How long can you date before it is time to get married?
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How long can you date before it is time to get married?
there is no one-size-fits-all for length of time before getting engaged
i dont know if u already really knew him but for a person u dont know well jet i would say, its better to date 4/5 years cause thats some what how long the the inlove often last if its not end after weeks, months or in less then 5 years.
after the inlove period when both of u r crazy about each other not looking much at the real picture, u can have a better look at the reality and after that period u can see if its became love or just u and him forcing it.
during the 5 years u have the time to discus and get to know things like like what both of you think about having kids,cheating, marriage values,drugs,alcohol, housewives, money, who is he, who r u,who r his family and friends, how is he when he is mad,
how was he as child.etc. all things that r important in the direction of knowing each other and marriage.
cause marriage is very serious. and during that time u can also see if this is someone that u really want to merry with.
and so him.
u can buy the book of writer Nancy van Pelt named We have only just begun. She have other books that talks about marriage 2. all the best.
6 months, one week, 4 days, 13 hours and exactly 9 minutes.
Stupid reply? Ok yes it was but only as stupid as the question.
6 months, one week, 4 days, 13 hours and exactly 9 minutes.
Stupid reply? Ok yes it was but only as stupid as the question.
Thats not right/ its not a stupid question its one of the best. if people start asking and find out things like this first before jumping into things , there will be less mess in relationships and people marry for fun while its serious.
At least 2 years to shake out the honeybees.
When you can go into it with nothing in your heart but joy - not one moment before. If you've got any misgivings, doubts or fears then it's not time yet.
Well, it varies with person to person. But I would say wait for least two years before you pop the big question! You need to get beyond the stage of being “in love with love”! That stage is all about presenting the best part of yourself to your partner. Only after that stage is done with that you get to notice all the imperfections. But it is also the stage where your love either deepens or fades away. If you are ready to accept her with all her imperfections and issues, that means you truly love her. But if you get overwhelmed with it all, the doubts will surface and something will stop you from continuing the relationship further. If you are smart enough, you will listen because you don’t want to be trapped in a loveless marriage. Thus it’s important to wait as long as you want, to make the right decision. Nothing done in a hurry ever turns out well! So take your time buddy!
It is not an stupid question but it is very interesting one....I would say that every one should wait about two months before.
The question isn't "when" but "why".
If you are mentally prepared for lifelong commitment and think that you can spend the rest of your life with the person you are in love with, you can get married. There in no time period it is a decision based upon your gut feelings.
Personally, I waited 2.5 years. I think 2 years should be a minimum, but then again if you know this person is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with then who are we to say that it's too early. As long as you are out of the early stages are into the stages that will most represent your life, and you are still in love, then you are ready, but that's only in terms of readiness but doesn't take into consideration attitude, timing, personal restrictions etc.
I am a strong believer that you have to be with someone for at least 4 seasons. I have a friend who was head over heels in love with his girlfriend, even 9 months in they acted as if they had only been together for weeks. It was beautiful. That was up until winter came, at which point she became a pain in the neck as she would constantly complain it was too cold. All. The. Time. Every time we met up she would complain, and for him it was too much and they broke up. It seems like such a small thing to break up over, and when he told me I thought the same thing, but you need to know everything that person is about and once you still love her, you're ready.
Right... because the position of the planet around the sun has so much to do with relationships. Moron.
Its depends on you if you like or love that person then i don't think there is need to take time for dating, do whatever you feel right.
I think at least 2 years, combined with the desire to start a family. I am unconvinced there is much merit to being married in the absence of having children.
I disagree. My wife and I only legally formalized our relationship so that in case of emergency we could make medical decisions for each other - and it's a good thing we did.Quote:
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You can do that without being married, but I understand your point.Quote:
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there is no fixed time !
Id say look up the 9 stages of a relationship and when you are sure you are in stage 9-it is time to get married.. Normally after being with someone for 4-6 years, you should no 100% that you want to spend the rest of your life with this person, that they are the best for you and you have no doubts. Also you should no for sure that you are not thinking "is the grass greener somewhere else" and be sure that your partner is not thinking that way either.
You should have discussed your future together like marriage/kids, there should be no problems, no resentment, no anger etc. You should no for sure that you both agree that cheating is wrong and that neither of you will give up on your marriage without a fight.. you should also discuss any future problems that you could run into-financial, death of a loved one, or any other big events in your life that could threaten your relationship. You should both agree that these situations will make you stronger and you will be a team and work through it together.
You should discuss how you are going to deal with any problems-marriage counselling etc.. you should also discuss emotional affairs and how they start and be sure that you will both avoid ever hurting each other this way.
You should also be sure that your partner has high self esteem, confident that they made the right choice in marrying you and also make sure they do not have any underlying insecurity issues. You need to be sure that they have a lot of inner strength and emotional maturity and they are not going to fall apart during the bad times.
You need to be sure there are no addictions that could affect your relationship and that you both agree on important decisions like childcare, work, etc.
Also you need to be sure that you are both going to make an effort to keep your love strong. Discuss romance, spending quality time together, sex, affection and intimacy etc. Also make sure you both have the same work schedule to ensure its possible to spend plenty of quality time together.
You should also promise each other that you are both going to work hard to make the other happy, you will confide in each other and communicate effectively if things are going wrong..
Also look up "signs of a healthy relationship" and be sure that your relationship is healthy.
And I will also add that you should have a good support system like family/friends that you can turn too if times get tough..
Dont marry someone who is selfish or who always puts themselves first. Dont marry someone who is insecure and dont marry someone who wants to be the big I am while you stay at home twiddling your thumbs waiting patiently..
Dont become dependant on someone-financially or otherwise as they will walk all over you and make sure you always have "a get out of jail free card" if this person ever hurts you..
There is nothing worse than feeling like a caged animal who cant get away from someone who has broken there heart so make sure you have a way out if you ever really need one. It is healthy to have your own career, family and friends..
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Well my husband and I dated four months before we got engaded. We were together 2 years and 2 months before we got married. So it really varies from couple to couple. :)
More than a year, if it feels right. But you also really want to both be over 25. Who you are now can be different as you grow older, but between 25-30 people have a good sense of figuring out what they want.
Studies also show that women don't fully develop their brains until 25 while men don't until age 30. You don't wanna marry someone with an underdeveloped brain, right? Just a funny thought.
If you are both around 27 and have been living together for over a year, I think its right to want to take the next step.
Yeah, I am totally agree with you. According to me when you settel perfectly and want to be his own family then you should marriage. But if you want to ask me a age then i go for 27 to 29. Becayse this time you fully mentaly prepare for this.