first time getting interested in someone, what should i do?

[hydra]

hello guys!!

I'm 20yo, and i'm wht u'd call a nerd, i'm really passionate about my studies, I have other hobbies, but it's very rare to find someone who i can share them with. rn i'm a university student, but i'm not big on parties and drinking, i always prefer getting home, watching things on my computer, reading books.....and i'm also not a big talker with ppl i'm not used to, but i'm way too talkative with my friends.

When it comes to relationships, i've never been into a real one, i've always seen relationships as too much headach and drama so i always avoided them, and preferred friendships. my only experience in dating, was when my best friend asked me out, and since he was someone special for me i wanted to try it out, but after 1 month, i started getting suffocated and i had to break up wih him.

This year i've moved out of my country, i did make new friends, but they r all of the same nationality as me, since they r the one i feel the most comfortable around. but i'm now interested in one of my professors, he's 30yo. and i just like everything about him, from his body to his gaze to his personality. So i'm kinda confused about wht i shld do, cz first of all it's the first time i'm interested in someone, and in all the 20years i've lived, all the love stories i've lived, it was the guy making the first step, and never the other way around, which means i'm clueless rigth now.

And one other thing that i fear, is the language and culture barrier, i don't speak their language very well, i can do everydays talk but i'm sur as hell won't be able to discuss politics with it. and for the culture, i'm after all a foreigner, for me it's not a problem, since i'm getting used to their customs but on his part it'll be kinda confusing.......

as u could see, so far i can only see how impossible it is to start something with him, and how it can only fail.

so what do u guys suggest me to do? shld i just give it up before my feelings get even more serious, or is there something i can do to make him notice me and my feelings?

[basilandthyme]

Your professor would be bound by rules preventing him from dating students. You could express interest when he's no longer your professor, but until then, he's off limits

Sorry.

[hydra]

thx for ur reply, but i don't think there's such rules in my university......there's probably some guidelines but i know it's not forbidden....

[basilandthyme]

Are there lots of professors and students dating openly?

[hydra]

Openly? well there's a girl and one prof who r dating, i don't know if the direction knows or if they told them....but a lot of ppl(i mean the whole class) knows about them and they didn't get into trouble till now.

[basilandthyme]

sorry, I really can't get past the ethics of a professor dating a student. Perhaps someone else can help you.