Russian hookers & degrading remarks. Where to draw line at boys will be boys

So I was recently sharing a phone with my boyfriend of two years I was a little bit sneaky and googled my name in his email to see what he had said about me what came up was (when he was in Thailand with he messages his friend and it said "go see my girl at the Russian strip club she is smoking hot and you can take her home I would if it wasn't for this relation" . Later on his trip he message his friend saying it "sucks having a girlfriend here" I also saw a message from before we where together saying. "My dick is getting so sorry from nailing so many sluts" and another one that was sent 5 days before we officially got together said "man you got to get back here I've been nailing 4 smoking hot bitches every three days... I'm really offended by this he said I should be flattered that's his changed he also messages his friends how hot girls are other than me... I want to feel desirable, am I over reacting? I know he doesn't cheat but I can't of want those eyes only for love kind of love.

I would break up with him. Complaining that he cant sleep with anyone else because hes with you. Red flag-if he hasnt cheated already-he will at some point. And i think men like him are disgusting-hed shag anything with a pulse. Have you had unprotected sex with him? You should go to a clinic and get checked

Yes... And if he gave me something!

Get a checkup asap.

He's not keeper material, he will cheat on you sooner or later. Not to mention that you already don't trust him since you went through his phone messages.

Yes, leave him alone. Now he has you questioning yourself and making you feel somewhat insecure. I would have took those emails and put them in his face, and said so this is how you feel. Look him dead in his face and say how u feel. I would say so you think that this relationship is hindering you from something, if thats what you want then why the hell are you looking in my face. Your dick not getting sorry, it is sorry j/k... but for real, thats the way he was talking so speak a language he understands. I would say, dont waste my time, i dont have to be here. He doesnt seem like the kind of guy to take serious, he say he changed but his mind is still thinking about it while u are in the pic and if he could cheat he would.

Everybody could cheat potentially in his life... Come on, break this relationship and find someone who is more clever and can do it without you notice..

You might be happy both of you this way... What I read is a typical man to man attitude, he didn't do anything serious. By checking you are insecure and shed misery to your relationship. Focus on how he is with you and live him the ability to feel free - this is the only way to keep him if you wish...

Are you for real?? ****ing narcassist! If you cant keep it in your pants-dont be in a relationship! Some men are like a cancer-should not be within a 10mile radius of any woman! I hope you catch a disease and it falls off

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Originally Posted by Chloerose [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

So I was recently sharing a phone with my boyfriend of two years I was a little bit sneaky and googled my name in his email to see what he had said about me what came up was (when he was in Thailand with he messages his friend and it said "go see my girl at the Russian strip club she is smoking hot and you can take her home I would if it wasn't for this relation" . Later on his trip he message his friend saying it "sucks having a girlfriend here" I also saw a message from before we where together saying. "My dick is getting so sorry from nailing so many sluts" and another one that was sent 5 days before we officially got together said "man you got to get back here I've been nailing 4 smoking hot bitches every three days... I'm really offended by this he said I should be flattered that's his changed he also messages his friends how hot girls are other than me... I want to feel desirable, am I over reacting? I know he doesn't cheat but I can't of want those eyes only for love kind of love.

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Correct me if Im wrong but there are 3 statements here and the translation for you ladies

1. "go see my girl at the Russian strip club she is smoking hot and you can take her home I would if it wasn't for this relation" - " Golly....you should see the good looking girl at the strip club....Id sleep with her but I respect my girlfriend too much to do that.

2. "sucks having a girlfriend here" - " Man! Would be soooo easy to cheat but I could never do that to my girlfriend "

3. "My dick is getting so sorry from nailing so many sluts" - what do you care, you werent together at this point?

4. another one that was sent 5 days BEFORE we officially got together said "man you got to get back here I've been nailing 4 smoking hot bitches every three days..." - again, you werent in a relationship


Maybe Im missing the translations but he has done nothing wrong other then offend you with the way many guys talk. Remember we're stupid....you women are the crazy ones....he was just acting cool around his buddies. Dont try to understand since its a guy thing......Youd be shock to hear how we talk sometimes. :)

Most importantly, why were you looking through his shit?

