When will he make love to me ?

I have been seeing a new partner for three months. There has been no intimacy between us yet. Do you think this is normal ? We have been kissing alot from date 2 although it never goes any further. I broached the subject with him about 3 dates back and asked him why he hasn't made any advance on me. He said he's not interested in the kind of woman who would fall into bed with him at the drop of a hat. That made me feel very cheap !! Generally speaking, and in my previous relationships I would say men are ready for sex pretty much as soon as you're willing to give in. I'm not saying it's wrong I'm just slightly confused. In every other way, the relationship is great. He's always phoning and texting. He's kind and funny and very generous. Things did hot up a little last weekend (clothing still on) but then he pushed me away with a sort of laugh and an off hand "jokey" comment. Something like "oh no you don't, I'm not that kind of boy". Seeing the look of hurt on my face he said "Don't worry it'll be worth it in the end and you'l thank me for taking things slowly".

I'm falling in love with him already and I want to share the intimate moments of what I believe to be entirely natural. I'm just not sure what to do next.

I'd try bringing up the subject again - ask him what kinda time frame he thinks is ok? Or suggest taking things a little further, but agree boundaries perhaps.
Is it a deal breaker if nothing more happens for a month or two? If you can't deal with waiting a bit longer, you need to tell him that, not that you're putting pressure on him, but that you want different things out of the relationship.

He has a low sex drive. It could be a testosterone deficiency or he could be masturbating too much. He might also be asexual or demisexual, which are orientations and cannot be changed. If he is happy with the relationship, he is probably already getting everything he wants from you, so he may not feel the need to change. You can tell him you aren't getting what you need from the relationship and see if he is willing to change. Or you could accept it the way it is.

The guy is a virgin and has a terrible time making that next step....it's absolute sexual anxiety. If he is close, that means he is working real hard to over come it.

Maybe he's waiting for the scabs to fall off before he present his naked self to you?

3 months and he's not tried to get into your pants. There is definitley a problem here. You need to find out what that problem is. But really if things were OK you should be beating him off with a stick so it's not a good sign.

I just hope it's not some sick type of manipulation he is trying to pull off.

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Originally Posted by fluffball [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I have been seeing a new partner for three months. There has been no intimacy between us yet. Do you think this is normal ? We have been kissing alot from date 2 although it never goes any further. I broached the subject with him about 3 dates back and asked him why he hasn't made any advance on me. He said he's not interested in the kind of woman who would fall into bed with him at the drop of a hat. That made me feel very cheap !! Generally speaking, and in my previous relationships I would say men are ready for sex pretty much as soon as you're willing to give in. I'm not saying it's wrong I'm just slightly confused. In every other way, the relationship is great. He's always phoning and texting. He's kind and funny and very generous. Things did hot up a little last weekend (clothing still on) but then he pushed me away with a sort of laugh and an off hand "jokey" comment. Something like "oh no you don't, I'm not that kind of boy". Seeing the look of hurt on my face he said "Don't worry it'll be worth it in the end and you'l thank me for taking things slowly".

I'm falling in love with him already and I want to share the intimate moments of what I believe to be entirely natural. I'm just not sure what to do next.

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I'll be completely honest with you - I did the exact same thing with my current girlfriend, we have now been together 6 months and we love each other to bits, but I waited for about 2 months before anything happened sexually. The truth is I was terrified, Im not a virgin and have never been scared to sleep with a girl straight away but with her I was, I guess I was worried that things may end up getting ruined and I didn't want that. She was great with me though and never forced it but just took things slow, she did however get to the stage of saying, "I'll give it another month but if we haven't slept together by then, then I think we should break up" 2 days later we slept together. I have massive sexual insecurities that had never ever bothered me before, but because I knew I was falling for this girl they began to appear and the anxiety kicked in.

Maybe is he waiting for the right time

Or it is his religion

Stop bumping old shite threads chuck, ya dumb fag.

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Stop bumping old shite threads chuck, ya dumb fag.

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He might be addicted to porn. yourbrainonporn.com is an excellent site of scientific information on the subject of porn addiction.

If he isn't getting it from you, he's getting it from somewhere else. Sex is a need like food.

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Sex is a need like food.

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Yes, it's a well known scientific fact that if you're deprived of sex, just like when you're deprived of water or food.. you will die. O_o

u already ask this a couple of time and we answered u, r u retarded?!!

Most probable causes: 1. The guy's a virgin and is scared of taking the next step when cuddling. 2. He's some religious dude or something similar that holds him psychologically and makes him think he's more valuable than other people because of what he's doing(which is so messed up I'm not even sure I would know how to explain it). 3. Something else - it is possible that he has some personal reason which we cannot possibly guess, so it's best for you to talk to him about that. You should be open about this stuff.