Romance (thoughtfulness - flowers etc)

[Dream_of_Waves]

Hello there,

I suppose I'm looking for a little advice...

I asked my boyfriend of three years whether it would kill him to bring me home flowers (for example) once in a blue moon, as an act of thoughtfulness, and he basically said yes it would kill him.

I have spoken to my boyfriend about this on many occasions, but he never seems to take much interest in my reasons for doing so? This upsets me greatly :/

[Dream_of_Waves]

Anyone?

I'm worried I'm with a man who doesn't appreciate me. I shed lots of tears over this. Normally relationships are somewhat romantic, and have some surprises, but I can't remember the last time I felt like a 'girlfriend' or the last time I was serenaded?

[topazlight]

Hi, Dream_of_Waves.

Is your boyfriend cheap or just isn't into romantic gestures at all? You'd think once or twice a year he'd step up and surprise you even if done solely because he knows the fact he won't upsets you and hurts you. If you feel unappreciated and you've told your partner this, then maybe it is time for a break, clean or mini.

[Dream_of_Waves]

Thanks for your input, topazlight.

I'm hoping I can get him to understand why this upsets me so before it gets to be a bit too much.

I'm not the kind of girl who has no interest in romance or eventually having a family with the man she loves... I do want those things.