Yup. surfhb2 nailed it - it's just guy talk.

All the said was that he wouldn't cheat on you... and anything that happened before you got together is bullshit to hold against him.

That said - you should do him a favor and break up with him.

I mean how do you search for that?do you use hotmail?n ever heard of that option. And always when I hear about people going to Thailand and having sex,I get worried
cause there ia a lot of child prostitution there.and people of other countrys love to go there to abuse and sleep with those kids like its normal. Beside what are you waiting for?for him to shit on you?
He is nasty. No morals.breakup or take it.

I mean sick pple of other countrys.beside they do it to survive.so how can you even think about sex being there.

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Originally Posted by coconutz [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I mean how do you search for that?do you use hotmail?n ever heard of that option. And always when I hear about people going to Thailand and having sex,I get worried
cause there ia a lot of child prostitution there.and people of other countrys love to go there to abuse and sleep with those kids like its normal. Beside what are you waiting for?for him to shit on you?
He is nasty. No morals.breakup or take it.

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Who died and made you the fuccking moral police?

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Originally Posted by surfhb2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Who died and made you the fuccking moral police?

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It's just cheekxs. LR's GF is back.

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Originally Posted by surfhb2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Who died and made you the fuccking moral police?

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You are nasty and agressive. Dont know what you are barking about but my post. Hurt. A nurve yours.
I see.maybe I was talking about you without knowing it.

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Originally Posted by HeartIsAching;879get336

It's just cheekxs. LR's GF is back.

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Get. A life. There is life out of loveforum you know.

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Originally Posted by surfhb2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Correct me if Im wrong but there are 3 statements here and the translation for you ladies

1. "go see my girl at the Russian strip club she is smoking hot and you can take her home I would if it wasn't for this relation" - " Golly....you should see the good looking girl at the strip club....Id sleep with her but I respect my girlfriend too much to do that.

2. "sucks having a girlfriend here" - " Man! Would be soooo easy to cheat but I could never do that to my girlfriend "

3. "My dick is getting so sorry from nailing so many sluts" - what do you care, you werent together at this point?

4. another one that was sent 5 days BEFORE we officially got together said "man you got to get back here I've been nailing 4 smoking hot bitches every three days..." - again, you werent in a relationship


Maybe Im missing the translations but he has done nothing wrong other then offend you with the way many guys talk. Remember we're stupid....you women are the crazy ones....he was just acting cool around his buddies. Dont try to understand since its a guy thing......Youd be shock to hear how we talk sometimes. :)

Most importantly, why were you looking through his shit?

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I know men talk. Women talk me and my friends reaaaaaaaaaaallllly talk about it all but it dont mean nothing so I got ya on that note.
However that number 2 point, Im not buying. Oh and he nailed so many sluts and his dick sorry she is the one dealing with the sloppy seconds now. I still would be pissed at point 2. No way to explain that one.

I can see if he said, its a lot of fine bitches here (thats how he would have said it, based off how the OP described it). but I got a girl so, I cant even do that or somethin to that effect. But he said it sucks, thats offensive.

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Originally Posted by coconutz [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Get. A life. There is life out of loveforum you know.

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Learn. To. Punctuate.

And spell. And make sense.

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Originally Posted by PradaChanel [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I know men talk. Women talk me and my friends reaaaaaaaaaaallllly talk about it all but it dont mean nothing so I got ya on that note.
However that number 2 point, Im not buying. Oh and he nailed so many sluts and his dick sorry she is the one dealing with the sloppy seconds now. I still would be pissed at point 2. No way to explain that one.

I can see if he said, its a lot of fine bitches here (thats how he would have said it, based off how the OP described it). but I got a girl so, I cant even do that or somethin to that effect. But he said it sucks, thats offensive.

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Really the point is that she found all this out by crossing the line of trust so I guess she as no leg to stand on. Id tell her to FUUCK Off if my GF came at me with this shit.....whether it was right or not

Hmmm I think it's fine one male friend commenting to another saying that another girl is attractive as that is quite literally just how quite a few of us guys are. However the things he said definitely cross the line like how it sucks to be in the relationship at that time.

