Advise on a previous post

[Paul.com]

Hi I started a post at the beginning of this year and have a few updates and was hoping for of the great input and advice I revived last time.

http://www.loveforum.net/love-advice-forum/99391-why-is-she-like-this-and-what-can-i-do-about-it.html?highlight=

Since my was post I was done as was advised and kept professional with this girl and had no dealing with her outside of work and she also seemed to be accepting this up until last month.

At the end of March she began flirting again with me asking me if I wouldn't mind getting this or doing that, this I put a quick stop to replying that I was either busy or that she was perfectly
capable of doing that her self. I was a few days later I heard on the grape vine that she had had an argument with her bf and that they had said that this was to be there last chance at keeping
there relationship alive.

Now this weekend I was told by a mutual friend that she and her bf had had another bust up and that she had put it all over her fb profile how she hated lying and that she hated being stuck between
keep trying and why bother, then on Saturday she changed her status to single but by Sunday she had changed it back to in a relationship with her bf. my friend couldn't tell me any more.

What I want to ask is there a connection between her change of behaviour towards me and the turmoil in her current relation ship and how best I should handle it taking into account out history.

[Hooo!]

what do you want?

[Paul.com]

Jus advice on how to deal with these new development or am I jumping the gun

[TheEvilJester]

No, I think what Hooo meant was what do you want regarding this girl. In other words, do you want a relationship with her, do you want her to just leave you alone, etc?

If I remember from your previous post, you wanted her to stop bothering you because she was doing nothing but causing and spreading useless drama. So, if that is the case, and is still the case, then frankly I would say her recent activity shouldn't change your plan of action at all. Stick to remaining professional and nothing more and hope that she takes the hint. If things continue to escalate on her part, then deal with it in whatever way seems necessary, including filing a report with HR if you have to do so. But, again, hopefully it doesn't even have to come to that.

Frankly, whether or not her change of behavior towards you is related... who cares? Why does it even matter? I don't personally think it should change your attitude toward her any because she sounds like way too much drama to be worth your time anyway. I mean, that is up to you, though. If she actually DOES ultimately become single and, for whatever reason, you want to see if there could be something between you two, then go for it. I just personally don't think I would recommend that. Again, she sounds like too much drama already.... and that is without you two even being friends, much less anything more. You are essentially just co-workers at this point and she's already been a source of needless drama in your life.

Good luck to you in whatever you decide.

[Hooo!]

What do you want in regards to her? How exactly do you want your life to be?

[Paul.com]

To be honest evil jester has answered my question, as far as I'm concerned all I want is to keep things strictly on a work colleague basis I certainly don't want any sort of relationship outside of the work place with her for obvious reasons but like I said she doesn't seem to get this when she is told to back off say comes across as ok no problem I'm fine when that but a month later or a few days later it's like she's forgotten everything that's been said and gone on

[TheEvilJester]

Maybe she's like Drew Barrymore's character from 50 First Dates. LOL!

No, but seriously.... as many of us said before, I think the best thing you can do is ignore her as best you can, avoid her as much as you can, and otherwise just remain 100% business and nothing else around her. Like, obviously yet politely business and nothing more. If it ever gets to a point where she doesn't take the hint and it becomes enough of a problem, then as many of us suggested you maybe report it to HR or something along those lines. But, hopefully that does not become necessary. Though, considering she is obviously still up to the same BS I'm beginning to wonder if it may be in your best interests after all. You have to do what you think is right for your situation, though.