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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We had been quite intimate with each other. Well... after our most recent fight, the sex has been more intensifying. (I'm not complaining)... but he now asks me what it is that I want from him and I can never tell him!!! I wish that I could just tell him, but I can't!! Is there a reason for this? I want to be able to tell him!!! :sad2:
Wow that's vague. Can't help you with missing info. Why cant you tell him. Open your mouth and speak.
There's definitely a way to take care of this problem. Stop being a pussy and just blurt out what you want!
I also don't understand why you are linking your sex life to your inability to communicate if you are happy with the sex. Can you clue us in?
why are you feeling so uncomfortable?
Sweetheart... is there something wrong?
no there is nothing wrong.... I'm satisfied with the sex, but when it comes to him wanting me to tell him what I want him to do... I'm clueless!!!
is he like asking you what you want as far as trying to make you happy?
Do you mean in the bedroom? If he is doing everything perfectly, and he is able to provide you with orgasms, tell him he is doing everything just right..
If he is not giving you that level of pleasure, but you don't know how he could go about it, I suggest you go check out some books about sexual pleasure.
Yes!!! Sorry I didn't word it correctly!!! Thanks!!!
o.k. i use to be kinda like you. but i can't really tell if your wanting to be more sexual with him or not? with me instead of telling my guy what i want. i take his hands and place them where i think it might feel good. . if you can't really say it in words, just try showing him.
Thanks!!!! I actually showed him last night what I wanted!!!
Last night.... I tried something new!!! I spent a lot of time cutting out hearts of all different shapes and sizes (that took a few hours). Once I finally finished that, I placed all those hearts all over the bedroom floor. Then every where in the bedroom, there were candles lit. The lights were low and glasses of wine sat on the table. While music played softly in the background! Not to mention what I was wearing or wasn't!!! :)
It surely turned him on!!!
Not just him...
Oh really huh???? LOL!!! Just wanted to try something new!!! :)
Try away, my friend, try away.
Your man should be lucky he has someone with some creativity!
Thanks!!! I know he is because he told me he has never had another girl ever do that for him!!! :)
I am jealous >;[
Why are you jealous? ;)
I just miss having that...
:) Just giving you are hard time!!!
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why the sad face?
sweetkiss, that is so cool, i'm jealous too! i mean that i can't do that with my bf
right now i hate his guts so it doesn't matter anyway
But good for you!!!!! you go girl!
Thanks a lot! I knew there was something like that deep down inside, but I just had to actually find it and just do it and not worry about anything!!! :)
Also I started being able to tell him what it is that I want him to do to me! Boy I feel better now!
i have had the same problem for a while. i feelt guilty or stupid when i told him but after i did the sex was ten times better. if you cant tell him wright in in a note and give it to him or leave it somewere were he will see it before he gos to work if you live together. or email him. then that will give him all day to think about how to do it to you and chances are that it will be better for you because he will be exited and horney when he comes homeQuote:
Originally Posted by sweetkiss4one
Thanks a lot! We do live together! Things have been a little bit better lately so... I can give that a try to!!
Okay, Sweetkiss, now that you've made the plunge, here's an oldie, but a goodie, for ya:
Go to the florist. Get a couple dozen or three day-old, long-stem roses at discount. Take 'em home. Pull down the bed linens. Pluck the rose petals off their stems, and scatter them ALL OVER the sheet, top to bottom, side to side. Make up the bed. Light the candles. Put on your best va-va-voom outfit. And, when he gets home, have at him.
You'll both get pasted with rose petals, the room will smell like roses and sex for a couple of days, and you'll positively ruin the sheets. But, hey: small price.
I never thought of doing something like that!!! I'll have to give that a try!!! Thanks Man!!! :)
I've done other things, but that would be something new!!!
I want a va-va-voom outfit.
I'll get you one.
Yay! (and it's not even my birthday!) I can't wait I can't wait
we will go out and get you one :)
do you even know what you want sweetkiss?
yes! I have exactly what I want! Why do you ask?
do you KNOW what you want?
YES! I do! I have told him some of the things that I honestly enjoy, yet sometimes just telling him is hard! Why I don't know why, but it is! Yet that has changed a little, but I still want to be able to do it more!!!!
make a list in your head and tell him the first thing on it. once you get the hang of it you'll wish you started sooner and you'll never want to stop.
a journey begins with one step.
Thanks!!! :D