Also I believe that while it is "personal information" in some regards, that if your partner has had a LOT of sexual relations in the past with various girls that you should be told about that... You could catch something :O

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Originally Posted by surfhb2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Really the point is that she found all this out by crossing the line of trust so I guess she as no leg to stand on. Id tell her to FUUCK Off if my GF came at me with this shit.....whether it was right or not

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Well that is always an awkward issue. Finding out something untrustworthy that your partner did through untrustworthy means.

But in my opinion he should be able to allow his girlfriend to go through his emails without fear of her finding something that is not for her eyes. Not saying that a girl going through emails is fine, but the fact that she found out all this stuff shows that her getting a bit nosey shows that being nosey actually paid off because she has found out that the guy is a completely different guy that he makes out to be and that he is not trustworthy.

I guess there's two identical threads, here and in "ask male" section, so I'll paste my reply here as well:

"All these messages were from his friends right? I know that guys often tease their friends when they get into a relationship, telling them that they are "missing out on all the other hot chicks", it is very common, and in many cases the reason is that they themselves are bit jealous that their friend got a girlfriend and they are still single. I obviously cannot be 100% certain in your specific case, but I am pretty sure that's what going on here.

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Originally Posted by Dextur [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Well that is always an awkward issue. Finding out something untrustworthy that your partner did through untrustworthy means.

But in my opinion he should be able to allow his girlfriend to go through his emails without fear of her finding something that is not for her eyes. Not saying that a girl going through emails is fine, but the fact that she found out all this stuff shows that her getting a bit nosey shows that being nosey actually paid off because she has found out that the guy is a completely different guy that he makes out to be and that he is not trustworthy.

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He didnt do anything untrustworthy

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Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Are you for real?? ****ing narcassist! If you cant keep it in your pants-dont be in a relationship! Some men are like a cancer-should not be within a 10mile radius of any woman! I hope you catch a disease and it falls off

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I hope you are not talking to me... Grow up a bit...

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Originally Posted by surfhb2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

He didnt do anything untrustworthy

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Wait what. Lol.

I would definitely count saying: "You can take her home I would if it wasn't for this relation" and "sucks having a girlfriend here" as pretty big red flags in a relationship.

If I had seen my girlfriend say things like that (about guys) to one of her friends while with me I doubt I would stick around much longer. I mean really - it shows how little the relationship means to him. Everyone has temptations in that you can miss being single sometimes, but from the way it seems he said it in a bit of a hurtful way like he actually wishes he was single in the given situation.

Oh well, in my opinion he was being untrustworthy but you don't think so - each to their own I guess.

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Originally Posted by Dextur [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Wait what. Lol.

I would definitely count saying: "You can take her home I would if it wasn't for this relation" and "sucks having a girlfriend here" as pretty big red flags in a relationship.

If I had seen my girlfriend say things like that (about guys) to one of her friends while with me I doubt I would stick around much longer. I mean really - it shows how little the relationship means to him. Everyone has temptations in that you can miss being single sometimes, but from the way it seems he said it in a bit of a hurtful way like he actually wishes he was single in the given situation.

Oh well, in my opinion he was being untrustworthy but you don't think so - each to their own I guess.

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Ummm....Yeah....I guess.

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Originally Posted by surfhb2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Really the point is that she found all this out by crossing the line of trust so I guess she as no leg to stand on. Id tell her to FUUCK Off if my GF came at me with this shit.....whether it was right or not

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The best form of defense. Screams guilt my friend!

Its weird how a lot of men can be insensitive without knowing it until its broken down piece by piece to them. No offense Surf Im not singling you out but Im just saying even with my current BF or my exs. Like if you go thru there things and find something and confront them instead of them immediately apologizing they get upset like why did u got thru my things, u dont trust me? Im like cant you see the bigger picture u see why i dont trust you? So what if I go thru stuff and I say dont apolgize for it neither. if u dont have nothing to hide u shouldnt care.

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Originally Posted by sssspanos [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I hope you are not talking to me... Grow up a bit...

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Your post came across as "oh hes a man's man, leave him at it, its alright if he cheats as long as you don't find out, what you don't know wont hurt you"

That ^^ is why I attacked you and called you a narcissist. Correct me if I picked up what you were saying the wrong way..