the pretty nothings that mean everything

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21-09-05, 01:21 PM
stability

the pretty nothings that mean everything

im new here so hello everyone.
over the past few months ive encountered all these feelings which are quiet foreign to me and i dont know how to deal with them. so theres this guy that ive been talking to for almost two years now. i met this guy through a website (omgsz i knowsz!) you see i was never a believer of all the "i fell in love with a guy i met online" thing but since ive been talking to him im really confused on this because quiet frankly ive started to have feelings for him. believe me if you were to ask me a year ago about this subject i would have given you a whole explanation on how a person cant truly have feelings for another person whom they have only met online. you see this guy and i share the same interests and such and i guess thats why we started talking in the first place. yes i like him and to be totally honest ive never ever felt the way i feel about him for anyone else. we started talking through instant messenger and then it got to emails and now letters and so on. i feel like i know him pretty well although i can never be sure because ive never met him in person but hes a really nice guy and thats the problem. hes shy and im shy and sometimes i think that he likes me as much as i like him but i can never be sure because hes a nice guy and i dont know if hes the same way to other girls/people. hes hinted that he wants to meet me and i have his phone number but have never gotten the courage to actually call him. he says that he likes my personality and mostly all the things he says make me grin like an idiot especially in his letters. when i first realized of what i was feeling i completely shut him off and didnt talk to him for a month or two and started to date a couple of people but somehow he always came to mind so i just gave up in my "ignore him" phase and continued talking to him. and now after ten months of on and off ignoring him thing and, of course, denial i still have feelings for him and they seem stronger and like i said before i get the feeling that he feels the same way. we both are really shy and i would never make the first move like some people might suggest and im going crazy because i dont know what to feel anymore and i just want to know what you guys think i should do, whether i just completely forget about him or what? what can i do to find out how he really feels besides just coming out bluntly and asking him do you like me. so yeah i need help and your responses will be greatly appreciated.
thank you :]
21-09-05, 01:32 PM
Asip4u

Some spacing would be better..Easier to read and all. I don't know about meeting someone who you know just through instant messenger however if you really feel so much for this guy, i would get to know him a lot more before meeting. Maybe talking on the phone for awhile as well can help. Also, long distance relationships rarely work out so take that into consideration.
21-09-05, 01:35 PM
TAVS

I've been there. I was 17 at the time I believe. Everything was great, until we met. I dont know why, but when we met face-to-face, things changed. Next thing you know, there I was with a broken heart. Its hard to comprehend, but things can be very different in real live compared to what you think you know on the Internet. There's more to life than quality conversation via text msg.
21-09-05, 01:37 PM
Asip4u

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Originally Posted by TAVS

There's more to life than quality conversation via text msg.

Yea, plenty of other expectations from the person i guess.
21-09-05, 10:48 PM
Tone

How far away are you two?

Also how old?
22-09-05, 03:48 AM
BFTrick

call him... and i met some of my best friends online....they lived one town away and were just out of Highschool so i would have never met them otherwise. but they are really cool guys. so for me it has been worth it. i say give it a try. meet him :)
22-09-05, 05:24 AM
stability

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Originally Posted by Tone

How far away are you two?

Also how old?

about 90 miles away and we are both 17, typical teenagers eh
22-09-05, 05:25 AM
Asip4u

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Originally Posted by stability

about 90 miles away and we are both 17, typical teenagers eh

So you're sure he's not a 40 year old perv? ;)
22-09-05, 05:30 AM
stability

Quote:

Originally Posted by Asip4u

So you're sure he's not a 40 year old perv? ;)

hahahaha im pretty sure hes not 40, hes only 2 months older than i am and hes a senior in high school while im a freshman in college. and plus i saw him at a show i went to once but never got the chance to talk to him so im pretty sure he isnt lying about his age hahahaha
22-09-05, 05:35 AM
stability

Quote:

Originally Posted by TAVS

I've been there. I was 17 at the time I believe. Everything was great, until we met. I dont know why, but when we met face-to-face, things changed. Next thing you know, there I was with a broken heart. Its hard to comprehend, but things can be very different in real live compared to what you think you know on the Internet. There's more to life than quality conversation via text msg.

yeah things do change and that partially what makes me scared but ive met these two great people that ive talked to online and im still friends with them and i hope that if i ever meet him, which i doubt i will, things would end up good even as just friends and not bad.
22-09-05, 06:14 AM
shh!

Sorry to be a drag, but I don't consider internet people "real" until you have met face to face. Have you noticed how when you read a good novel, you can usually relate deeply to the main characters? (And they are 100% NOT real.) People can portray themselves anyway they like on the internet.

