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Hi guys...
She returned to me after 4 months of breaking.....
I am somehow afraid if she will dump me again and again and again...
How could I make her follow me in everything,?? Should I always tell her how much I love her?
I don't want to loose her again... some suggestions plz....
edit: my friend told me: run away from her, she will definitely follow u..!!!!!!!!
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Originally Posted by Cybog
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omg ur too much tone...lol...um what do you mean "follow" you. Are we still talking about your girlfriend? ...In anycase telling her you love her all the time won't really prevent her from leaving...maybe you should try viewing her more as a gf and less as a hostage...MIGHT do the trick
you know what.. no offence intended Harmony.. but guys are stupid...Quote:
Originally Posted by Harmony
think about it... she left you and she came back... and how did you respond... you were all happy right???
bad move... first of all... why were you happy??? you got dumped.. wat?? your happy caz she came back???
you should let it be clear in the way u act and talk that you were hurt.. and make it clear that things aren't the same...
i'm shur she left you because she felt that you would do EVERYTHING not to lose her again...
too bad...
let her know... (without saying a word) ahem... (or writting on paper)... that things are just not the same...
don't be as affectionate with her anymore... don't do all the little things that showed her you care...
soon.. she'll miss the old you... and ask you what happened...
that's your cue to tell her.. with a serious tone of voice.. and your serious face...
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if you leave her.. ur a d*ck...
if you act like nothing is wrong... then ur just dumb...
in either case.. you have to figure this one out...
i dun think there's anything more to be said
I think you just confused the hell out of him grk...
well.. let him read it again... it wouldn't hurt you know... if he actually cares about her that is...Quote:
Originally Posted by XPixiedustX
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Your friend was half right.Quote:
Originally Posted by Harmony
Run away, period.
well.. he may be right.. but it's wrong...Quote:
Originally Posted by Frasbee
if he does that... then he's just as fcuked up as her...
he has to set an example.. and find an other way...
What?Quote:
Originally Posted by GrkScorp
Dude, she's obviously a manipulative whackjob.
He should just shut her out of his life before he put himself through more unnecessary emotional turmoil.
she's a manipulative whackjob huh???Quote:
Originally Posted by Frasbee
nway... no comment on that... but he's into her...
so he either sticks with her and finds a way to work things out...
or leaves and settles for an other degree of manipulation...
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How do you get that SHE is the whackjob out of that story?Quote:
Originally Posted by Harmony
jes na ses pasQuote:
Originally Posted by Tone
yeah i don't see it either...he's teh whackjob for wanting her to "follow" him and besides he must be doing SOMETHING in ordr for he rto be running away all the time.....Quote:
Originally Posted by Tone
i think you were going for "je ne sais pas" :nerd:Quote:
Originally Posted by GrkScorp
He has to set an example? That sounds so manipulative.Quote:
Originally Posted by GrkScorp
You need to just let her know that it's it different. Forget the other stuff inbetwee. Just tell her you'll need time.
In a relationship you need a healthy balance. You can't expect her to "follow" you. It either happens or it doesn't. You can't force anyone to do anything.
There are no guarantees in a relationship. Just enjoy it while it happens. If you worry too much about the future you will drive yourself nuts. Just live in the present and focus on that.
If your that insecure shes gonna break up with you again.....and thats a constant worry on your mind......then your either gonna drive yourself nuts or your gonna be that insecure where your gonna be seen as possessive.
Just enjoy and live in the "now".
nice words... but sometimes you should put some plans for future,, no???Quote:
In a relationship you need a healthy balance. You can't expect her to "follow" you. It either happens or it doesn't. You can't force anyone to do anything.
There are no guarantees in a relationship. Just enjoy it while it happens. If you worry too much about the future you will drive yourself nuts. Just live in the present and focus on that.
If your that insecure shes gonna break up with you again.....and thats a constant worry on your mind......then your either gonna drive yourself nuts or your gonna be that insecure where your gonna be seen as possessive.
Just enjoy and live in the "now".
remember the subject title? forever love!!!!!!
Ah so you're the type that think it can always work out if you have enough determination.Quote:
Originally Posted by GrkScorp
I'll let you in on a secret.
You're wrong.
"Forever Love" is a wonderful concept.....but lets be realistic. It doesn't always happen that way. I mean yes thats the plan but things happen. We either get past them or we move on. Its reality. So I say just take it a little bit at a time. If you worry too much about the future....your not gonna enjoy the present.Quote:
Originally Posted by Harmony
Ignoring the fact that I'd take my ex back in a heartbeat if she wanted me to, I think it's a bad idea to get back together at all. I mean she dumped you to begin with right, which means there was something about you or the situation that she didn't like. Have you changed much since then? Probably not.
Find someone who 100% wants to be with you.
the problem wasn't in me.. it was in her parents only... she didn't forgot me, even during the breaking time..Quote:
Originally Posted by equivo
I agree with this. So unless you can remove this worry you obviously have, you will never have a strong relationship. Mis-trust is quite often a reason for relationships ending.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ellynn
Your friends are probably concerned about things they saw in the relationship which made you unhappy, and dont want to see you go down that path again. I doubt their concerns have much to do with your "she's done it once-she'll do it again" concerns.
I also agree that this will make her think she has control over you.
Look at her littler finger... Are you wraped around it?
Mick