Hey there people,
just need a little help in determining how guys flirt - you see there is this guy in my life who im pretty interested in - any sure signs i should be watching for to tell me that hes interested in me?
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Hey there people,
just need a little help in determining how guys flirt - you see there is this guy in my life who im pretty interested in - any sure signs i should be watching for to tell me that hes interested in me?
Myriad. I'll open with: If he gets nervous when you're around; bumps into or drops things and becomes generally clumsy.
How does he act when he's around you? Does he seem nervous? Does he compliment you a lot? Is he paying careful attention when talking to you?
WHOA! Not only are our desks and rooms alike, Asip. We must also think alike, too.
lol...at the same time too...Quote:
Originally Posted by whaywardj
and great minds think alike. you guys are GREAT!
how does he act around me? well im pretty sure hes interested - he gets a little touchy and smiles a lot... has told me that i make him nervous but im confusing him with my body language i think... im a little stand offish at the begining of anything... so come across cold
Yeah. That's the spooky part.Quote:
Originally Posted by Asip4u
Ha! That's nothing. You should see us in drag.Quote:
Originally Posted by misombra
Not as GREAT as you sombra...but you already know that.Quote:
Originally Posted by misombra
aw. that's saweeeeeet!
lol i'd love to see you guys in drag. please send pics...
::acts like hungry dogs over pics of the guys in drag::
Looks like you already know that he's interested so just go for it and let us know how it goes. Make him feel comfortable, that's very important.Quote:
Originally Posted by buzz bee
I agree with the previous post.
just be friendly with him. but not TOO friendly, you know?
haha being tooo friendly is not the problem - the prob at the moment is i get soooo nervous i give him all the wrong signals...
also do guys change thier flirting style as they get older? (im a little younger than him - but not too much younger)
Hehe. Ah. The thrill of a fresh romance. How charming. Obviously, there's chemistry. Explore it.
you change in many, many ways as you get older. you're a perfectly normal person and your nervousness is normal. just breath and relax. treat her like you would any other friend. don't worry so much about the what will come of it, just enjoy being in the moment.
haha misombra did you just post that in the wrong thread? :)
uh, i don't know. maybe lol.
hehe if so its still great advice, ill just replace the 'her' with 'him' and then its relevant :D
lol...okay good! lol
Actualy, Buzz, it was boilerplate. So many of the same questions get asked that you cut-and-paste replies. Misombra just didn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you.
Ah, hell. I may as well tell you. "Misombra" is one of my other screen names.
Actually, there's only four people on this board.
rrrrriiiiiggghhhttt.. geeze guys... do you always make people feel insecure and stupid?
Just kidding, Buzz. But it is a pretty direct bunch here. But back to your question: If you're BOTH having involuntary reactions around each other, obviously, something's in the air. If it were me, I'd make my move and know rather than not and never know. And, yes, we all change our style of flirting as we get older. At a point, words become a distraction and romantic behavior becomes overkill. Mere looks speak volumes and gestures shout.
ok ok... and yes i understand that looks speak volumes :) very poetic
k.. well think ill just swallow my pride and give him a call - see if he wants to do something this weekend
well called him this arvo at about 3.30 and still havent received a response :( its now 7... left a msg telling him to call me when he gets a second.... hmmm busy? or has he had enough of my antics and decided im not worth the trouble and work
That thread makes me unhappy.
Don't ask.
and fools seldom differ.Quote:
Originally Posted by misombra
You've made your overture. Now, let it go fly on it's own wings while you go on about your other business.
Do nothing further.
that must be why you know me so well hayward. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by whaywardj
ok ive left it alone and havent contacted him today - mind you i havent heard from him either... tho he is a little bit notorious for forgetting to call ppl... should i call again tomorrow or just leave things completly alone?
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Originally Posted by buzz bee
Id call him. If he is anything like me then he would love to see his crush (lack of a better word) call him and ask him out. He probably is really nervous about calling himself because you havent (you think at least) been the warmest around him. The worst that could happen is he says no and you move on. Plus the more you do this the easier it becomes. If he says no this time the next time it will be that much easier.