Human attraction involves a great deal of physical attraction and connectedness, and I've heard this can account for as much as 80% of how you feel about another person. A written word can't compete with a deep, soulful look into another person's eyes.

Everyone looks good on paper. Try to keep some perspective, or you will end up bitterly disappointed.
22-09-05, 06:16 AM
TAVS

Wow, great analysis Shh. I wish someone would have told me that when I was 17. Could have saved some heartache
22-09-05, 06:19 AM
Tone

I'm hurt... shh! does this mean I don't exist to you........................?
22-09-05, 06:22 AM
shh!

Don't worry, Tone, you exist in living color in my dreams at night.
:-D
22-09-05, 06:25 AM
stability

Quote:

Originally Posted by shh!

Sorry to be a drag, but I don't consider internet people "real" until you have met face to face. Have you noticed how when you read a good novel, you can usually relate deeply to the main characters? (And they are 100% NOT real.) People can portray themselves anyway they like on the internet.

Human attraction involves a great deal of physical attraction and connectedness, and I've heard this can account for as much as 80% of how you feel about another person. A written word can't compete with a deep, soulful look into another person's eyes.

Everyone looks good on paper. Try to keep some perspective, or you will end up bitterly disappointed.

thats exactly what i thought until now and now its just confusing because im going against what i believed in.
22-09-05, 06:25 AM
Tone

Okay whew, thank you ma'am.
22-09-05, 06:28 AM
Asip4u

Quote:

Originally Posted by shh!

Don't worry, Tone, you exist in living color in my dreams at night.
:-D

That's great...Now i feel left out.
22-09-05, 06:28 AM
shh!

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Originally Posted by stability

thats exactly what i thought until now and now its just confusing because im going against what i believed in.

Listen to your head. Your heart will betray you and make you miserable.
22-09-05, 06:29 AM
shh!

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Originally Posted by Asip4u

That's great...Now i feel left out.

You exist in my waking fantasies. Happy now?
22-09-05, 06:30 AM
Asip4u

Quote:

Originally Posted by shh!

You exist in my waking fantasies. Happy now?

Definitely! :)
22-09-05, 06:34 AM
shh!

You see, stability? What these guys don't know is that I am really a 74 year old, bedridden male with no teeth!

hahaha
22-09-05, 06:35 AM
Asip4u

Quote:

Originally Posted by shh!

You see, stability? What these guys don't know is that I am really a 74 year old, bedridden male with no teeth!

hahaha

damn, that's hot. lol
22-09-05, 06:36 AM
stability

Quote:

Originally Posted by shh!

You see, stability? What these guys don't know is that I am really a 74 year old, bedridden male with no teeth!

hahaha

hey i like 74 year old bedridden males with no teeth ;)
22-09-05, 06:37 AM
shh!

Hahahaha! Damn! That was not the reaction I was expecting, Asip! You surprise me!
22-09-05, 06:42 AM
Asip4u

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Originally Posted by shh!

Hahahaha! Damn! That was not the reaction I was expecting, Asip! You surprise me!

;)

Stability, we've seen her and she ain't no 74 year old male with no teeth. Unless she really did trick us..hahah
22-09-05, 06:55 AM
shh!

If I were going to trick you Asip, don't you think I would've picked out a really HOT girl to be? (but I do look better than that picture chelsee posted in the gallery) hahaha
22-09-05, 07:01 AM
Asip4u

Quote:

Originally Posted by shh!

If I were going to trick you Asip, don't you think I would've picked out a really HOT girl to be? (but I do look better than that picture chelsee posted in the gallery) hahaha

Actually, I pick cute over hot...And that was sooooo cute, shh!
22-09-05, 07:12 AM
shh!

Asip, you have embarrassed me into silence!
22-09-05, 07:17 AM
Asip4u

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Originally Posted by shh!

Asip, you have embarrassed me into silence!

Aww...That just makes you even cuter. :)
22-09-05, 07:20 AM
shh!

uhh... I'm logging off now! Talk to you later!
22-09-05, 07:27 AM
Asip4u

Quote:

Originally Posted by shh!

uhh... I'm logging off now! Talk to you later!

Fine be that way ;). Later, shh!
22-09-05, 10:17 AM
stability

Quote:

Originally Posted by Asip4u

Fine be that way ;). Later, shh!

hahahaha :D crazy crazy people!
22-09-05, 10:29 AM
Asip4u

Quote:

Originally Posted by stability

hahahaha :D crazy crazy people!

I apologize for getting off topic, stability. I hope you got something out of some of the earlier comments.
22-09-05, 01:40 PM
clynn

WEll, if you're not going to make a move because you're too shy, then the only thing you can really do is wait to see IF he is going to make a move. Course if he is too shy like you say he is, then the whole thing is doomed.

If you don't like that response, then change it, and make a move.