed to have the attitude to believe no girl is out of your league?

Richardrli i am in the boat you were in a while ago - the shyness cocoon! How do you go and tell someone your interested. What do you say, do, and how do you respond to what they might say-whether it be negative, positive or an action of affection???? I am confused too but prehaps you help me with your expereinces.
Emotion 87.

Well I wish i could help you but since we're in the same boat then we need others for advice!

hey.... of all the words that haunt people the worst are "what if,..."
hey richardli and emotion87 its great to hear that u guysleft that cocoon.

as for approaching girls....no girl is out of league...it is just a matter of liking somebody or not.....

just be a bit selectibve with ur choices and just dont pop the question even b4 they have a chance of knowing u.

be patient but yes dont let ur confidence down just becoz someone coudlnt see what a gr8 guy u r (i am presuming that u r!!)

so be patient keep persevering...hope that helped

Hussain

Yeah well there's always a limit to your patience, unfortunately. :sad2:

get used to it. people have to learn to keep their head even after being rejected millions of times. at least you're trying. don't get discouraged. besides you're in high school for godsake. you have plenty of time and a world of opportunities before you...

The numbers man the numbers if you ask every girl you like out out of 100 theres bound to be at least a couple who like you and would like to give you a chance. Just try and think positively.

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Originally Posted by EmotionSickness

The numbers man the numbers if you ask every girl you like out out of 100 theres bound to be at least a couple who like you and would like to give you a chance. Just try and think positively.

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......what if you are very picky about the girls you like and there's only a few left that you have yet to ask? What happens when you run out of girls you like? :bored:

Because I personally wouldn't be happy in just anyone. Am I wrong to think this way?

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Originally Posted by MaRTiaL RaGe

What happens when you run out of girls you like?

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Well...then you're doomed to grow and die a lonely old man.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee

Well...then you're doomed to grow and die a lonely old man.

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gee...thanks. :(

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Originally Posted by MaRTiaL RaGe

......what if you are very picky about the girls you like and there's only a few left that you have yet to ask? What happens when you run out of girls you like? :bored:

Because I personally wouldn't be happy in just anyone. Am I wrong to think this way?

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Nah your not. I personally have to be majorly infatuated(in love) with the girl to even care.

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Originally Posted by doll69

Maybe you've been asking out people out of your league?

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Interesting.....how do you know what league you belong in? ....thats a bit cocky sounding to me.

Or a bit degrading. In order to even put yourself in a league for a girl to be 'out of' means that you have a low amount of self-confidence.

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Originally Posted by MaRTiaL RaGe

Or a bit degrading. In order to even put yourself in a league for a girl to be 'out of' means that you have a low amount of self-confidence.

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Exactly.

P.S. I like your sig and avatar.

Thanks, your is bad *ss too.

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Originally Posted by MaRTiaL RaGe

Thanks, your is bad *ss too.

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I like the avatar, but the sig is altruistic, tyrannical bullsh*t.

Read Ayn Rand.

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Originally Posted by bohemiandonut

I like the avatar, but the sig is altruistic, tyrannical bullsh*t.

Read Ayn Rand.

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umm ok lol

if that's your opinion, i respect it. It's no more poison than my own.

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Originally Posted by bohemiandonut

I like the avatar, but the sig is altruistic, tyrannical bullsh*t.

Read Ayn Rand.

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You talking about his sig quote? Whats wrong with it? Why? let me guess....you would use power to make yourself even more powerfull lol? Do you create your opinion from what Ayn Rand says? Do you not have your own?

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins

You talking about his sig quote? Whats wrong with it? Why? let me guess....you would use power to make yourself even more powerfull lol? Do you create your opinion from what Ayn Rand says? Do you not have your own?

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Bam, shot him down.

Many props to you, OV.

It's all in the numbers and your technique. Keep going & don't get discouraged. Get some conversation going (start up an interesting conversation or generate some interest - always use humor / being funny - never be too serious) then structure an opportunity where you for example tell her that you are having an interesting conversation and if she would like to take it further by going for coffee or doing this or that so that you guys can continue the conversation.

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Originally Posted by richardrli

Recently I did myself a big favour, I got out of my shyness cocoon and truly started to make attempts to hit on chicks. The result was as expected, the terrible R word starting to hit me and really starting to take a toll on my confidence. I know this has been discussed many times before and I apologise to everyone for making them answer the boring question over again but I am a new comer to the dating game and would appreciate very much any good advice. Now i just want to know how many girls you have to talk to before one doesn't reject you and you can develop things further from there?

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It's great you got out of your shy cocoon!!! You are ahead of a lot of other guys out there. There is no magic number, it's simply persistance. Not necessarily towards the same girl though.

Hitting on chicks doesn't always produce the results that most people assume, especially when you are new to the game. That doesn't mean stop doing it either.

If ya walk up to a group of girls look for the one that is not getting the attention the others are getting, possibly with her arms crossed that looks somewhat bored but yet, not agetated.

Eye contact, practice maintaining it with passerbys, ones that look away just tell yourself they are too shy to hold it, even if they are not, because you really don't know for sure right? And do not forget to smile! :lol:

Catching and/or accusing chicks of hitting on you works wanders.

i probably would use my power to overpower those without power, while protecting those with limited powers. people who have useless power would be fed to those people who possessed minimal power. the powerless would only hurt my power.

raverboy

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Originally Posted by Illusional

i probably would use my power to overpower those without power, while protecting those with limited powers. people who have useless power would be fed to those people who possessed minimal power. the powerless would only hurt my power.

raverboy

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So, where does that put you?

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Originally Posted by Illusional

i probably would use my power to overpower those without power, while protecting those with limited powers. people who have useless power would be fed to those people who possessed minimal power. the powerless would only hurt my power.

raverboy

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Don't hurt yourself now.

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins

You talking about his sig quote? Whats wrong with it? Why? let me guess....you would use power to make yourself even more powerfull lol? Do you create your opinion from what Ayn Rand says? Do you not have your own?

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HAHAHAHAHAHA! Do I have my own opinion? Aha, aha, wooooo...

I just didn't feel like writing a novel in this post.

I did, however, just write a 1,600 word essay about why his signature is stupid. Give me your e-mails and I'll send it to yas.

Peace.

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Originally Posted by bohemiandonut

I did, however, just write a 1,600 word essay about why his signature is stupid. Give me your e-mails and I'll send it to yas.

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I don't want to read 1600 word essay by a person who says "you" as "yas".

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins

I don't want to read 1600 word essay by a person who says "you" as "yas".

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You're a virgin.

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Originally Posted by bohemiandonut

You're a virgin.

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GOOD ONE!

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Originally Posted by Only-virgins

GOOD ONE!

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Thanks!

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