* I do not think he will say no*
They will be somewhat clumsy and will try to attract you to their "bigness" or "manliness" but in the process will more than likely make a fool of themselves. that is if they are a reasonably confidant guy.
On the other hand if they tend to be shy then they will avoid you and probably won't have much to say to you, though will constantly look over in your direction. :D
hey well i ended up sending him an sms on friday (two days after i left the voice mail on his mobile) and basically was really casual and just asked if he'd fogotten to call with a :P after it... he sms'ed back straight away telling me that he had tried - makes sence my phone has been acting up... and then as i was writing a response he called :) we had a little bit of a chat and i appologised for being a little weird - i told him that im a little shy around guys to begin with however i was at work and couldnt speak for long.... so he said he'd call me back later.... thougth that was a good sign - him responding so quickly and then calling rather than messaging...
its now monday and i havent heard from him.. this guy is mega unreliable when it comes to calling!!! but im starting to think he cant be that interested if he forgets to call... but hes also pretty busy, am i looking into things too much?
he seems to be sending some pretty mixed signals too... im just starting to get a little annoyed at all this dancing around each other!!!
*sigh*
Look: Just express your interest without over-expressing it. Forget about who's calling who how many times or when. Forget about how something "might look" or what anyone "might think."
If you're about to go do something and think you'd like his company, call him and tell him so: "Hi. Was just going to so-and-so and thought I'd enjoy your company. If you'd like to meet me, I'll be there at such-and-such a time. Bye." Then go on about your business regardless.
If he gets around to syncing up with you on one or more occasion, great. Go from there. If he never does, so be it. You gave him every opportunity to get closer to you. If he'd wants to, he will. If he doesn't want to, he won't ever get his shit together enough to. Isn't that really all you need to know? Whether he does or doesn't make an effort to be with you? Or are you, rather, preoccupied with wondering why he isn't doing as you want? And isn't that his business at this stage?
Just give him opportunities. If he dosen't respond to them to your liking, or his responses confuse you, move on to someone else who does respond as you like and doesn't confuse you.
yeh guess i was just afraid of calling him because i didnt want to look desperate or needy which i know is silly but arent these the games we all play when courting?
maybe i will just let it go and see what happens.. after all if hes thinking about me he will just call - guys dont overanalyse they just do things
and for the record im not worried about why he isnt doing what i want... hardly at that point is it..... im just wondering if he actually likes me or not cos now that ive cleared up my feelings a little he seems to be the one handing out the mixed messages... always thought if i guy said he'd call he would and if he didnt then he wasnt that interested
I hate to be the bearer of bad news... but if you like someone - no matter how busy you are - you find time for them. That's how I see it at least. You go out the way, you do things you normally don't.
For example - normally I don't ever come onto LF in non-working hours, especially weekends, but well, here I am. ;)
I'm really sorry darlin, but I'd say try to move on.
"...always thought if i guy said he'd call he would and if he didnt then he wasnt that interested."
Actually, that pretty much IS the case. If I'm interested in a woman, I'm damn well not going to "forget" to call her. If I'm not, I might.
On the other hand, as you said I think, people do get busy and, sometimes, experience mixed feelings about starting up something as consuming as a romance can be. Also: People can get a little off-balance once they realize someone's interested in them.
Don't draw any conclusions about whether he is or isn't interested and don't lose any sleep over it. Just invite him in until you grow tired of it, or until he responds and you don't have to invite him anymore. You're not being "needy." You're just giving him every opportunity you can.
Knew there was a reason I liked you, Tone. You think like me! :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Tone
yeh thanks guys... ive made it obvious that im interested and he was too for a while... maybe ive just been too flaky and difficult and hes decided that its not worth all the time and effort - doesnt bother me i understand - he said he would call and hasnt, would say that the ball is in his court and i guess ill just forget about it til he makes a move - if he doesnt then ill have my answer and if he does then yay me
just interesting since he took a litle bit of a risk even coming on to me - we are actually in business together...