He Still Lives With His Ex

Hi there!

I hope i'm under the correct subject. I met this new guy who I really like. I could tell something wasn't right, and he admitted to me this morning that his ex still lives with him and they only stopped being physical 2 weeks ago. Im angry that he lied (He said he lived with his sister and that he had been single for 3 years)
Do I continue to see him? I cant stand the fact he is under the same roof as his ex who he still has feelings for. Is it too harsh to make him choose : She moves out, Or I go my seperate way?

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Originally Posted by giulia

Hi there!

I hope i'm under the correct subject. I met this new guy who I really like. I could tell something wasn't right, and he admitted to me this morning that his ex still lives with him and they only stopped being physical 2 weeks ago. Im angry that he lied (He said he lived with his sister and that he had been single for 3 years)
Do I continue to see him? I cant stand the fact he is under the same roof as his ex who he still has feelings for. Is it too harsh to make him choose : She moves out, Or I go my seperate way?

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Under those circumstances, I think I'd probably go my seperate way and not look back. One, he lied about something that important and two, they stopped being physical only TWO weeks ago? That's hardly an 'ex,' that's a 'spat.'

Now having said that, sometimes, just sometimes living with an ex can be acceptable for a while at least. When my ex wanted a divorce, I had no choice but to agree, but we owned a house together that needed several months of work before we put it on the market and neither of us had the ready cash to get new places and move out until it was sold. Thus, we became 'room-mates' for six months. Wasn't pleasant, but had to do it. Seperate bedrooms, no sex. Honestly.

Hi. Thanks for the advice. If they are in the same situation as you were, then maybe I can hold on a bit...but at the same time the trust issue is just huge. If he has no intention of moving her out, then i'm definitly going to go my seperate way! Thanks again

How old are you?

Giulia, listen - for YOUR own good it's probably best to get away. I mean think of it, he already lied to you about her. He's LIVING with her. He just recently stopped being physical, and who knows when they might pick that up again? I'll tell you who WON'T know - and that's you. Cause he seems to have no problem lying to you.

Typical man, wants to have his cake and eat it too. I wouldn't give him any ultimatum or anything, I'd just say "Listen you lied to me, you're living with your ex, what kind of fool do you think I am?" and then get done - no contact - don't give him a chance to weasel his way back into your head.

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Originally Posted by Tone

How old are you?



Typical man, wants to have his cake and eat it too. I wouldn't give him any ultimatum or anything, I'd just say "Listen you lied to me, you're living with your ex, what kind of fool do you think I am?" and then get done - no contact - don't give him a chance to weasel his way back into your head.

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lmao...sorry bro...this part made me laugh...I agree with it 100%.

Run, dont walk from this doomed situation

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Originally Posted by giulia

I cant stand the fact he is under the same roof as his ex who he still has feelings for.

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I do believe you're really supposed to not be able to stand the fact that he LIED TO YOU. Big time. The guy's a dick. Leave.

If he lied to you already... who knows how many more times he will. Your best bet is to leave and not get yourself involved any farther in this. You deserve better... someone who will not lie to you and who will respect you.... DON"T PLAY THE GAME!!!

no. no. yes.

HI.

I'm 21. So im still a young 'un. But you are all correct. He actually called me last night saying she was moving out soon, but I stuck my ground and told him it isn't going to happen. I'm pi**ed off at the situation, I thought i'd finally found something....but it's ok, because I deserve better :-) Thanks for the great advice

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Originally Posted by giulia

HI.

I'm 21. So im still a young 'un. But you are all correct. He actually called me last night saying she was moving out soon, but I stuck my ground and told him it isn't going to happen. I'm pi**ed off at the situation, I thought i'd finally found something....but it's ok, because I deserve better :-) Thanks for the great advice

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Glad you are being wise about the situation. Obviously if he is still living with her and just stopped being physical with her.....chances are....its gonna happen again. Plus he lied to you to begin with!

Good for you girl!!! You will find someone better and be even happier!!! :)

:-) thanks, sweetkiss.

Yeah, what the others said!

Oh and don't buy the "Oh she's moving out soon" bullshit.

I wouldn't listen to it because he lied from the beginning. If he had been up front with you on their liviing situation and they had not been physcial in awhile, then it would be a different situation.

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Originally Posted by giulia

HI.

I'm 21. So im still a young 'un. But you are all correct. He actually called me last night saying she was moving out soon, but I stuck my ground and told him it isn't going to happen. I'm pi**ed off at the situation, I thought i'd finally found something....but it's ok, because I deserve better :-) Thanks for the great advice

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yes you do deserve better, and good for you to not put up with that. Even though what he did is wrong it's a good thing you found all this out now before you guys got into this any further. Good luck and stick to your guns chick!!!

ugh...can you imagine I got serious with this guy and THEN found out! I think people would be visiting me in prison ;)
Yeah, you are all so wise. I will definitely NOT go back to him. Hey, i'm going out tonight...who knows what the future brings!? hehehe

That's wassup

I'm proud of you giulia. You actually got out of the relationship.

I think it's a LF first.

Probably so lol

I have high hopes for you Giulia!

Good for you!!!! Have fun and live it up! :)

bottom line, if he can lie about that, imagine what else he can lie about with a straight face.

raverboy

hey y'all. Thanks! I actually ran into him on Sat night, can you beleive it. He was pestering me, so I lay it on the line for him (ie: you are a liar and I want nothing to do with you) and there you have it! He hasn't spoken to me since, and I'm so happy about it! So slap yourselves on the back, you guys ROCK

No, no, my dear, slap YOURSELF on the back cause YOU ROCK for doing yourself RIGHT!

lol. how can people NOT love you!? ;)

Way to go Giulia! I'm proud of you! What Tone said, pat yourself on the back because a slap might hurt and leave a red hand print.

yay! someone finally realized what they had to do and did it!!!! Seriously, this is so good and you should be very proud!!!!! Good luck to you!