Brokenhearted and lost

[jmassie]

I need some major help! Here's my story. My husband walked out our daughter and me almost two months ago. He's hiding from us. His whole family is hiding him. This man is my world. I cant understand why he has done this. How can he just walk away from me after 16yrs of marriage. How can he abandon us like this. How do I get over this. This man has destroyed me mentally,emotionally and physically. Not to mention what this is doing to our 14 yr old daughter. I keep sending him emails (thats the only way I have to contact him) begging for answers, begging him to come home and fix our marriage. I get no reply or answers. All I get from his family is that he is done and for me to move on and leave them alone. How do I do this? How do I make it thru this?

[basilandthyme]

I'm so sorry for you and your daughter jmassie - I can't imagine the confusion you're going through. Was your marriage one of 'ups and downs" or were you completely unaware of any issues? Even then, if there were ups and downs, abandoning his daughter is abhorrent.

There's probably not much you can do except to start being proactive about the future stability of you and your daughter. Start with getting legal advice about child support and any other financial and legal issues which will arise. Also, find a support network or counsellor to help you and your daughter through this.

(((hugs))) to you

[Wakeup]

I need some major help! Here's my story. My husband walked out our daughter and me almost two months ago. He's hiding from us. His whole family is hiding him. This man is my world. I cant understand why he has done this. How can he just walk away from me after 16yrs of marriage. How can he abandon us like this. How do I get over this. This man has destroyed me mentally,emotionally and physically. Not to mention what this is doing to our 14 yr old daughter. I keep sending him emails (thats the only way I have to contact him) begging for answers, begging him to come home and fix our marriage. I get no reply or answers. All I get from his family is that he is done and for me to move on and leave them alone. How do I do this? How do I make it thru this?

What a crock of bull.

Call social services or your lawyer and get his wages guaransheed through court order. Surely you know where this man's family lives and where he works.

I'm sure once he is forced to pay for the financial support of his daughter he'll contact you pronto. Whether or not he wants to reconcile is another matter. Surely you're leaving out a whole lot of dysfunctional relating that has been going on for a long time for him to just give up.

So; what is the whole story? Tell us AFTER you've contacted a lawyer/SS and heard what it is they can do for you. Sorry if I'm not so empathetic but I find it hard to be so with people who do NOTHING to help themselves but simply come to a forum board to get their answers. If you've done anything to help you and your daughter survive financially and emotionally other then just come to forum boards to get answers (like get child support and psychological counselling for you and your daughter to help you cope) then I'll apologize for my stoic response now.